you already have two kids together and the child he has outside wedlock is 4weeks younger than our first child .
2006-06-19 04:05:40 · 25 answers · asked by minny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My honest answer, well I would be completly torn up about it.
I would be angry and would want an explanation, and a good one at that..
Then I guess I would make my next decision on how he acts and what he says..
This is a very very bad situation for everyone involved..
Good luck and go with your heart..
2006-06-19 04:10:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 12⤊ 3⤋
My EX-husband did almost the exact same thing, except his little boy out of wedlock was born 3 weeks after I had my second child. I tried therapy, I tried working things out, but eventally just kicked him to the curb. It's something you can't get over & if he is part of the child's life (like he should be) you will just see the child as an object that reminds you that you weren't good enough for him. Nobody should hate a child...
2006-06-19 18:04:47 · answer #2 · answered by hotchaser 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We no he cheated/ But if he was straight from the beginning , then this a problem here. How many other times he has lied to you . Really' no other explanation he could give me. No disrespect to the child. If he was a real man he would told you from day one. I do believe in forgiveness. What ever you come up with, make sure it is done in a lady fashion. BOL.
2006-06-19 11:12:56 · answer #3 · answered by Re 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take him for all he has got and if he don't have anything then just go and move on...that is HORRIBLE!! THat means that he was cheating on you and you are just now finding out ONLY BECAUSE HE HAD A BABY WITH HER!!! He would have never told you except he has a kid now. That is really sad, and I feel bad for ya. You should just go, hold your head up high knowing that it was you who was right and he is the one that cheated and brought all of this B S into the marriage in the first place.
2006-06-19 11:11:48 · answer #4 · answered by cutipi_1977 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends......if you can, leave him, if you can't, then carry on and not acknowledge the bastard child. Make sure he doesn't will part of his estate to the other family. You could divorce him, get a share of his property and estate (if he has any), get alimony. If you want to stay, then let him do the hiding game. His mistress and child will not be recognised by society and the mistress will never have him as her legal husband. It will really irk her no end if you hang on and refuse to leave.
2006-06-19 12:29:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First determine he is his biological son, I recently found out that a friend who was told he had a 30 year old son he never knew about and that a High School sweetheart was dieing from cancer and never told him that she had his child...they living in another state sent photos, and he looked just like my friend, their was no reason for her to lie...circumstances lead to believe it was possible and probable...they met a few times...but before he would include him in his will ( he has alot of assets $$), he needed a DNA verification...and it turned out not to be his biological son..so before things get outta hand ...make sure there is reason for further discussion.
2006-06-19 11:46:03 · answer #6 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh. I feel for you. I found out about two children about 15 yrs after we were married.
I was hurt, angry.
Nothing like your situation. So I can only imagine what your feeling. I dont know all the information. Were you married to him at the time? were you dating seriously and exclusively if you were not?
If he knew you were pregnant and she was at the same time, but you were not married and he married you, that may mean you meant more to him. Like I said, I dont know the situation, I'd need more information, but in all honesty, I'd feel betrayed, hurt, angry and I wouldnt trust him anymore.It just feels and seems wrong! I feel for you and your children. You've got a tough situation.
Good luck!
2006-06-19 11:21:14 · answer #7 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oops! wow what an awful situation, i guess i would ask for an explanation and once i heard his i would talk to her (she's more likely to tell the truth about the situation than he is, he'll be trying to make himself look as guilt free as possible) then you need to make a decision about whether you can deal with this or not, whether you think it will happen again then stay or leave depending on what you decide. good luck to you and i'm so sorry you are going through this!
2006-06-19 11:13:03 · answer #8 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well were you married when you got pregnant with your first child? I think I would have to have a long discussion with him about it, if it was something that happened 15 years ago it would be completely different than if it were 5.
2006-06-19 11:07:56 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume that since it is only 4 weeks younger than yours that you were mariied when the other woman conceived? I would so get a divorce. I would never tolerate my man stepping out on me like that. How long before he told you anyways?
2006-06-19 11:09:56 · answer #10 · answered by babygirl_k2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would mean he fathered this child while married to you? If that's the case then that would mean he cheated on you with another women. Cheating is cheating and an unforgivable act in my book. Good luck!
2006-06-19 11:08:46 · answer #11 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋