My boyfriend is amazing, however there are times when he is a complete *** like many other guys. And then i get pissed off and he feels sorry so he says all the sweetest things. I get weaker everytime he says sweet things so i eventually forgive him. What is the best way to not get weak like that?
2006-06-19 03:57:56 · 29 answers · asked by shaygirlie06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Kick him in the dic*, He won't be sweet anymore. and then say "Don't be such a dic*, or I'll kick you in them again!!" That's what I would do.
2006-06-19 04:01:13 · answer #1 · answered by 9:07.04.p.m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have gone through this and let me tell you that after 5 years of this I finally developed a backbone!!! My now Ex-man would be a complete jurk for absoutely no reason, and he would snap at me and say mean things all because he was in a bad mood. I would be mad he would feel bad and then say sweet things. I would forgive him and this cycle would start all over again. Then one day he pushed me, I got mad he felt bad and would say sorry and that he did not mean it, I would forgive him and the cycle went on. Eventually the hitting got more frequent and more violent and after a while he stopped saying sorry altogether, he would just hit me because he could and he knew I would forgive him. One day he hit me and I had enought, I ended up beating the mess out of him with a frying pan, and then I put him out of the house. Now I am not saying that this will happen to you but I do know that if he pisses you off because of something he did, don't let him off the hook so easy, make sure that he knows how it made you feel and how it hurt you, then if he really truly understands how you feel than forgive him, but if he does is again after that then I would rethink the relationship, someone who loves you should not continue to do things they know will hurt you.
2006-06-19 11:08:44 · answer #2 · answered by blueeyes05_1999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is an ***, you tell him so and he apologizes then that is a good thing. He did something, you stood up for yourself and he admitted he was wrong. Then you forgave him. I don't see a problem in that and I don't see weakness on your part.
How long do you expect to stay angry at him? At some point your choice is to forgive him or break up with him.
If he is physically hurting you - contact your local domestic abuse shelter NOW. They have the resources and can help you get out of this situation.
If you are really just looking for an excuse to break up because this is a repeating pattern, just tell him it's not working and move on. If your gut says this is bad, listen to your heart and just do it.
2006-06-19 11:04:58 · answer #3 · answered by Tamborine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are always going to like how your boyfriend is, or you wouldnt be with him in the first place. Yes of course, guys can be ***** most of the time, but they know how to use their charm. How old are you?...if you are still in your teen and early twenties, just live life to the fullest. You have too much to offer right now, and wasting it on a guy that can say sweet things to you, honey, you are messing out competely. Also, tell him how you feel, be straight forward. Good luck!
2006-06-19 11:04:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, i think that you should take the time and juz make that quik fone call to him, or even invite him ova to have a talk. You then should start to break it down easy, n then let'em knoe exactly how you feel. N if he trys to sweet talk you tell'em....no u need to stop, n take the time to listen to what i have to say to you, becuase i just cant deal with the fact that you are........ you go on from there. Then afta you lay that down n u might feel that u wanna break up with him for what eva reason that you may have....dont do it tooo sooon because ur going to regret it n feel bad n juz wonder y u did it...so juz let'em knoe exactly how u feel so this way u can get things off your chest.
Madd Luv
_-*Stephy*-_
2006-06-19 11:10:05 · answer #5 · answered by Stephy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every body has bad days just like you,me and every other human being on this planet even though he can be a a$$ at times I am sure you are no perfect angel no one is,so the next time he is acting like that sit him down and tell him "Honey I know we both can be difficult at times so when this happens we need to take time out for a couple of hours calm down relax and then talk about it like adults.Please try that before you make any harsh decisions.Good luck.
2006-06-19 11:04:59 · answer #6 · answered by apache672004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if the things he's sorry for is not of any importance, I think its ok to weaken when being given exuses. He must, at one point, be able to get to say "I'm sorry", right?
If he, on the other hand, is doing serious abusive or *** whatever, you should be careful accepting appologies all the time. I guess this is why you bring the subject here?
Remember learning is changing. If you learn something, you haven't really learned it before you take it and use it. So; if he does the same thing over and over again - and appologise over and over again - whats it worth? If he offends you over and over - and you accept appologies over and over - whats the point?
To get ahead - ask him how the two of you are supposed to go further if you are not being kinder to each other.
2006-06-19 10:59:34 · answer #7 · answered by Tones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN, tell him that you can't be taken for granted anymore and that sorry doesn't always get it. Make him work for it instead of always being so accepting of his apologies. The best way to get a guys attention is to be a ***** and be strong in what you are after in a man otherwise you will end up miserable with someone who takes you for granted all the time.
2006-06-19 11:03:36 · answer #8 · answered by cutipi_1977 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop making excuses for him. It wont mean a damn thing to you until you can decide that you're more valuable and deserve better treatment in the BEGINING, not after he's been an ***.
I dont know what he's doing that is making him as ***, but remember in a lot of cases men are just dumb. Theyre not naturally thoughtful, and they dont automatically know how to handle situations. You have to help him learn what you want.
If the situation is something like him checking out another girl while you're standing right there, explain to him WHILE HE"S DOING IT that you dont appreciate that, and if he loved you why would he want to make you feel shitty just so he can look at some other girls boobs, he's got yours doesnt he?
If he's putting you down in front of others, being verbally or physically abusive, stop it now. You dont put up with that crap. The first time he tries something like that its his own fault for being a pig, every time after that its your own fault for putting up with it.
Whatever it is, sit him down and explain things to him, dont walk away mad, dont yell, dont scream, dont say things you dont mean. Tell him straight up, "you made me feel like i wasnt loved, and that scares me because i dont want to be unimportant to you. You're the world to me, and it hurts me when you treat me this way." Tell him you dont want apologies after the fact, you want him to love you enough to not do it in the first place. You want to be first in his thoughts.
You have to be honest with yourself, and with him. He's allowed to know what you want, how you feel, when you're scared, when you're hurt. And he's allowed to decide if he wants to be that important to you, or if he just wants some fling. Dont keep a guy around because it makes you happy, you'll only end up miserable in the end. You're far more vaulable than that, and you deserve happiness.
Men arent perfect, niether are women, but learning how to get along isnt impossible.
2006-06-19 11:07:26 · answer #9 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they guy makes a mistake he apologizes.. what more do you want??
I'll tell you one thing.. when you leave him and go with another the other will teach you a lesson that you'll never forget, he will treat you like crap and you will dread the day you left the first one..
And you won't be able to do anything about the second guy because you will be so in-love with him just like this guy is so in-love with you and apologizes when he mucks up..
Wishing you the best of luck,
Garry
2006-06-19 11:05:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends somewhat on what mean things he says to make you mad. Having a relationship is like that sometimes. If you want to get rid of him then you need to tell him it's over.
If you love him, you need to sit down and have a serious talk about how the things he does makes you feel. You have to do it is such a way that he doesn't feel like you are accusing him of anything (even though, in a way, you are).
Try to say something like, "When you say (whatever it is he says to make you upset) I feel like you don't care for me." Something like that. If you tell him that he's a jerk and you don't like it, all that will happen is you will end up in fight.
Good Luck, Girl.
2006-06-19 11:02:17 · answer #11 · answered by Evilest_Wendy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋