Being yourself..?

Question

What does that really mean? Is it never OK to conform to different situations and adapt? Or, does that mean you're not being true to yourself. The reason I'm asking this is because I find myself subconsciously changing the way I talk depending on my environment. Around my black friends and family, I tend to talk with more slang. Around my white friends, I tend to talk more proper and say things like "awesome" or "sweet" or "bummer". It seems like i'm a bunch of different people. Some days i'm ghetto. Other days i'm prim and proper. Other days I'm rocker chic and it goes on and on.

Does this mean I haven't discovered who I really am? I'd like to think that I just have many different facets to me. What do you think?

Answer 1

You sound fine. It is normal to adapt your behaviour slightly depending on the situation you are in. For example, would you act the same way in a job interview as you would chilling with friends?

Everybody can change when they're with different people, it's only a bad thing if you're constantly lying to people or really actively pretending to be something you're not...

You shouldn't feel like you're putting on an act.

Answer 2

Well i agree with most people when they say that there is a different way of speaking to different people. Like elderly, parents, job interview and so on; but i truly think you haven't found who you are yet because if you did then you wouldn't feel the need to change you speech when talkin to your white friends or the black ones. It seems to me you are not comfortable in your own skin because your act "ghetto" around your black friends but not your white ones, why do you feel the need to change the way you talk and act if these people are your friends? Its like you're tryin to "fit in" without being yourself, but to conform to what society thinks you should act around these different color skin "friends".

Answer 3

I think you are a multi faceted personality. Everyone has to adapt to a certain degree. You cannot go into a job interview acting ghetto, nor do you or should you ever address a senior citizen as you would one of your friends your own age.

Answer 4

It is perfectly natural to adapt to our surroundings, including speech. At least it is not extreme, getto/rich snob.
If it makes you feel uncomfortable, and you really notice it, try a little change. Think about the way you speak that makes you feel the most comfortable. Once you determine what this is, start using it, slowly, with each of these groups. Get a feel for their reaction, I bet they do not even notice. If they do, maybe they should look at themselves as to why they cannot accept people for who they are..?

Answer 5

We are always many people with many masks. Fitting into our environment is a natural human skill. It does not make anyone shallow or undecided. It can make them respectful of who they are with and addressing. Following your heart will be the best lesson learned in life.

Answer 6

Everyone has different facets - mostly bad ones.....Our problem is that we copy the IDIOTS on TV...Rappers, etc. instead of cultivating a higher society in ourselves.

Answer 7

being yourself is not having to think about what you say, wear, or how you act, it is what comes naturally and eventhough you act differently with different sets of friends or your family you are still being yourself as long as you are not having to think about what you say or do, you shouldnt have to plan out your comments or outfit

Answer 8

i think that u haven't found the real you. i think that in order for u to be yourself to need to accept who u are and love urself. i think u are sometimes afraid to act like urself because people tend to critized you.

Answer 9

thats what life is all about, you have to adapt to your enviorment,