I have been separated for a year, and am about to be divorced in August....i have 2 sons who I love dearly, I work full time 12 hrs each day as a corrections officer, and go to school at night full time, I met this lady there, I never had the courage to go up and talk to her...she is very intelligent, and looks like a 10 to me....I finally did talk to you 2 months ago, and I have not regretted it, I want to spend my time with her but my family is always having drama....they also do not like light skinned women....and she is very light....but I want them to like her because I want to have a life with her my divorce is through, but I dont want her to feel like I am using her....my boys like her alot...and i like her daughter, we are trying to become a family, but my family is making it difficult, i love her and I love my family...what should i do....
2006-06-19 03:51:20 · 4 answers · asked by rayrayray1359 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
am i inlove with her or lusting for her....
2006-06-19 04:22:26 · update #1
i mean i think of her all day, and I can't wait to see her when I get a chance to be with her....
2006-06-19 04:23:14 · update #2
There comes a time where you just have to tell the family to piss off. This is probably one of those times. Drama loving families will do whatever they can to start crap, and if they don't like someone you date they'll most likely let you and her know it. You just can't play their game. You might give them a chance to be nice to your new girlfriend. If they aren't at least polite to her, tell them you won't be spending time with them anymore until they can grow up. When it comes down to it, it's important that YOU are happy. Not your family. I know everybody wants their family to be happy. But seriously, you can only please one person, and that's yourself. If it'd make you happy to be with this woman, then by all means do it. Don't allow your family to screw up your good times with her. Good luck. :)
2006-06-19 04:01:27 · answer #1 · answered by dulcetpurr 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Family is every thing, but if you get along with her and you get married, wouldn't you be starting your own family, and that is everything. If she makes you happy and your kids like her I can't see the problem. If you family does not like her, to f-ing bad. If they love you they will accept her bottom line. GO FOR IT. You deserve to be happy.
2006-06-19 10:59:48 · answer #2 · answered by Andy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Light skinned women?Whoaa~~What is this? The 50's? Wake up,honey! OK.IMPULSE is something to be aware of:The situation that feels good,may not be the best thing in the long run.I'm sorry,but I won't say:"Yeah,sure go ahead!"..'cause it may not be the best thing for you,your kids and your "light skinned" crush.
2006-06-19 10:59:24 · answer #3 · answered by Liquid Melancholy Dreams 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait till you divorce is final then talk and connect with her. Do not do it while you are still married though.
2006-06-19 11:46:26 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋