What do you do when your boyfriend is clinically depressed? How do you cope with it?

Answer 1

you can't help anyone unless they want to be helped. do what ever makes him smile or happy. dont' sit around watching tv.

Answer 2

Assuming that he's been diagnosed by a professional as clinically depressed and seeing a therapist and taking his medication if prescribed, your boyfriend will benefit from your loving support. Listen with empathy, not pity. It is very important that you don't fall into the trap of feeling sorry for him, which will only serve to keep him in his depression. Remember you can't fix the problem. This is something he needs to do. If you're finding matters to hard to cope with, you may want to speak to a counselor. Good luck!

Answer 3

When I graduated from high school I had a boyfriend that was depressed and I was depressed to. We ended up feeding off of each others depression and just spiraled downward. It was quite a nightmare.

You can't solve your boyfriend's problems for him. You can listen, hold his hand and be supportive, but ultimately he needs to make the changes in his life that are necessary and you can't make those for him.

When someone is clinically depressed they really do need therapy and perhaps medication. People tend to be resistant to antidressants at first, but the truth is they do help you to cope with the mood swings and bring yourself to a place where you can really make the changes that are necessary to pull out of your depression. At the very least, a good therapist will help your boyfriend identify the causes for his depression and come up with a strategy to deal with those causes.

If your boyfriend is unwilling to talk to his doctor or see a therapist, you need to ask yourself if you can commit to this relationship if he won't get the help he needs.

You love your boyfriend and you want to the help him, but you also have a responsibility to yourself. Is your own mental and physical wellbeing worth sacrificing to try and protect his?

It is hard to leave someone that is depressed - but sometimes that is also the kick in the pants that someone needs to get help.

If you choose to leave and it makes his depression worse - that isn't your fault because he was unwilling to get the help he needs to make the relationship work. A lot of this responsibility is on him. His depression is not your fault and it is not on your shoulders.

If you choose to stay - be prepared for a very long and painful ordeal. But don't take all of the responsibility on your shoulders. It doesn't belong on you and you can't let him bring you down with him. You can love him and support him but you are not responsible for his actions and you can't let his happiness rest soley on you.

Good luck. I wish both of you the best.

Answer 4

Clinical depression is something I'm very familiar with. I've had some bouts of depression myself, and so has my father. The best advice I can give you is to encourage your boyfriend to get help, if he hasn't already. And also, to give him a lot of support. Don't give up on him if he's too "boring" to be around. Encourage him to go out and do things with you, and not to stay at home moping around. And if he talks about killing himself, TAKE IT SERIOUSLY AND CONVINCE HIM TO GET HOSPITALIZED.

Answer 5

You should ask him to see a therapist. There's not much you can do other than comfort him. I suggest that he get medical help...they can get him into counseling or put him on meds. It will take someone with a degree to actually diagnose him and to help him. Just be supportive.

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Answer 6

Is he on medications? If yes and it has been over a month, then it's not working and he needs a different one or a stronger dosage. Clinically depressed is from chemical imbalance. If it gets too deep for you, get out. but it's nice that you're there for him, but don't let it runs your life.

Answer 7

you ask him how long he has been like this and tell him it is important that you talk to me to let me know how your feeling and take him to the doctor it might be a chemical imbalance that is making him feel this way and for you to cope with it is to make sure that you try to stay positive that he will be better and you will be fine and don't let anyone discourage you and tell you to break up with him cause he might be the right one for you

Answer 8

Pray for him. Is he getting help? Does he want to get help if he's not? There's not much you can do but love and support him and lots and lots of prayer. I've been through it.....it was a very hard relationship......if your boyfriend is wiling to get help and let you be there for him, please do....if he continually pushes you away and is resistant to help, there's nothing you can do. You'll just have to step back and pray for him only.

Answer 9

Personally, I'd leave. There is nothing you can do to fix the problem, he has to fix it. The last thing he needs is a girlfriend adding more stress on top of the stress he already has. As you can see, it is affecting you, so it is the best thing for both of you to leave this relationship and get yourselves better.

Answer 10

you have to be really supportive and understanding all the time.try not to hurt him as this will make things worst..be understanding enough to go through this.stay beside him all thye time and encourage him to seek professional help. don't listen to those saying dump him and look for another..nah! they're mean.