Is it really possible for someone to be "bi"??

Question

I am not trying to be an ***, I just want to know the truth, because I raised thinking that you can be one way or the otther, not in between!!

Answer 1

Have you guys ever heard of the Kinsey scale I am a 3 on that scale so I am in the middle I am attracted to both sexes and it is both a blessing and a curse. I can find pleasure in the mainstream but at the same time I am discriminated against by both sides of the fence. I am constantly being told that bisexual is just a stop on the way to gayville, and that I am undecided. Well you know what I didn't decide to be this way it is not a choice. I am the way god made me. I desire my wife and yet I also desire men. Why would I chose to be this way. Or if I was just gay why would I be able to find such joy in sex with my wife. I love her and chose her yet still desire to be with a man. That part of me is unfulfilled because I made a vow to be true to my wife. I hope that just one of you people that read this understands how it feels to be denied and questioned by both gay and straights. I am sorry didn't mean to get on a soap box but as a gay person it makes you guys angry when straights ask why you chose to be gay or says that being gay is wrong. And that god didn't make you gay. It feels the same way when a gay person questions if we are truly bisexual.

Yenko I love your response I wish I could talk to you.

Answer 2

Are you asking this for yourself? Are you struggling with it inside. It sounds like it.

Look, in truth...no guy would choose to be "bi." It is a constant war inside of self. Being attracted to both is sometimes a "curse" almost. It is a war inside and sometimes one side wins over the other, unless you choose sides and battle against the other.

What guy in his right mind would choose to be "bi" and have the feelings rush through him. It is hard to explain to a person that is not in any way bi. You see a woman and some are attractive. You might even marry and love your wife. Then...there are guys that actually turn you on. You feel the passion rush through your body, when you see certain guys. You feel a change in you and about you. You would actually forget everthing about your wife, gf, or women for that "guy" that just made your entire being shake.

You see guys that you can never have. You see guys that you would go off with and never come back. For that minute, you would give up everthing for that attraction, that desire, that wanting inside of you.

You think that guys would choose this? NEVER

What to do about it, if you are "bi." Accept yourself. Stop fighting and accept who you are, then the cravings are not as bad. You can handle it better. I do not say that it goes away, it just gets easier on your mind and body and soul, when you accept YOU.

Does this make sense? I hope so.

Answer 3

Well, firstly, I want to say thanks for not just jumping to conclusions and actually taking the time to ask an honest question about this.

I consider myself to be bisexual, so YES, I think it definately IS possible. However, my biggest pet-peeve is girls or women that claim to be bi just to "be cool" or to turn a guy on! My definition of bisexual is; If you are equally attracted to both men and women and have relationships with both men and women and are just as open to falling in love with either a man or a woman, then you're probably bi. If you make out with a girl once in a while, to get a guy off, then you're probably a liar and a poser!

I HATE those girls who make out with another chick at a party or something, or invite another girl into a 3sum and then go around claiming to be bi!!

(Sorry, that's my little rant over now. lol)

so, yes, I DO think it's possible. Of course it is, I'm living proof.

Answer 4

It definetely is possible for someone to be bisexual. Unfortunately, society only caters for homosexual or heterosexuals. This sad fact is what fuels misconceptions about bisexuals not existing, or being in a state of confusion.

I personally believe that people are attracted to some of the following:

1. Gender
2. Physical appearance (fat/slim)
3. Physical features (skin/eye/hair colour)
4. Personality
5. Political/Financial power

Some people claim that looks are everything, whilst others say its personality that counts. I believe that gender is a concept as relative as the other categories. Hence, a heterosexual or homosexual is going to place gender above everything else, whilst a bisexual may not even have gender on their list (or consider it more of a practicality/feature).

I've probably missed out categories on the list above, but I'm sure you understand what I mean!!

Answer 5

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Answer 6

I am really leaning towards the way people are being a sexual preference. Not really that they are gay. Just my opinion of course. If you think about it, isn't that what attracts you? The way some one looks or what they say or do. Well couldn't that be of either gender? I don't know, just a thought....

Answer 7

People are born right-handed or left-handed. But no one is 100% either way. Some people are ambidextrous. Same with sexual orientation: people are born heterosexual or homosexual, but no one is really 100% either way. Some are bisexual.

Anyway, all fetuses have the same body equipment in order to become a male or female.

Answer 8

Hi, my name is Michelle and I am bi. The person I am dating is bi. We are bi in different ways - I don't see gender as important and my partner varies between being sexually attracted to men and women, but is willing to commit to me.

Answer 9

As time goes by we've learned people can "be" anything they think they want to be. As far as sexuality is concerned a professor once told my class.....if you open a Sears catalog to almost any page there will be someone who's turned on by something on that page. :-) So "bi" is totally believable.

Answer 10

very possible. You can like both. I was always attracted to male and female. Even before i was old enough to know better and i grew up in the smallest town in the united states. Trust me,,,it's possible.