Ive been livin w/ a friend&her family for over 2 yrs. @ the beginning things were fine. But lately its been awful. I have became resentful and hate to be there. When 1st moved in, i was pregnant&needed a place to stay. I ended up staying w/ them longer than expected. Ive grown close to her kids&so have my son to them. I am tired feeling like I am being told how to raise my son. I have to be home by 7 if I am out w/ my son and I have to be home 11:30 if I am out w/ friends. She has control issue. Yesterday, I told her I want to move out b/c I am not happy there. She asked me what she can do to make it better. I told her, its not her job to tell me when my son goes to bed. She would call me& ask when i was coming home, if i came home like @ 7:10, she would be upset. Bein there, I feel like I have to rush home if I am out or I think "man, shes gonna be mad@me 4 something. She told me if i move she would feel that she wasnt good enuff&have failed. I would take the only world my son knows.
2006-06-19 03:12:37 · 3 answers · asked by cmd 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i think she's doing all this becos u live under her roof, its not that bad, u can move out if u want but just assure her that its not like she failed but u have to live on ur own one day.
2006-06-19 03:20:53 · answer #1 · answered by pOOhPhAT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right. She can't make the rules for your son. An agreed negotiation would have been a better idea.
I know what I am like with schedules, and I know it can be a problem for those around me, But it is just that MY PROBLEM, and while my friends try not to change plans last minute it still can happen. Sounds like your friend is the same. She has to confront her own issues. Be supportive and aim for a negotiation about scheduling or move out. Either way you are being made to feel undervalued and we parents feel that enough anyway.
2006-06-19 10:31:36 · answer #2 · answered by kllr.queen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would Saty until you can get a house or apartment. once you have that move. Its not like you or your son are ever going to see this family again. If ya'll are liveing in the same area they all will go to school together, so its not the only world he knows.
2006-06-19 10:17:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋