why is it so hard to break up with a man that you know is no good?

Answer 1

something like this happen to me. I meet some one casually and fall in love at first sigh. I didn't know who was he and I love him in an unconditional way. Than he told me day by day that he was marry, have one child of 2 years, was in prison for 4 years and also I saw him taking heroine. He always was running and keeping arms, I was afraid of him, although I loved him, it was so hard to break up with him. Once I told him "Is enough", I told him by phone. Than I saw him again, and I cry for him, it was so hard althoug I knew he wasn't good for me. He wants to get divorce and to live with me and her little daughter, I was only 21 years old, he was 29. No I couldn't do it.
I cried so much but I broke up with him

Answer 2

Because he is "familar" to you, meaning you are use to him being there, and the thought of moving on seems a little scary, right now, BUT, once you do it, you are gonna wonder what took you so long, and you will decover a whole new world, that's been waiting for you. There is life out there, that you can be a part of, I mean a good life, one that gives, not just take, you know what I mean. There is a saying that goes a little bit like this, "Procrastination, eventually makes fools of us all", in other words, You know what needs to be done, just be confident in yourself and move forward, you can do this. Sista Girl, you deserve the best, and it's time for you to start believing that for yourself. Time to enjoy life*

Answer 3

Depends on your self-esteem. Do you like the excitement of him doing things that are anti-social? Is it really excitement or have you accepted that you are not good enough to rise above the stupid men you have met? If you were every sexually abused as a young woman by someone in your family, your self-esteem may have been damaged. If so, serious counselling is the best
way to move forward in your life. Just the fact that you recognize that he is no good indicates that you have a higher standard than he does, or probably ever will have. Best of luck, move on.

Answer 4

Because even if he is "no good", you don't like the idea of being alone. You think being alone is worse than being with this "no good" guy, which is usually part of what they "make" you think, so they don't have to worry about you leaving as much. It is also why they usually pick people with lower self esteem who are "victims" and are less likely to fight back or leave.

Answer 5

because we are creatures of habit, once we make a person a part of our lives and that makes it difficult for us to move on. also sometimes we have fears of being alone so we cling on to whomever we can. even if the person is bad for us. for some reason we feel we will not find anyone else. believe me if he is that bad you will eventually be done with him. the time will come.

Answer 6

Because you think no one else will like you the way he does. Break up with him and get a life, dear.

Answer 7

sometime because you have probly let him do whatever for so long and except it and and just have been hurting your self but you have to let go in order to move on no matter how bad it hurt because now i am in a relationship now wher it's geting so stressful and i love her a lot but ineed to get out or one or both of us might end up hurting each other

Answer 8

Because even though you know he's no good, you still enjoy his company and just like having someone to go out with and talk to.

Answer 9

So , you are the real problem here. Can't you just sit down and discuss it with yourself? Get everybody out of the conversation but you-no interference. Settle it, and move on.

Answer 10

because they find ways to keep you there I've been there i didn't leave until i had a daughter and didn't want her growing up thinking it was okay to have a man that was no good mine was abuse though yours may be different like no job or lazy or something like that