If you dont trust any person you'll never give anyone a chance thereby cutting off a potential source of support. Dont judge men based on the relationships you had. But rather, exercise caution and discretion learnt from past relationships when choosing a person. As long as you think it out and play it out well, you'll be fine i'm sure. Dont worry. Good luck.
2006-06-19 02:58:26
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answered by Anonymous
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Well sorry you have been unlucky in love. But if you take each relationship and examine it there were things wrong that made each fail, there had to be, else they would not have failed, analyze it sometime, the reasons do not matter , just that you see there were things wrong with each, Then realize that you are looking for the perfect relationship and to experience or find that you have to go through quite a few tries. Think of it as going to the shoe store and having to try on 10 pairs of shoes before one fits. Relationships are a lot like shoes, although they are all bright shiny and pretty , some fit and some don't.
2006-06-19 03:06:31
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answered by Pete 5
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Wether you want to believe that theres no one there for you there are people all around you that are there for you on different levels. your friends and family are not the only ones that are there for you through the bad times. What about that person that says good morning no matter what kind of day your having, or maybe a guy that pick up something after you drop it. A co worker that asks you to lunch. All these people are there for you making your day a little easier to deal with. Failed relationships are just expiriences that help you grow for a more in depth relationship with a new person. Maybe at the beginning of your dating life your were a bit gullible or naive, and a higher power decided that you needed a reality check in trusting every guy. Now you have your door closed and your protection held high. Everything happened for a reason. So instead of asking yourself "Why did i lose him?" as yourself "What was his true purpose in my life?"
2006-06-19 03:03:50
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answered by Momo 1
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We all make ourselves believe some things that are not reality - just because we want them. You haven't given a lot of information, so I'm just guessing here, but oftentimes the reason relationships fail is because we expect too much from them too soon. You mention that you made yourself believe that "someone is there for you" and so I surmise that means that you feel you need someone in your life upon whom you can rely. And that you have been let down a few times.
Well, you do have someone in your life upon whom you can rely: you. You are the only one you can count on through thick and thin - the rest: your family, your friends and perhaps a partner - all that is gravy. You have to be the person in your life that gets you through life and only when you are will you be able to be in a place where you can also be with someone else. If you are looking for a man to take you through life, then you are sending out these "damsel in distress" signals - signals to which men will respond at the outset, but when it comes to longterm partnerships, the basis won't be there to carry you two through. They will come to save the damsel and then ride their steed off into the sunset.....not stay and raise the babies.
You need to build your life as if you will be alone the rest of your life - build your life where you can take care of everything that comes along and find the things that make you happy. When you do that, --- when you are competent and happy, you will attract other competent and happy people into your life - including men. And it is with these men....the ones who come into your life, not looking to save you, but looking to be with you because you are a good, happy person, ...it is with these (kinds of) men you can build good, enduring, trusting relationships.
2006-06-19 03:04:56
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answered by two 4
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Take a close look at ur failed relationships. Is there anything that you could have possibly done better from your side? Maybe the belief itself is causing the same thing to happen again and again. Maybe u beieve that all men are unfaithful. Maybe you think you deserve it. Try a different approach and be optimistic.
2006-06-19 03:05:01
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answered by Anonymous
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Don't trust anyone 'till he earns your trust and gives you reasons to trust him. Some men are far better than others. Those 3 must have treated you really badly for you to feel that way. I confess that I sometimes feel that about women. We have to keep trying cuz we need to be loved and to love somebody. Learn from past mistakes. Make different mistakes at least next times.
2006-06-19 03:00:20
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answered by kurticus1024 7
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Man are not the same. When the right person comes, you will know. so get up and dust off the disppointment, life is not all abt the three men that disspointment you. Get up and u will find thru love. Gud luck!!
2006-06-19 03:24:06
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answered by Angel M 2
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Faith in yourself and most importantly in God. Heartache is painful and I think it just helps us appreciate the good things in life. Trust is something that is earned I'm sure when the right man comes along you will know it.
2006-06-19 02:59:45
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answered by shae 6
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no not all guys are the same... yah everybody is destined to be with someone else maybe you havent find the real one yet.. your failures are just a trail/ test to yourself whether you are strong enough in any aspects of life to begin. learn what is to be learned do not repeat same mistakes again the better you climb 1 step ladder everytime you failed. just wait for the right time that will come.:)
trust me .... we are crossing same path and now im very very very happily married.
2006-06-19 03:07:32
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answered by vijaya 2
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i just had my heart handed to me this weekend. sux. but "suposedly" all men are different...so each one deserves a fair shake. sure its hard to trust, but you have to give them the chance...until they prove otherwise. also, learn from the crappy relationships and let them make you stronger. but girls like us probably dont need to get any stronger. i just try to think that these things happen just bc something better is comming our way. try to stay positive..i will do the same. take care
2006-06-19 03:08:26
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answered by Anonymous
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