I have been with my boyfriend for 11 years and it's been rough at times but lately it's been very difficult, i dont like the things he likes, he doesnt like the things i like, when we try and do things together, we end up arguing and fighting about something. I love him very much and tried to be interested in what he likes, but it's hard when he doesnt put in the effort...do i give up or keep trying against my will? i do love him very much, thats why i try, or is this petty? HELP!!!
2006-06-19 02:50:18 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If it has been 11 years, there must be something good about the relationship... focus on that.
2006-06-19 02:54:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Shannl,
If you two can not keep things going together then there is no point in staying together. I agree you may be loving him too much that you can't leave him, but remember that you cant even stay together with him. May be you two are just good as friends who are very close to each other, but not successfull as life partners. Try to look at this angle and see if life works out for you. Be good friends with him, but not as life partners, at least for some time and give both of you a little air to breath and relax back and think for a while where things are going wrong, and where you can improve or whether you need to think it over about the relation.
Keep your mind cool and try to open new horizons to explore new options and not just him.
Good luck......
2006-06-19 03:02:36 · answer #2 · answered by boom9849 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on find some one that shares the same interest as you.I can say from experience that the fighting and arguing will only get worst and life is to short to be with some one that all you do is fight its not healthy,good luck on what ever you decide hope you find peace happiness and love all in one package that would be so awesome..
2006-06-19 02:59:18 · answer #3 · answered by apache672004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you used to have similar interests? Have you grown apart? I would just find another friend to do things with me that I like to do. I would probably quit spending as much time with him. After a while, he will realize that he is losing you, perhaps it will be the kick in the butt he needs to start trying again. Just a suggestion.
2006-06-19 02:54:18 · answer #4 · answered by bored in Michigan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your life too doll. When the bad outweigh the good, perhaps it's time to move on... do you want more outa your life?... Are you prepared to deal with the consequences. Decide what you want for you (not from a relationship) , and then think how he fits in...
2006-06-19 02:56:02 · answer #5 · answered by Chiron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds harsh but in this world u have2do wats BEST 4 U and U only cuz if u dont no1 will
2006-06-19 02:54:12 · answer #6 · answered by shhh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to quit. Life is short.
2006-06-19 02:53:22 · answer #7 · answered by devid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
petty just hang out me and my boyfriend don't have a damn thing in common but that don't stop us i learn things for him and he learns from me
2006-06-19 02:53:44 · answer #8 · answered by buzy_bee_21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and find something you want to try together, you have your space, he has his space and then you have your couple space. if this dosn't work mayby it is time to move on
2006-06-19 02:54:38 · answer #9 · answered by ozi_nut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes two to make a relationship
2006-06-19 02:52:33 · answer #10 · answered by JULIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋