Is marriage a sign of two peoples love for each other?

Question

i.e. can't you still want to spend your life with someone but without getting married? Doesn't love only matter?

I have a wonderful gf whom I love dearly, but the thought of marriage especially since we are from different backgrounds seems so daunting. It would be easier not to get married. It doesn't mean I love her any less.

Answer 1

Well marriage is a legal and even more proof that you want that person in your life forever and it is the biggest step to take in a committed relationship. Love matters but shacking up is not the same as getting married. Your family and the law will still see the both of you as two single people living together nothing else.

Answer 2

Gettin married is quite possibly the worst thing 2 people can ever do. Tell me why u would need a binding contract 2 tell some1 u love them. All it does is change everything the second u get married, u may not know it at the time but its already happened. Just ask any1 who is married if they like it i bet atleast 85% of them say no. Also if and when u get divorced the only person 2 benefit from this the women and the lawyers. The man always gets the sh*t end of the stick. Someone explain 2 me why a women deserves my pension i am a nyc correction officer and walk around with murders, child molesters gang members and all other kinds of scum all day, my ex has never seen the inside of a jail cell and yet according 2 the court system she gets half thats bullshit.
NEVER GET MARRIED TRUST ME
Im not saying dont fall in love move in together and spend the rest of ur life with some1 just NEVER SIGN THAT CONTRACT I REPEAT NEVER GET MARRIED

Answer 3

Most people believe that marriage is the ultimate commitment, but I don't think that they even believe that. Marriage is no longer the ultimate commitment. The divorce rate is over 50% and I am sure that it is climbing. I do believe that only love matters and that you can spend your life with someone with out getting married. Me and my husband have been together for 13 years and we are not married, nor do I want to be. For me it is more important that I know that my husband loves me with everything in him and that he does not want to be with anyone else than for him to ask me to marry him to prove that. There is not a man alive on this earth who could make me leave my husband and I believe for my husband there is no woman. That is a better feeling than any wedding or marriage certificate could ever give to me. I know that what we have is rare, but maybe if people put less emphasis on marriage and more on building a solid relationship that cannot be destroyed by anyone or anything, people would not have to feel so conflicted about this subject.

Answer 4

These days, marriage is a sign that you have kids together. I've been with my fiance for 5 years and we love each other like crazy, and are in no hurry to get married. We are committed to each other and have two kids together, but marriage is a lifetime, and it's not going anywhere, so we are in no hurry to get married, it will happen after I finish school next year, though.

I don't see any problem with spending your life with someone and not getting married, though. Look at Goldie Hawn and her hubby, they've been together twenty-something years and don't have any plans to marry. They say things are good the way they are, so why mess that up? Good for them.

These days, it's probably best not to get married, divorce rate is so high these days. However, I will be getting married probably within 2 years or so, just because I want the wedding thing.

Answer 5

Marriage is a sign of two people's love for each other but also a sign of their commitment to one another, to be there when things are going great and when things are going wrong. It's a way of letting people know that your heart and your body are serious about being with this person through all of life's challenges, that you want to be with that person as you age, that the person can always count on your support and love, that you are no longer a single person but a part of a team.

Answer 6

Marriage is a legal and social (and sometimes religious) contract. In and of itself is has nothing to do with love. Entering into a marriage contract gives you specific legal rights and responsibilities, that's all. From a religious standpoint marriage is a prerequisite to having sex and children *within the rules of the particular religion* -- sex or children outside of marriage is forbidden by most religions.
There have been millions of marriages over the years contracted for reasons of property, kinship, political alliances, royal inheritence, etc. -- none of which had anything to do with love. Even in many countries still today, marriages are arranged between two people who have never even met, let alone had a chance to "fall in love." Love leading to marriage is a western, modern idea. For much of the rest of history and the world, marriage is simply a contract entered into that has certain legal and social advantages, that's all.

Answer 7

To me marriage is the legal part of showing love for each other. I believe you can live with some one forever, and never married, (like me for example) but when you or your spose dies, if you are not legally married then taking over each others things and insurance will be a mess. Because you are not legally married it won't go to you but blood family. But you should never marry until you are both ready in your heart. If you can live with each other for 18 years with out marriage then i say go for it

Answer 8

Love does matter, but sometimes I think people get married because of their particular situations. I married for love - I wouldn't want it any other way. But I do know some people who are getting married and I think their reasons are not out of love.

Answer 9

no one said u have to get married, but marriage is like a proof of your love to one other, u love a person so much the u want to send the rest of your life with them. marriage is just another way of telling someone else how much u love them

Answer 10

judging from most of the questions here, it's probably base on the heat of the moment and lust!! It's like a game to some of this people!! marriage is more than just love at first sight..it;s a commitment of sticking together through thick and thin....it's an intention to form a new family unit....