love we know is only part of life if u feel about someone very strongly and want to spend rest of life with her/him what then if ur parents r not ready for that
2006-06-19 02:42:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Visual Arts ➔ Other - Visual Arts
Sometimes your parents see something that you don't because love is blind.
2006-06-19 08:56:47 · answer #1 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are sooo many factors involved in this... that we cannot be fully aware of the situation to give completely appropriate feedback..
however, we can try to give suggestions and such based on what was said.
In my opinion, the decision to be with someone/marry someone is mostly between the two partners in the relationship. Family feelings do matter, although you will be spending your life with your spouse... not living with your parents, or theirs. (In most cases)
Anyway, if you honestly believe this person is the one you wish to marry... and the only thing holding you back is the family's hesitation... talk to them, find out the reasons for the hesitation.
If they are truly valid reasons, perhaps you could delay the marriage for an amount of time and have a longer engagement.
Overall, just make the decision that feels right in your heart.
2006-06-19 09:47:50 · answer #2 · answered by Heather D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Absolutely. Every INDIVIDUAL in this world has a right to be happy, and marrying someone you love is a very good start in the journey of happiness.
It happens sometimes, that your parents or some other person has reservations about the person you want to marry, and while that should concern you to some extent, it should at the end of the day, be their own business, because you see, when you fail to marry your love, they are happy, but you are not... FOR LIFE. When you marry someone you love, you are happy FOR LIFE (hopefully), and they are unhappy for sometime. Usually, they turn around to love and respect your choice, and if they do not, it is their choice, not yours, to be unhappy about it.
Please talk to them to understand it is your choice, your life, your decision. You respect their views, but cannot be bound by it.
2006-06-19 10:45:02 · answer #3 · answered by SmartAlec 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, here's some questions for you. Are your parent's the ones marrying this person? Do they have just cause to not want you to? Are you truly in love or just in lust? As a parent I want the best for my kids and will admit that when they are all old enough to marry I, depite my giving nature, will probably be judgemental about those they chose to marry at first because I want them to be truly happy. Try to sit them down and talk to them about their concerns and then make your feelings clear to them and the air will probably clear at least a bit for you.
Toni
2006-06-19 09:48:09 · answer #4 · answered by blackhillsmommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of factors to consider in making this decision like: What are your families feelings and why do they feel this way? Ask them what their problem is with this person, and try to talk it out. Also, what is your families tradition on marriage, and what are theirs/your values on family and marriage. Because if you marry someone that is not welcome at your families home, life can be difficult, especially when it comes to holidays, party's, and many other family functions. What you really need to figure out is, is he/she worth loosing touch with your parents and/or entire family, and talk to your family about the whole situation.
2006-06-19 13:56:52 · answer #5 · answered by vegaschic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage isn't compulsory. You don't have to get married - then again you don't have to do as your parents want you to do - although I would advise not upsetting the folks. You could live together with the one you love or have a long engagement. You should just follow your heart and gut instincts on something like this.
2006-06-19 09:46:54 · answer #6 · answered by Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Im Beckah you asked if it was necessary to marry someone that you love that would hurt your family members, well the way I see it is that if you are over the age of 18 and you are in love with that special someone then do as your heart desires, cause they cant tell you who to love and marry right. Anyway if they dont like her/him then they dont have to be around you or them... Listen to what your heart says and go with it. Good Luck my friend
2006-06-19 09:52:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do it. Just have a talk with ur parents and explain your deepest thoughts and let them know you love this person and are going to marry them no matter what they say, but its their chioce to support you or not. If they dont want to support you then marry them anyway. Its not everyday that u get to marry the love of your life...............
2006-06-19 09:47:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is up to you and not your parents. If you believe in marriage, and love this person more than anyone else, then you should make the decision that is right for you. Be sensitive to your parents' feelings and concerns, but don't let them decide for you.
2006-06-19 11:14:22 · answer #9 · answered by sptfyre 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, you somehow mixed up the category...
Hey, and it's your life. If you really love someone, it's the family's choice how they cope with the situation. I'm quite sure they will soon accept the situation.
Many lovers have experienced this problem in all times...
2006-06-19 09:46:04 · answer #10 · answered by swissnick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its really your choice.
Listen to what your parents say and consider it carefully. If you are 10. your parents are probably 90% right about it. If you are 50 , your parents opinion no longers matters that much.
2006-06-19 10:27:42 · answer #11 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋