I have three children, i am 27, i am getting married in sep and only the last child is his, (16 months old) i dont want any more children and only had the last one cause he wanted it and new he really wanted kids, dont get me wrong i love her to bits and wouldnt change it for the world, he wants more and i dont, im getting sterelised next month and dont know if i should or not as it is a drastic measure, what do you think?
2006-06-19 02:28:14 · 12 answers · asked by jojo78 5 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I think that you should get sterlized for the simple fact that you are almost to the age where you should be enjoying raising your children-not having them. Tell him how much you look forward to "you and him" time when the kids grow up and get out of the house and you both are still at an age to where you can enjoy life like take cruises or buy vacation homes or something. You are going to have to tell him you are deeply sorry that you've prior children and this is just something your partner is going to have to deal with. Definately encourage their honest feelings to be out in the open and make sure you go into this together-not seperated by feelings. Try some quick counseling or even reading a book together about it......good luck!
2006-06-19 02:37:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I have 2 children to my husband, due to a illness and a very complcated birth my dr supported me when I was 21 to get sterelised. The kids are now 13 and 11, I never regreted it until last year my Husband feels the same. I cant get a reversal on nhs because get this Im still with my Husband can you belive it? If I had met new man and left my husband then maybe!! Its going to cost nearly £3000 if we go private! Please think it through you never know you and your husband may want to be parents again! good luck.
2006-06-19 03:15:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same feelings when my wife had our 4th child. Should I or should I not. She wanted more 6 to be exact. I was happy with what we had. Turned out her doctor said she should not have any more after our youngest.
This is the most important decision you can make. Under no circumstances do you make this decision alone. Make sure your Husband to be knows your feelings and agrees with them. This could cause more problems than what it is worth if you don't tell him.
One other thing. Just because your having your tubes tied doesn't mean you can't get pregnant. The tubes can grow back together, granted it may take 10 years but they can. Even that doesn't preclude a tubal pregnancy. My wife had one years after her tubes were tied. She was pregnant for about 14 weeks and then lost the baby. Just wanted you to know this.
2006-06-19 02:41:23 · answer #3 · answered by mikeae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a lot easier for him to get 'the snip' and a lot easier to reverse if you have a change of heart. All I will say is that at 27 you still have a lot of fertile years left in you and you could easily change your mind. I have two children and always said 'that's it' but now I'm divorced and I wonder what would happen if I met someone else who wanted a child..... also I am more broody now than I was back then as my children don't take up as much of my time as they did when they were babies
2006-06-19 03:00:00 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, make the decision wisely dear, you are still young...just think if you meet someone whom you really fall in love and want to seal the love you have for him, but then you cannot make a family for the both of you, what will happen then? this is not an easy choice... i wanted to be to get a tubal ligation done but then i did not make it just yet... make sure you really want it or else i would prefer you to use birth control ... rather... that way.. you are on the safe side coz you are still young and you can never predict what happens next
2006-06-19 02:41:59 · answer #5 · answered by miaiskitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't sure, wait. I waited until I was 35. At that time the doctors refused to give me birth control pills. Since it is final, why do it until you are entirely sure? And a marriage means BOTH of you are entirely sure.
As for who it is easiest for, that is not the only concern. If I had only one child, I would expect the person with 3 to do it.
2006-06-19 02:41:55 · answer #6 · answered by moondrop000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First discuss it with your mate. I almost did it at 30 and I'm glad I didn't I ended up having my second child at 33. But if you feel that 3 is enough go for it.
2006-06-19 02:41:19 · answer #7 · answered by Tortured Soul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say at 27, you have a huge burden with 3 kids to take care of and if you don't want them, don't have them. If it were me, I'd get it done but you'll have to tell him you're doing it. Don't be sneaky about it.
2006-06-19 02:31:49 · answer #8 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is good for you to decide you don't want to have more, but if you are getting married he needs to know and understand you do not want any more. why sterilize, just take it all out, or you can just get it tied... that way if you ever decide to change your mind you can get it reversed
2006-06-19 02:40:17 · answer #9 · answered by Kimzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a bg op for you. He should get the snip instead.
2006-06-19 03:53:20 · answer #10 · answered by montenapoleone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋