seems lately she has regressed, allways asking me what to do...what to wear... is this ok?? is that ok?? when shopping, she has to ask me iif it is ok to buy things we need,,, its like shes become a little kid again. waiting for my decisions and approval.
i didnt marry her to control her or decide for her, but lately she is
"affraid" to make her own decisions... shes 40, im 42, no kids,
well except for her new attitude...and its REALLY frustrating. now when we get up in the morning she'll sit there and wait for me to tell her something to do,or wait like a dog does at your feet....
its really annoying.
2006-06-19 02:23:51 · 23 answers · asked by t-boy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hey dont be so panic....there must be some reason why she is behaving that way...are you a nagging hubby( for a change...hahaha)...well it happens when person keeps complaiing about everything ..and when he is never happy with things....do you complain about the food she makes?? do you complement her if she prepares good food for her? do you try to prove how she is wrong in bargaining? may be because of some reason she must have lost her confidence...
just talk to her and ask her..everything will be ok....you know what when we cross 60 we again start behaving like kids.....may be she has started behaving little early...so handle it patiently and as both of you dont have kid...you got to care for each other...
so best luck!!!
2006-06-19 02:33:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do understand your frustration but you must also take your wife's feelings into consideration. First you need to search for the source of where these emotional questions she's having are coming from. Is she going through early menopause? Has something tragic happened in your relationship recently? Regardless, she has developed a strong source of insecurities and looks to you for reassurance. Note, this is not a healthy thing but you CAN NOT belittle her for it either. The best thing for you to do is try to talk to your wife (like a friend), remember how you use to do when u first met? Rekindle the conversation. Also, look into some marital counseling, that is so healthy for couples whether they are going through major or minor problems. Whatever you do, don't be mean to your wife because she is going through these changes, that will only make things worse and harder for the both of you....Lastly, I don't know what your religious beliefs are but I do know this....A family that prays together can get through ANYTHING!!!!
2006-06-19 02:31:33 · answer #2 · answered by Desire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have this same situation from time to time too. Exactly the same ages too. Maybe she needs therapy to deal with childhood traumas. If she is uncomfortable with the idea, she really probably needs it. I would say to just make the important life decisions yourself when she is being 12. The ones that will matter in 5 years. Otherwise, encourage her to be and think for herself as much as you can. Be aware that you and I might be decisive people and our partners might be more indecisive. Maybe when she acts like a 12 year old, treat her like a 12 year old.
2006-06-19 02:29:34 · answer #3 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that something might have happened in your wife's life that has made her make this emotional and mental turn in her life. I'm not sure that talking to her about it would help (although it couldn't hurt to try), but I think that she might need some counseling. Usually when people start displaying behavior that is completely out of their normal range, SOMETHING was the catalyst. THIS DID NOT come from no where. If you do decide to talk to her, try to be gentle (I know that you're frustrated). Good Luck.
2006-06-19 02:29:13 · answer #4 · answered by writeroftheyear1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She seems to really need your approval right now. Take inventory of how you have treated her. Have you disapproved of her opinion, decisions or actions, regularly and repeatedly? And If you have in no way contributed to this behavior, help her through this with guidance and patience. She may need to just sit on the bed for awhile until she finds her OWN mind and will again. I truly believe in cause and effect... something has "caused" her to act this way. Help her get to the bottom of it and you will both be very happy campers.
2006-06-19 02:34:04 · answer #5 · answered by Worshiper44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are only two possible options. First, you become a monster. She get scared of you. Or second, she has dementia, an illness that affects the brain and memory, and makes her gradually lose the ability to think and behave normally. In this case, she needs help from physicians.
2006-06-19 02:31:26 · answer #6 · answered by devid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she wants a dominant and submissive relationship. Ask her if she is curious of that lifestyle, note CURIOUS that is the best way to approach it less accusatory. Or she has ran the household for so long she wants to sit back and be taken care of it is a cry for attention even if it is negative
2006-06-19 03:03:04 · answer #7 · answered by Best answer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stab in the dark here, dude, but it sounds like she may want to initiate a submissive/dominant style of relationship. Some women yern to be subordinate and be told what to so 24/7. This manifests itself in the BDSM lifestyle but is not limited to it.
2006-06-19 02:29:59 · answer #8 · answered by Add Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Early-onset Altzhiemers?
2006-06-19 02:27:17 · answer #9 · answered by Nefeco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be going through menopause . Be patient and love her where she is at. Just lovingly give her answers and guidance when she asks for it. Also have her go to a doctor and get checked too. She may have a chemical imbalance or something else going on that you do not know about.
2006-06-19 04:32:00 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋