My son is having social problems. During school he has plenty of kids to talk to and has been invited a few to social functions here and there. This summer though, no one has invited him to do anything. Worse yet, when he initiated outings, two "friends" , (who were good friends at one time), stood him up separately. He is crushed. I know that I need to let him work it out, but I feel so hurt for him. More info. is that my son is one of the younger kids in his class and never sticks with any activity that he has tried, He is being treated for his ADHD symptoms and he also has dyslexic traits which causes him to get his information mixed up frequently. In spite of this, he does earn fairly decent grades. Believe me, we have provided numerous opportunities for him to get involved , but he never has stuck with one! I think this has definitely affected his social development, but I don't know what to do at this point. Any advice or experience? Thanks.
2006-06-19 02:21:20 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He is going into his first year of high school.
2006-06-19 02:21:38 · update #1
As a parent you can treat your child as if your kid is a mature adult with responsilbity...respect him like you do any adult..that will help him build up his confidence...you said he sometimes mixes up information..you can get him something like mega memory or a memory program by Harry Lorraine...it will definitely help him..let him join some kind of craft classes or piano classess....these additional skills can change entire perspective how your son sees himself....
good luck....
2006-06-19 02:28:48 · answer #1 · answered by Pinky Patel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I know this may sound mean but he has to work it out on his own. I had similar problems all the way through high school and into college. I just graduated from college and am still suffering from social anxiety disorder which caused me similar problems as it is causing your son.
I do have some advice though, first, he needs to try to stick with something for a while so that he can get to know the people more personally (and they can get to know him). I also think that maybe you could initiate some type of activity that he and his friends can do. Also if his social problems get out of hand maybe he can talk to some type of therapist so that he can figure out what he can do and what will allow him to feel more confident.
I hope this helps, Good Luck.
2006-06-19 02:29:47 · answer #2 · answered by HK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know why young people are so cruel but they are try to find something that he can be involved in summer camp,activities just fun things to take his mind off what these supposed friends did to him i had a son that had adhd growing up and he was pretty much of a loner and he had very few friends he was the most wonderful guy you could meet he is 23 now married recently and is successful at his job and in the last few years i have talked to kids that went to grade school and up with him and talked about how smart he was but they werent friends with him but i kept him involved in boyscouts,computors,and he learned how to fly airplanes at a young age too just give him something to do for himself and he will be a better person for it i know it makes you angry and sad to see him being treated like this but unfortunately we all werent brought into this world to be popular or have alot of friends and im one of them good luck to you and your son
2006-06-19 03:04:19 · answer #3 · answered by readyhead42@yahoo.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should send him to an overnight camp or something?? um that would kinda force him to bond with his peers.
2006-06-19 02:26:50 · answer #4 · answered by *~MimiAngel~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋