Why do parents allow their teenagers to bring friends home while they are not home?

Question

Their teenagers are under 16.

Answer 1

maybe they dont know or maybe they think that its just one or two friends not boyfriends or girlfriends or maybe they just dont care

Answer 2

This is one of those questions that the answer can start with 'it depends'. It may be fine for some families and not others. If a responsible teen wanted to have a classmate over after school to finish an assignment that would be fine (but ideally both sets of parents should know beforehand). In most cases teenagers should NOT bring friends home, so many things can go wrong! Unfortunately many parents are too lenient with their children thinking this will make their children happier when what they really need are boundaries. Perhaps parents should be forced to go to parenting classes as their children reach different milestones ie. 1-bringing baby home, 2-dealing with toddlers, 3-your child is becoming independent, 4-dealing with teens, 5-the empty nest syndrome, what it means for you.
Many parents could benefit from parenting classes and they need to learn that setting boundaries and maintaining discipine in their home are good things.

Answer 3

By the time someone is a teenage they should be responsible enough to know the difference from right and wrong. Therefore, by allowing them to bring friends home the teens gain a sense of freedom and also responsibility because the teen has to accord for any wrong behavior while the parents were gone. This teaches the teen to be responsible for him/herself and others while doing in hopefully the safety of their own home.

Answer 4

I think some parents are lacking in good judgement. I came home once and found my daughter sleeping on the couch w/ her 16 year old boyfriend under a blanket. I told him and her to get the %*@# off the couch and act respectable in my house. I don't know where she got the idea she could do that. Not allowed!!!!

Answer 5

My parents do not allow. Only with permission would I be able to.

But I guess some parents are more liberal and want their kids to
1. have fun
2. learn to take responsibilities (take care of their friends, clear up when they mess up.. etc)

Also, they probably trust their kids enough to do that, or they might have put their trust in the wrong place.

Answer 6

My daughters are 14 and 16, and yes I allow them to have friends over when I'm not there.

I trust them, and they know who can be in the house and who can't.

It's better that I allow this and know who is there, then be a dictator and tell them no one is allowed and have them sneak in god only knows who.

Besides showing your children that you trust them goes a long way toward their future decision making skills.

Give them responsibility and they learn responsibility.

Answer 7

parent find that giving their children freedom in their own home can prove to be a great thing. Think about it would you rather have your tenn with his buddies at a party or at home where you know theres not as many thins to get into trouble with?

Answer 8

My son will be 16 in July. We let him have certain friends over. I think it depends on your child and your childs friends. There are friends that can not be there when we are not. My son is good and does not give us problems like most teens, he should be rewarded for that.

Answer 9

does not matter whether they allow or not. if their teenagers want to enjoy. they will and find the place too.
educate them as they learn from you as well what you do. family culture depends. so no need to mistrust teenager.

Answer 10

there is nothign wrong qith inviting freinds over as long as the are supervised by adults

Answer 11

my parents would never let me do that. and im almost 16