My friend who is the only girl in her family wants to live a lonely life, she does not want to get married. I dont know which planet she is from. can u plz tell how i can motivate her towards getting married.
I asked what are the merits of staying lonely and she says she just wants to stay lonely, she enjoys that life. I just want her to get married and live a happy life. plz advice on importance of getting married.
2006-06-19 02:01:41 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You cant force people to do things because you want them to, they have to want it themself. Leave her to her own life and get on with yours. If you keep pushing her she wont be your friend for long.
2006-06-19 03:52:08 · answer #1 · answered by bevsthe1 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she is happy being single, maybe that's the life laid out for her. Not everyone is meant to get married. The Man with the master plan may have some things in store for her that will be better handled if she isn't married with a family. Just be a good friend and support whatever decision she makes. And to answer the last part of the question, marriage is important to two people who love each other and plan to spend the rest of their lives together, it isn't pertinent to live a happy life.
2006-06-19 09:06:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyones different. Maybe she is just not ready to get married. You may think she is lonely, but if she is not unhappy with the way she lives, then you shouldn't be either. You should support her in all the decisions that she makes, you don't have to be married to be happy, the divorce rate is getting higher and higher. When she is ready, she is ready, you cant force someone to get married, then she will never be happy. Let her do her thing, the time will come. Don't rush it.
2006-06-19 09:07:36 · answer #3 · answered by assytee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say just because you are alone doesn't necessarily mean you are lonely. She may still have a full life. There is also another scenario. Maybe she is fighting with her sexuality. Maybe she likes girls and is afraid to admit it because of the way lesbians or gays get treated or looked upon. Or the way her family would feel. So for that said she would rather be alone instead of coming out. Which I feel is sad. Everyone should feel free to be happy with who they truly are.
2006-06-19 09:23:48 · answer #4 · answered by bahayea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but I don't think getting married is for everyone. She may just be in a good place in her life where all she feels she needs is her friends and family. you can't push someone into the idea of marriage if they don't want it. If the right person comes along she may change her mind if it feels right to her. I myself love being married and am very happy with it, but again its not for everyone.
2006-06-19 09:09:32 · answer #5 · answered by dafreek7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think getting married will make her happy....some people are content not marrying and being able to do what they want...and did she say she wants to be lonely.... if so I would be more worried about her state of mind...not fixing her up with a man...Please talk with her more ...not about marriage ...just to see what she is feeling and going through
2006-06-19 09:14:33 · answer #6 · answered by trudgala2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I think u should respect her decision not to get married. I feel the same way ( at the moment) i might change my mind if i meet someone who i think cud make me happy. No two people are the same. You don't say whether u are married or not, if u r ..good for u. I'm single right now and am loving it.
2006-06-19 09:23:54 · answer #7 · answered by amanda k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so interested in her getting married? I am a strong believer in marriage, but it is her own choice. If she feels she is happy and satisified with her life they way it is now, then leave her be. Your job as her friend is to be supportive no matter what decision she makes.
2006-06-19 09:14:28 · answer #8 · answered by ninamcguinness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how much you try to convince her to get married it has to be what she wants. Sometimes it is best to just let that person decide what is best for herself. You do not want to be in a position to be blamed if she does get married and it doesn't work out the way you hoped!!!!
2006-06-19 09:58:32 · answer #9 · answered by babygirl_2_Day 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage are not for everyone..some people enjoy the solitude of life. They might be alone but they are not lonely....it's her life and her choice as a friend you support her regardless of her decison. what's good for you might not be good for her. Besides never say never in life. Who knows down the road she might change her mind. Again that's her decision to make.....
2006-06-19 10:15:55 · answer #10 · answered by sstooc2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think marriage is such a great answer? Do you understand how many people get divorced? Many married people are unhappy and wish they were still single. Many people get married only because THEY FEEL PRESSURED TO DO SO which usually leads to disaster.
2006-06-19 10:05:46 · answer #11 · answered by ungirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋