WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 14 YEARS,HAVE 3 KIDS 5,9,11 WHO ARE SO IMPORTANT TO ME AND A NICE HOUSE AND LIFE UNTILL MY WIFE SUDDENLY WANTED ASEPARATION/DIVORCE .I AM SHELL SHOCKED AND AM NOT FUNCTIONING PROPERLY WHAT SHOULD I BE DOING TO SAVE MY+ MY KIDS FAMILY HOME AND HOW CAN I GET HER TO MOOVE OUT AS I FEEL SHE HAS GONE A BIT CRAZY SHE HAS BEEN IRRATIONAL,ANGRY, SUICIDAL WITH ACOUPLE OF OTHER MOODS THROWN IN AS WELL.IM TRYING TO SPEND A LOT OF QUALITY TIME WITH THE KIDS AND SHE REALLY RESENTS THAT.SHE HAS JUST TURNED 40 AND I DONT KNOW IF THIS IS HORMONAL -SHE IS ALSO ON ANTI DEPRESSANTS. WHAT SHOULD I DO ?
2006-06-19 01:43:53 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get a lawyer now!
2006-06-19 01:45:24 · answer #1 · answered by sparkles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her bluff. If she is suffering from depression, you and the kids may be contributing factors. In the spirit of fair play, let's say that the depression has her a bit loopy, it just may, have you taken any interest in learning about depression? It may work in your best interests to do some research so that you know how to counter it and you may even get the kids in on it so that they do not end up abused from it.
Then, after being armed with amunition on how to react to a depressive or manic personality, request that you go into couple counseling, because your marriage means more to you than all the rubies in the world.
Remind her of your marriage vows. If you have not sought a higher being, now would be the time to do so. It may be that something you are doing is making her feel more bizare. Kids can be very honest, perhaps they are also contributing to her pain. 1) Research the disease, 2) Take an honest look at how you and the kids may be contributing to her pain, 3) Seek help through couple counseling and/or get grounded with a higher being to implement values into your marriage that may have previously been missing. - It's cheaper to keep her.
2006-06-19 01:54:40 · answer #2 · answered by gravelgertiesgems 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why all the TDs for Clumsical, they are very much correct. The spay/neuter crowd loves to tout the magical properties of neutering. It will not cure your problem. This is a behavior problem not a hormone problem. As someone else mentioned, this is NOT protection, this is ownership. The dog is possessive over the children. It is not a desirable behavior in a pet. Consider what will happen if the children are playing with friends and the dog decides it doesn't like the behavior. I agree with the person who suggested a vet trip to rule out medical issue. If there is not a medic issue, find a good trainer. In the meantime crating at bed is the way to go. Or you can choose to return the dog. Add Chetco had not answered the last time I read the answers. Once again they have proven why they are tc. Agree 100% This dog needs to learn you and your family are in charge not himm.
2016-03-15 09:23:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suicidal is the KEY...
Get several people to agree that she is that way.
Get a lawyer just in case.
Get evidence that what you say is true, but get it fast.
Forget the Money..
Concentrate on the SAFETY of the KIDS.... Often THEY become victims when the MOM is that way. If Everyone sees that you are sincere about the saftey of the kids, then Everyone else will fall on your side and your worries will be over.
NOW, once the Kids are secure, then concentrate on getting your wife some HELP.
If you have proof of the irrational suicidal part, you can get her checked in to a stress center of some sorts for a couple of weeks or so.
It may be hormaonal, it may be chemical. (either drugs, alchohol, or chemical imbalance).
Make sure you are allowed Full access to speak to the doctors about her and see her records. (you may need this info in court if it comes to that).
Bottom line, protect the kids, and get your wife help.
Screw the money.
Also, Get yourself and the KIDS some help from a good professional Family councilor. This will help you to Function Properly.
2006-06-19 01:46:48 · answer #4 · answered by Answerman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself, you aren't functioning properly and maybe your wife is feeling the same way. There isn't much GOOD advice that someone can give you on here specially with the little info you provided. All I can say is that the best thing for the children would be to have BOTH of their parents. Don't tell them that their mother is going crazy. Have you suggested marriage counseling? If that is not an option, I would say to sit with your wife and evaluate the situation. Tell her you are worried about her having the kids and saying she's going to kill herself. The last thing the children need is to find their mother's body. If she's serious about that then you definitely need the kids and she needs professional help. Don't make this a competition with your wife. Good luck.
2006-06-19 01:51:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a divorce. See what she wants when it comes to custody of the children. If it is not agreeable to you, you'll have to get a good divorce attorney and fight it out in court. If you get physical custody - even if it's most but not all of the time - the court will favor you staying in the house, for the sake of continuity and home familiarity of the kids. As for her equity in the house and your other assets, there is not much you can do. You will most probably have to split everything in half, including reimbursing her for her share of the house. That was just info from a lawyer who went through a divorce after a long marriage and with children. Just let me tell you, non-judgmentally, there are twp sides to each story.
2006-06-19 01:50:28 · answer #6 · answered by browneyedgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband can give you advice on the asset part. But the what to do with the crazy part. I would start documenting things that she does. It could be hormonal.. We women do do that, I kinda lost my mind last year and I am now 38. But I didn't go nuts, well not to much anyway, I just didn't think I was in ove with my husband any more, and I wasn't thinking right. So I don't know.
2006-06-19 01:48:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, what you descibe sounds alot like symptoms to watch for when someone is on anti-depresants and this new behaviour can be a sign of an adverse reaction to them. Call your wifes doctor and tell them what is going on. You may save her and your childrens mothers life. I think you should be her husband and get her some help. I know it's hard, what you feel, but try.
2006-06-19 04:51:46 · answer #8 · answered by Carp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with a lawyer about an FLP, if your wealth. Family limited parthership.
2006-06-19 07:45:42 · answer #9 · answered by antihero1776 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire the best lawyer money can buy, but only after you have exhausted all avenues to save the marriage (ex: marriage counseling). Good luck!!
2006-06-19 01:47:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋