we talked with a marriage counselor. that didn't work. i have not gained weight. i tried doing kinkly things. that didn't work. there is no other woman. he's not gay. said he's just not interested anymore. said he could do without it. i figure that's his choice...not mine.
2006-06-19 01:33:31 · 27 answers · asked by Cynamin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he has no problem"getting it up". he is not stressed out on the job. we have no financial woes. home life is calm. he just doesn't want it. do i stop having sex because he wants to stop having sex?
2006-06-19 03:44:10 · update #1
YOU ARE IN A COMITTED MARRIAGE FOR BETTER OR WORSE!!! If u don't want to be with him bc of that or want to go astray sexualy DIVORCE HIM! Cheating is NEVER the answer! Shame on u!!!!!!!! U make women look bad.
2006-06-19 01:37:03 · answer #1 · answered by ♪♫jessy♫♪ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay, Girl,
I feel what you saying. My husband and I have a similar issue. I think that men have this funky way of shying away from us. Have you tried talking to him about issues that he may be facing that may not be related to sex? Do you guys have financial problems. Sometimes when a man is stressed out about things that threaten the security of his family, like feeling that he can't provide for you, he sometimes feels that making love to his wife isn't the most important thing that he can do for her. He is so busy focusing on how to bring the finances together that he pulls away from the important things in the marriage. Give him some time and then talk to him about whether he wants the marriage anymore. If he does, try to make it work, if not leave or ask him to if you can afford it. Don't cheat, it opens up a whole new can of worms.
2006-06-19 09:16:43 · answer #2 · answered by mrschloerichardson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is his choice and I feel sorry for you. Marriage isn't only about sex, of course (in fact it's really quite a small part). If you look elsewhere you run the risk of losing your marriage and that is often painful and expensive.
It depends how long you have been married, how old you are, if there are any children, how much store you put by the promises you made when you married, whether you love him or he loves you ... there are so many variables.
There are two reasons why he doesn't want sex. Either he is sick or he has another woman.
The choice is up to you, though.
2006-06-19 08:40:25 · answer #3 · answered by pica_septima 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of things he didn't "SAY"....like, I love you and "what can I do to make this marriage work". Honey, something is up that he's not sharing with you. What man in his right mind doesn't want sex? And you are right, it's his choice. Do yourself a favor and dump the guy. What are you holding on for? If it's money, the money will come to you when you need it. He has it made and you are miserable. Get out of the marriage while you can cause it's going to go from bad to worse. Don't lower yourself to his level. Move out, or get him out, move on before starting an affair.
2006-06-19 08:40:54 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he needs to see a doctor, for that don't sound like a man. I know alots of men, but never have seen one that did not want to have sex. Maybe you should when yall go to bed just have you some toys doing your things maybe this will help him feel something, and then maybe he will join in the fun. Want hurt to try. And then if this don't work , then no I think that you should just get out of his life, and do your thing. Because doing something outside of your marriage, could get someone hurt or killed.
2006-06-19 14:50:36 · answer #5 · answered by buttersweetgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very interesting, as I go through the same thing. It is not like you want to or mean to look outside, but as you said - it is not your choice. The thing that makes this difficult is it is not your choice, but it IS your body and you ARE entitled to pleasure. You are only human and have needs. I understand this situation VERY WELL. I feel for you. Good luck.
Tony
2006-06-19 08:57:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two possible reasons one is medication he may be taking an anti-depressant without you knowing or he just don't get the excitement out of it anymore mention bringing in a female/male partner knowingly not cheating and you will be surprised it will either pep him up or allow you what you need to be satisfied
2006-06-19 10:17:13 · answer #7 · answered by Best answer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hubby went thru a stage when he wasn't interested. So I started masturbating. Right there next to him. He couldn't stand not being a part of it and joined in. Got him back to doing what I wanted to.
Or just buy a toy and tell him that you have your vibrator and you don't need him for than nomore and he will get mad that he can be replaced by a bit of plastic and some AA batteries.
Good luck
2006-06-19 09:42:24 · answer #8 · answered by jaelyn1976 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have exhausted all avenues, which it sounds like you have, you may want to seriously think about ending the marriage. Having an affair is only a temporary fix to a larger problem. Good luck.
2006-06-19 08:37:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, it is his choice and not yours....go right ahead and do what you want. If nothing else just the thought of you out looking for some may make him a bit more interested. Best wishes
2006-06-19 08:36:00 · answer #10 · answered by colorist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he need to see a doctor see if there a reason and try one time with counselor then inform him on what youre going to do also dont go out of your marriage bc trust is the main ingredient in love its only fair good luck the joker
2006-06-19 09:03:47 · answer #11 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋