PLEASE say YES?

Question

I love my family.My husband is very loving and we have a cute daughter.But my husband is very moneyminded.He always thinks of money money and money.He likes the smell of money.He has at times passed a very rude staement during our conversation that MONEY is everything and nothing above that.He has many times hurted my feelings (for so much he is in love with money) by praising money all the time..I try and tell him to be grounded.What should you advise please say "yes " that you understand my feelings!!

Answer 1

I understand you very well, because my darling is too obsesed in money, he loves me, want to marry me, but he can't do it before having a lot of money. I don't understand him

Answer 2

Actually, i do understand what you're experiencing and feeling at the moment. There is in fact, no denying that money can be very powerful and it may very well be the driving force for a lot of people to keep working hard... Money can bring you just about every tangible thing you long for. But what about the intangibles? No.

what you should do is try to talk to your husband. His love for money can be the thing that could destroy your relationship with each other, your marriage. So you should sit down with him and talk things out. Maybe he just wants you and your daughter to live a great life; maybe he wants to give his family everything and he only sees money as the only way to make you guys happy. You should really tell him how you feel about his opinion.

In cases like these, you should also try counseling. Psychologists are a really great help to situations and problems like these. Trust me.

Good luck! :)

Answer 3

I do definetly understand your feelings. I would feel very hurt also. I mean, you're his wife and you're not more important than his money? First, talk to him about it. Tell him that you feel hurt. Show him that although money IS what pays the bills, that there are so many instances in which you don't need money. Go for a walk, go to the park, something like that. If he won't go, take your daughter. Let him know that you two are having fun, without spending money. (I'm assuming he's one of those that pays attention to every dime spent.) If he doesn't listen, just start to ignore him when he talks about money. Or you could ask him to not talk about money (at the dinner table or even at any time at all). If you have a job, you could set up your own account and stuff, so he wouldn't know what you make and stuff, so maybe he wouldn't talk about it as much?

Answer 4

First of all, when a person lusts after money, or any other thing, it is difficult for those around him, particularly his spouse, to make him understand that money is not everything. It is like a teenager who thinks he/she is so deeply in love that they would put everything else after the one they think they love. So, dont try to talk him over regarding money - he will totally disregard you.

Second, if you keep focussing on his habit, then those around you, say your kids or relatives will begin to feel uncomfortable with both of you around. If you ignore his boasting about money, by simply moving away from the conversation, it will be better for you. I say this because HE WILL NOT CHANGE.

Third, you need to get smart with him. People who love money and flaunt their feelings about it, are the ones who lose it all very quickly at some stage when it is least expected. You be wise, take as much money as you can from him and save it for that rainy day. If ever you need to teach him something, you might be able to do it if such a time comes (God forbid).

Its not just enough for you to hear the word 'yes', that people understand. It is important for you to understand how to deal with your situation. Good luck.

Answer 5

i understand u
if u love him truley be sure that he want to secure a comfortable life for u and ur daughter.but try to tell him that he souldnot talk about money all the time, there r many other sweet things u can talk about.&tell him he hurts u by talking about money all the time.

Answer 6

My father chose money over family
i hated him and i still hate him forever
warn ur husband, if u dont love family before money, u will lose the most important thing of all

Answer 7

"yes" I understand u...... let him know and always remind him that money isn't everything.... Because if something was to happen to u'r daughter(hopefuly not) No amount of money in the world would be able to save her, Only GOD..... and also Money can't buy u love, maybe sex but not Love....... He needs to stop being materialistic...... because everything get old and breaks.....

Answer 8

Well maybe your Husband feels that Whatever he is doing is for the benefit of his Family........i.e u and your Daughter.................May be he feels that he not that much finacially secure so that he can take care of you the way he feels like is the best............and also just fulfill ur demands.....Just be positive minded......don't be unhappy................Try and make a conversation wid ur Husband.............Talk helps a lot...........May God Bless You wid Your Family

Answer 9

I understand what you're saying, he seems a little obsessed...a little too obsessed...ask him has the money ever loved him back

Answer 10

yes, i do understand your feelings. i would feel upset too at him for having his priorities messed up! i don't know what else to do but talk to him...i hope it works out well for you. tell him that if money is so important to him to keep it to himself. one t hing you don't need is to hear it day in and day out.