i am 13 and she is 27.i respect her lots,in class and anywhere.i am a female and so is she.i just got feelings for her.she gave me lots of presents and protects me in school and gave me free tutors.it makes me love her and our relationship closer.we were like sisters.she tells me her problems and i tell her mine.we help each other but she is only a teacher.i talk about her lots to my frens.they think that i am a les.i just love her but i don't think they know how much i love her.i blush everytime i see her.she of course say hi.and i scord for every exam paper of her subject.i got top for every paper!am i a les or just that i love her as a teacher?
2006-06-19 01:11:21 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Charianne, the first poster I think got it right -- your teacher is a mother figure to you.
(What's your relationship to your mom, btw? Do you have a mom? The time you normally spend with your teacher is the sort of thing most girls do with their moms, if they are around. And the sort of problems you say you're having makes me think your mom is not around much, even if you do see her.)
Of course you love this woman. She spends time with you, she talks to you and confides in you. She listens to and values what you have to say. She makes you feel worthwhile and acceptable. She encourages you.
Don't let yourself get confused by your friends or by your lack of experience in these sort of relationships. They're just teasing you, and I doubt you are a lesbian. This really isn't about romantic love at all, you're simply feeling a more genuine love for this woman because she really cares about you as a human being. Anyone would feel this way about someone who valued them so much and helped them.
Accept that for what it is, and thank God that someone loves you this much to see what you need as you grow up and offer you their support in this way. Look at her as your "mom," not as something else. Hang in there.
2006-06-19 02:37:48 · answer #1 · answered by Jennywocky 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You're young and i think you do love this teacher in your own way, but adolescents can't completely understand what love in the traditional sense of the word is. I think you'll grow up to be a lot like this teacher. You'll grow up to understand how a caring adult can change a teens life, but no i don't think you have a homosexual attraction to your teacher. As you grow up you'll see that love in the way you're confussed about isn't about one person caring for another, it's the hard times, empathy, and so on that create love.
2006-06-19 02:00:35 · answer #2 · answered by indypacer45 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you have just found a teacher that has given you some much needed attention. Don't confuse that with anything more. You are too young to be able to know the difference. When your young, you don't know your feelings yet so there's no way someone else could know. Just give yourself some time to grow baby girl.
2006-06-19 01:20:39 · answer #3 · answered by mark b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really really like her & do not want anything bad to happen to her.....wait till your 18 & see if you still feel the same way. you are at an age right now when you are going through alot of feelings right know that you do not completly understand. it is why so many young girls ruin their life by doing stupid things that they would regret later. it is not your fault, & i don't mean to say that what you are feeling now is stupid since it feels so real. its just that you only have part of the puzzle & when you get older you see the whole picture & when you do it is not the same.
i hope that you understand, i have been there & know how difficult it is to cope with feeling that you are having at this time. but they will get clearer to you as time goes on.
do the right thing, you already know what that is even though you don't want to admit it to yourself.
hope this helps,
ss
2006-06-25 11:33:04 · answer #4 · answered by Starscream 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so very many different kinds of love, it's very easy to get them mixed up. You haven't had enough years yet to experience them. Remind yourself that this lady is a dedicated, sensitive, kind teacher. Don't "dis" her by "crossing the line" [you're old enough to know wheat I mean]; and definitely do not ever let her cross that line either. God Bless.
2006-06-19 02:03:52 · answer #5 · answered by razzleberry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r 13 girl there can be several explannations either u need a mother figure or at home u never get the attention u r gettin from this female bt all i all i dnt think u r a lesbian
2006-06-19 01:41:41 · answer #6 · answered by coyote 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember she is a teacher and doing what she is supposed to do. Some times a person makes a huge impact on our lives, sometimes it is a teacher.
2006-06-19 01:18:05 · answer #7 · answered by mike67333 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, i wouldnt think your a les because its natural to have love like that,its just a liking.you want to see her because maybe shes the only true friend,or because she doesnt treat you the way your other friends do and your just looking for a way to escape them and find better friends but you dont know it
so maybe you do now.i dont know if im right,but im sure if your pray to the lord to see what your feelings say
2006-06-19 01:18:31 · answer #8 · answered by ooh lala x3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very difficult to say without a lot more information but my guess is that she could be a substitute mother figure to you. No, you're not a lesbian.
2006-06-19 01:15:47 · answer #9 · answered by ezc692 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Dear, you are 13 years old. Trust me, you do not know what love is. Get over it. And try not to cause your teacher her job.
2006-06-19 01:18:35 · answer #10 · answered by MIASMOM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋