i keep having a recurring dream that i'm being forced by my mom (who is a devout southern baptist)to leave my wife(i'm lesbian), and that i'm forced to, depending on which version of the dream i'm having, either move in w/a gay guy friend of mine, a cousin, or my best friend. for some reason, i always dream i'm being forced to move into a mobile home trailer park, and i and whoever i'm w/can't settle on which one we want. and for some reason, my wife is never in these dreams, but in my dream, she's always a nameless someone that i know i can call to make things better, but i can never get in touch w/her. what does this dream mean? my mom is a southern baptist in real life, and i am a lesbian in real life.
2006-06-19 01:10:38 · 6 answers · asked by kelleygaither2000 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
she knows about my sexuality in real life, and is incredibly opposed to it, but she 'puts on a happy face' when me n my wife come over to my parent's house. my dad could care less, he's way more liberal.
2006-06-19 01:19:00 · update #1
Sounds like on a deep level you crave your mother's approval of you and your choices.
I think that you still feel defensive about your life and who you truly are. This creates (subconscious) insecurity which is represented by the fact that you can't settle on a mobile home in your dream.
Even though in your conscious life you love your wife very much, it is not about her personally, so it is not necessary for your mind to insert her as an actual person into your dream.
The fact that in your dream you cannot get in touch with the person who you can call to make things better, represents that there is no such person. You will have to call on YOUR OWN inner strength and the very core of yourSelf to make things better, or to accept them as they are.
Your subconscious is a very strong sender of potentially healing messages. Work with that!
2006-06-19 01:25:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Often in dreams, the house that you live in represents your self. You have to choose a particular house- what parts of you are struggling against each other? The fact that your wife is never seen but is a "nameless someone" could be that the wife of your dream is also actually you. Often the faceless people in our dreams represents a part of ourselves. That's good in this case, because it would mean that you are close to making things better. . .and that you know you can rely on yourself to fix whatever situation you may be in. It sounds like you might have conflict with the way you were brought up and being gay. Just remember to be true to yourself- you are your own hero!
2006-06-19 01:23:15 · answer #2 · answered by artfairy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're just feeling guilty because you're not the girl your mom wanted (straight and have same beliefs). And inside you want your wife to diappear or to be a man just to make your mom happy. and the fact you're being forced to move into a mobile home trailer park means that you're confused and unstable.
I feel you should recconsider your relationship with your wife regardless of your mom's opinion.
2006-06-19 01:19:49 · answer #3 · answered by cosmicwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your mom know you're a lesbian? It could be that your fear of telling her is being played out while you dream. You're struggling with loving your mom, wanting her to still love you, and having the freedom to live your own life without being judged. My sis is a lesbian but fortunately our mom is a liberal Methodist.
2006-06-19 01:17:28 · answer #4 · answered by rosecitylady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom's non-acceptance of your abnormal sex life and her religious connections have given you a lot of insecurity. you are secretly afraid that you might lose your partner, that's why she never appears in your dreams, and her image is lost to you as such. it's better for you to understand the reality that your parents are not happy about your life-style. so why create embarrasing situations for them? what do you do for your living? and what does the other girl do? may be you could support your parents to some extent atleast, since they brought you up, and you haven't given them any thing to be socially proud about, so do something financially. she has literally given up on you, so forcing to leave your partner is not going to happen in any case. your mental turmoil that religiously you are wrong, is deep-seated in your subconscious, recurring in your dreams. you must have some faith to give you peace. sex is only a part of life, and not everything.don't torture your mom by going to her place with your sex partner if she does not like it, go alone.
2006-06-19 04:53:56 · answer #5 · answered by palador 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
change the channel, that episode always comes on at 3am... damn you Becker and your recurring episodes
2006-06-19 01:14:38 · answer #6 · answered by Mighty Balls ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋