to help with the kids. She is in very poor health and he is not supporting them nearly enough - and not helping 'her personally' at all.
She loved him a lot and has held on for ten years hoping that he would come back to her, and to be a father again. She has gone down hill emotionally instead of feeling strong and free emotionally. Finally she is ready to divorce that hard-hearted man. She cannot afford to do this though. He is loaded - rich, but he has not divorced her in all these years and will not discuss any details with her. I assume that he is telling his mistress that it is my friend who won't divorce 'him' in order to avoid a marital committment with the mistress. That is only my guess though. What is the very cheapest way she can get a divorce? We are Canadians. She needs to let go of this sad situation marriage that does not even exist.
2006-06-19 00:25:47 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I'm sorry to hear about your friend.
Ten years is far too long to let herself be used like an object, such as he has done with her. It sounds as if he is not man enough to make a commitment to either stick by her or else just divorce her (and accept the consequences). He wants no accountability for his actions.
I did a small amount of searching online. Links are below.
Since they have been separated over a year (realistically, as far as I can tell), she can apply for a divorce in her province. (If he has been living overseas consistently, he cannot.)
She can request a "no fault" divorce for any reason, since they've been separated so long. She can also go for a "cruelty" divorce based on his adultery/cruelty to her over the years, but she needs some tangible proof [which sound like she might be able to get, just based on where he's been].
Filing the petition will cost $100-300. This is probably a small amount, considering what she'll benefit from -- and maybe friends will be willing to help her.
She might also try to find a sympathetic lawyer who will start the case rolling. Later, the court might find that the husband has to pick up the tab for many things. (Any clear-minded judge would not be pleased with the fact he's been living overseas with another woman and dragging this out ten years.)
Anyway, good luck. I hope things work out for her. Thanks for being a good friend for her.
2006-06-19 06:49:41 · answer #1 · answered by Jennywocky 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your friend need to contact a lawyer. she needs help and support, and she can get them.
I don't know how it works in Canada, I would bet that if she is in financial trouble she can still contact the township and get free advice.
also, to be considered where is the husband - but usually she should get an easy divorce on the ground of abandonment of the common residence...
2006-06-19 07:31:52 · answer #2 · answered by OneLilithHidesAnother 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there's nothing you can do except be there to support her. There are a lot of financial aid for lawyers in the court system...it's all about the effort and how much she want to separate herself from her. Don't push or rush her, just be there because she may end up turning on you. She has to want the best for her and her children...if not, don't worry about move on.
2006-06-19 08:38:19 · answer #3 · answered by faikeijames 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion on the subject is she should get proof that he has a mistress save money for the divorce and collect alimony of his sorry cheating ***!
2006-06-19 07:35:55 · answer #4 · answered by Nevaeh S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋