I have been married for 8 years have been with my husband for 11 total. He is a very good man except he wants to be the boss in some things. He treats me as I am one of his kids. He even sat me and my step son down and yelled at both of us at one time. I have tried to tell him this but he doesn't listen. He is very patient but if I'm upset he will just go to sleep and then act as if nothing has happened. I feel he tries to act as though we are separte family. Every year for father's dad or mother's day he doesn't put my name on the cards to his father and mother. This makes me upset and I have told him this. He is just now putting them on their bday cards. I always put his name on my mom's and on my dad's when he was a live. Is this wrong for me to be mad over? Does anyone else do this to their spouse? Please help?
2006-06-18 23:07:34 · 9 answers · asked by brown eyes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
feelsorry for you.
Hey is very tense with some thing . Do not do any thing which exite hm.He is fed with life. He cares a lot you and your kid but someone is putting pressure on him to break the relation. you need to win again . nEED TO START AGAIN LOVE HIM SO MUCH THAT HE GET RELAX AND GET RELIEF FROM THAT BRAIN WASH /TENSION.it will take time may be a year you need to be calm and patient
2006-06-18 23:42:17 · answer #1 · answered by PUNEET K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 07:23:18 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately he's not looking at you as his wife. Hes treating you like one of his kids. You have all the right in the world to be up set about it, I would be to. He sounds controlling, and I doubt he will change. Not saying he can't just that I doubt he will. Lay it on the line. Tell him your not a child and will not stand for being treated as one. Tell him respect is earned not automaticly given. If he wants respect then he has to give it. The next time he sits you down and starts yelling at you walk away. Tell him when he starts talking to you like an adult then you will listen and not untill.
2006-06-18 23:38:13 · answer #3 · answered by brighteyes62301 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling. It sounds like he has little respect for you. Marriage is not a single sided relationship. Even in the bible where it says a woman shall follow the man it says that a man will respect his wife and cherish her. You need to be a team to make marriage work. Get counseling and tell your family doctor about his behavior. he may have an un-diagnosed disorder such as depression causing him to act out.
2006-06-18 23:18:16 · answer #4 · answered by jjbeard926 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is to be the head of the home but not bossy all the time and mean. you both need marriage counseling here i feel. You need to seek counseling for you and so that you can learn how to better deal with this and he needs counseling and help to learn how to treat you the way he should. I dont blame you for being upset here. This is a normal and human response. He needs anger management help too. If you need to talk i am here.
2006-06-19 04:02:11 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a divorced man but I think he is just being controlling.I'm in a serious relationship now and I treat my girl friend wdith respect in every area even if I don't agree with her we are both adults and are entitled to our own opinions,that is nothing to get mad about.As far as the cars that is just childish you guys are a family.
2006-06-18 23:49:41 · answer #6 · answered by ga44male 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were you I woud ask him to see a marriage counselor. It sounds to me like he may need private counseling also. Look at his parents. Does his father treat his mother this way? Try to get him into counseling and maybe even yourself and child too. You child needs to realize that that is NOT the way to treat a spouse at all.
2006-06-18 23:21:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is obvious he does not respect you. why would you stay with someone who has no respect for you. life is too short. and when its over, its over, don't waste the time you have.
2006-06-18 23:11:42 · answer #8 · answered by cms2411 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could always leave him, because he isn't going to change, and he doesn't respect you, either learn to live with it, or leave
2006-06-18 23:13:15 · answer #9 · answered by judy_r8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋