I was doing the laundry.
No, I won't smell it!
He works in a trailor 4 the military. Can't figure out what else it could be.
I thought we were happy. We laugh all the time and have regular sex. I also found a hair clip a week ago in our car that wasn't mine. I don't know what to think or do.
2006-06-18 22:32:01 · 16 answers · asked by Katty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Im a guy and I hate dudes that do this kind of stuff,makes it hard for those of us that dont cheat.[we're not all dogs] So check it out CONFRONT HIM.
2006-06-18 22:38:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't already washed the substance away, take the undies and put them up somewhere where he'll never find them. Take the hair clipping and put it with the undies. If you find any other clues, take them and put them with the first two.
Now, hopefully you have two cars, so you have transportation. What's even better is if you have a friend with a car you can borrow so you won't be spotted. It's also better if you don't have a job your committed to because being your own detective can be time consuming.
When he leaves for work you wait for him to get down the road a bit then take off behind him and you tail his every move as often as possible. If he's off work and leaves to go out...tail him.
Also, check his vehicle when he's not around for items that another woman may have accidentally left or letters she may have written. Also, take a lint roller and run them over the car seats to pick up her hair. If he's got a cellphone check it every time he's sleeping. You can write down all the numbers and do a reverse lookup on the internet to find out names and addresses of published home phone numbers. As for cell numbers, you'll just have to call all of them and be nosey. If ya come up with addresses from the reverse lookup, find them and park somewhere and see who lives there.
There are lots of ways to catch a cheater. Even if they are good at it, they'll slip up from time to time. Looks like yours has already been slippin. Eventually you'll catch him if he's cheating and when you do beat the hell out of her first because you don't know when you may get the chance to do that again. Then, when you get him home if ya can't whip him while he's awake, you just boil some grits and throw it on him while he sleeps or beat him with a bat. After that you file for divorce and move on!
2006-06-19 05:54:22 · answer #2 · answered by xtcgurl123 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
unfortunaltly military life is hard on marriages and they all have a high divorce rate. I know the army is taking measures to help cut down on divorce rates. I wish the other militay services would do the same. My husband is in the Navy and he is always telling me about how the guys cheat on thier wives when they are on deployment. Alot of the wives are just as bad. You need to confront your husband and maybe suggest marriage counseling. Hopefully it isn't what you think but it sounds like he is having an affair.
2006-06-19 05:41:31 · answer #3 · answered by lilbitch689 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. He's probably cheating. Start to be a bit unreliable yourself to set him up. Say you'll be home late because of a meeting or book club or something. Then come home early and say it was cancelled. Surprise him by coming to meet him at work for lunch. "Accidentally" switch cell phones with him and see who calls all day. If you know his code, call into his phone and listen to his messages. Get a nanny cam for his car, as that seems to be a hot spot. Ask him to go away for a two week vacation and see what his reaction is.
2006-06-19 11:05:14 · answer #4 · answered by ungirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to face to truth..
Hair clip in the car that ain't yours says it all..
Don't let it break you guys up.. talk about it and face the truth..
Tell him look I won't be mad because if you are seeing someone that means that I'm not doing what turns you on.. it means I'm not being the wife you want me to be.
And no doubt if he is cheating it's your fault because why would he go else where if he had the perfect wife at home???
I know it's blunt but it's the fact..
Wishing you the best of luck.
Garry
2006-06-19 05:42:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lip gloss on underwear + strange hair clip = the likelihood of infidelity. I know that this is tearing you apart, but you need to gather more evidence. Cell phone, and credit card bills, bank statements, and receipts, are all tattle-tale evidence that you need, if you confront him.
2006-06-19 09:55:32 · answer #6 · answered by Battlerattle06 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put some lipstick on a pair of YOUR panties and leave them on the couch for him to find. See what HIS reaction is.
If he is in the military, you have him by the balls.
You can threaten him with reporting him to his C.O. It would wreck his career if he is cheating on you.
He needs a real slap in the head.
2006-06-19 05:39:17 · answer #7 · answered by Chris C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless your husband is a transvestite, then he is cheating on you. UNLESS he is lending out your car to his friends and they are having sex in your car - but most likely, your hubby is cheating on you. If you try to approach him and ask him, he will probably deny it.
God bless and good luck!
2006-06-19 05:36:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry hun dosent sound good. I would bet dollars to dounuts he is haveing an afair. Confront him with it, don't ignore the signs.
2006-06-19 06:41:15 · answer #9 · answered by brighteyes62301 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this a matter of ur life & future, home is not a place to talk....go out for a walk & ask him clearly & tell him u need honest answer.
2006-06-19 05:45:38 · answer #10 · answered by PrinceCharming 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋