How can I get bullies off my case?

Question

I am a victim of bullying how can i get them away from me with out fighting back, getting my friends involved and getting the cops?

Answer 1

Believe me, the only effective to stop them is fighting back, if you can beat the crap out of them, it's best, if you can't, it's better to get beaten up by bullies than just sitting there doing nothing, resort to cop/parents/friends can only provide temporary relief, if you want to end it, you get to stand up for yourself, there is no other way around.

Answer 2

Sorry to here about you're problem. Its true, the only way to beat a bully is to actualy beat them, i'll come help you if you want, I hate bullys there week sad indaviduals. If you are brave enough stand up to them but make an impact I know this sounds a bit extreme but use a weapon a bat or something on the ring leader and it will stop. Telling somebody cops family etc will only make it worse unless you have a big brother to deal with them, do you? I wish I could help you instead of typing this, like I said I hate bullys, big or small i've tackled them all 1 way or another and so should you, be brave lad and let me know how you get on or what you decide to do. Good luck

Answer 3

This has always been a problem for schools. You havn't done wrong in the eyes of many parents, but the school may not see it this way. Make sure you get a chance to explain. As far as the school goes, the immediate response would be to get angry at the teachers/headmaster, which is fair enough but to be honest they are stuck between a rock and a hard place to be honest. If anything is said to the bully from the teachers, the first reaction for them is to go straight to the victim for "telling". My advice would be to have a chat to the bully's parents and hope that they are the type to understand and sit down with the bully and chat to them which may sort this out. Does your child have many friends in school? Can you ask the teachers to just keep an eye on him, expecially dinner ladies during lunch breaks, they will tell you that they have too many kids to keep an eye on just one but at least they are aware of the situatio if something happens and hopefully nothing will escalate from the verbal bullying. The main thing to remember is that the bullys will get tired eventually. They'll get bored and find something else to do. The whole thing will die down but you should make sure you make time for your child, make sure you can give them the love and support they need at home so they feel like they can face the day at school. Does the child have any after school clubs/societies/or sports that (s)he does, as that can greatly improve their confidance in and out of school which may help them. Good luck with everything!!!

Answer 4

There's a few options open to you. You want to try and modify behaviour, so try and develop a strategy for doing so. Don't try fight fire with fire, because it doesn't work. Not knowing the specifics, I can't offer specific advice. You could do it with incentive. Offer homework help, or something else that won't cost you financially. Try and win over an influential ally, maybe one of the bullies, maybe just someone that has some clout in another area. Bullies are cowards, but to deflect them, you have to pose a greater threat, so it isn't easy. Blackmail is also a good route, very efffective if you can get the dirt on one of them, but difficult to pull off effectively. You need evidence of one of them pulling something illegal, like a photo of them stealing or smoking weed or some crap, and then simply threaten to post it on the internet and the bullying should subside.

Good luck mate

Answer 5

Firstly, you've already taken the first step so stop worrying right now.

Lots of people, including the me of many years ago, don't handle bullying and pretend its not happening. By posting your question you are proving you are not one of those.

Bullies are a noisy minority and they are easily quieted by any kind of action. Telling teachers, parents, police and etc is all good. Your parents can refuse to send you to school if the school is not fit for you to attend. I wish my parents had done that, but they had their heads up their asses and I was too twisted by the bullying to ask them for help. Once, when I did, my dad had a nice pleasant conversation with the bully in question instead of what I hoped he'd do. So make sure you get help from someone who will take action.

I learned martial arts and it helped me get confident a lot. I was doing it only a few months before my most recent and final bully stopped bothering me. I guess he'd figured he was going to be on the receiving end of my training - which he wasn't. I thoroughly recommend physical training as it build self esteem and confidence. Pick a good class - one that makes you feel welcome and good.

In life you should always feel good about yourself, no matter what others think. Don't tolerate anyone in your life making you feel bad in any way.

Best of luck. You're changing your life for the better. Its difficult to start with, but most things in life that matter seem tough to begin with. The reward will exponentially outweigh your efforts, as you'll find.

Answer 6

First and foremost learn to love yourself. You are special and unique. Then sit down and really think about the things that at good in you! If you care about others that's a big plus. if you have compassion, a sense of humour, if you try to give a helping hand to others; all these things become reasons why you should feel good about yourself. And when you learn to love yourself, you will realise that there is an inner strength within you. Turn to that inner strength whenever others seek to denigrate you. That inner strength will show through, in small subtle ways at first - an unflinching eye maybe of something similar. But will soon grow. The bullies own sense of survival will pick up on this and they will gradually become more and more wary of picking on you. By then however they will have become irrelevant. You will have begun to embark on the greatest journey of discovery you will ever make. The discovery of yourself and your own potential! -from that moment on, the world really will be your oyster.

Answer 7

Go to your headteacher or a kindly teacher as most schools have anti bullying policies now.You do not say how old you are try and get someone to intermediate to find out what their problem is.Sometimes people bully because of their insecurities.Tell your parents try not to resort to violence as that is not the answer. Good luck you can also ring childline who`s number will be in the phone book or the samaritans.

Answer 8

Bullies don't generally pick on one person. Anonymously type a letter to the head of your school asking for him/her to alert staff to monitor the bully's behaviour as it is detrimental to your own studies, wellbeing and general happiness. Alert the head in this letter that you are not the only one suffering here, and do not want to come forward individually. You will need to tell someone. While you may be able to perhaps protect yourself from one of them using your fists, their friends are just going to attack you the first chance they get. However, self defence classes are always good to get into as not only will it improve your fitness but you'll find that you become a stronger person and bullies don't like dealing with stronger people.

Answer 9

well, depending on the situation you have a number of options including....
1. standing up to them. You could plan a situation that has been thought through carefully and that is going to show them once and for all that you are NOT to be messed with.
This CAN work...permanently, but it needs planning on how to make sure you come out on top of the situation and you may want to make sure there are witnesses, friends can help etc...

2. Ask for support from someone you trust, a friend, an adult etc.

3. Get yourself out of the whole situation altogether...sometimes it is easier to do this...

I am sure there will be more suggestions on here too... read em all carefully and then go think and SOLVE it for good is my advice


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Good luck!

Answer 10

If the bullies go to your school; you MUST tell your parents and MUST then go and talk to your guidance teacher and principal. If they don't help and I assume they will then you go to the school board.

You have the RIGHT to go to school without being bullied. And schools have the RESPONSIBILITY to provide a healthy learning environment free of bullying.

By turning in these bullies not only do you help yourself; you help the next victim of their bullying and there is usually a next one.

You cannot control what a bully will or will not do; you can only control what you will do about it. Good for you for not wanting to fight with them. The only kids who will think funny of you turning them in will be other bullies; most kids will snicker to themselves and be glad you turned the bully in....because no kid likes to be bullied and most kids know what it feels like to be bullied ...and it is not fun.