visited his oldest child and cooked dinner for him and his mom and also your husband washed his own clothes there? What would you do? I would like to know what you think of that if that were to happen to you.
2006-06-18 22:15:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I dont think that you should be mad. All that happened was he went to his ex-wife home to see his son. She is his EX wife, EX being the emphasis. He cooked them dinner becuase he doesnt get to make his son food that often, he spilt food down his clothing she washed them for him. I think that you need to trust him. The base of all relationships is trust. To me it seems inncoent, even rather sweet of him. Remember he didnt hide this meeting from you.... therefore ther probadly isn't anything more to it.
2006-06-18 22:36:54 · answer #1 · answered by Kim B 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First thing when he said he was going I would be packing to go with him.
Second thing do not ever be in a room w/someone alone other than your own mate.
Third thing, I would cook the dinner and wash the clothes.
Fourth, I would include his ex and oldest child in our next Thanksgiving and invite them to stay,
and, then for Christmas too. Then New Years....
Then I would tell him..."you had your nerve and if you decide to do that again, I will visit MY ex while you are gone." OR if no Ex, then repeat the whole scene.
2006-06-18 22:28:38 · answer #2 · answered by deed 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think its rather sweet actually that he and his ex have a decent enough relationship that they can actually spend time together acting normally for the sake of their child.
My ex husband comes over to my house often, has dinner with us at least once a week, fixes leaky taps and does man type things around the house for me. The kids love it, as they love BOTH of us.
Just because you're broken up doesn't mean you can't be mature, and be friends still. I myself consider my ex husband as one of my best friends, and my new man (of 3 yrs) realises this and gets on very well with my ex.
Stop being so selfish, he obviously wants to keep a decent relationship with his ex, which makes things much easier for his child.
2006-06-18 22:41:53 · answer #3 · answered by mandy n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he tell you that that was where he was going , before he left ? And , why did he stay at thier house with them , and not at a hotel?
I don't see anything wrong with him cooking dinner for them , even if he doesn't cook for you . Men do things alot differently when we are not around you know ! It is actually because , we just take care of all of that stuff for them though . They get used to it!!!!! But , i feel that there is no reason why --> he should have stayed at thier home with them . His son could have easily gone to stay with him in a hotel . If all he was looking for was to spend time with his son !
2006-06-18 22:22:26 · answer #4 · answered by listenup_yall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all...I would have told him never to do anything that I would not be able to tolerate, and when in doubt to discuss it with me first...like for example going to his ex-wife's home and washing his clothes there. You knew that he had an ex-wife and a son, right? You guys never talked about what would upset you? Or did he ask you beforehand, and you gave him permission, but you are not really happy about it? Are you upset about this or do you just want to hear that it's ok to not feel upset? Well. for one thing...you gotta be assertive and honest about how you feel about it, otherwise it will only get worst from here..
2006-06-18 22:29:27 · answer #5 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk this over with my husband - very thoroughly. Maybe family-counselling.
If this made me feel insecure I'd have to tell him what made me feel this way and how I react on this feeling. We would have to talk about how he felt. We would have to tell each other what we expect of each other when it comes to his child and it's mother.
We would have to agree, on some point, on how to deal with this. It is important that you are heard - unless you are unreasonable of course, meaning you won't let him see his child. It is not unreasonable to expect him not to wash his clothes at his ex-wife or stay over. Eating dinner with them - is that fair? How much do you think is reasonable that he does when at his ex's home VISITING HIS CHILD?
But first and most important of all - if this is what you feel - I'd make sure he understood that I'd really want him to see his child and that his child was welcome to stay at our home whenever.
2006-06-18 22:18:18 · answer #6 · answered by Tones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it would depend on your level of trust. My husband could go and visit his ex-wife all he wants. (They don't have any kids together, though so the situation is a bit different.) I don't care. I'm pretty secure in our relationship.
But if I thought for a milisecond that he still had ANY feelings for her, I wouldn't be quite so understanding about it.
2006-06-18 22:19:11 · answer #7 · answered by Bob S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get the flags out and cellebrate,, tell the ywo faced child to stay with his ex,, he is obviously not over his ex and they probably deserve each other,,
tell him to sling his hook and get a new life girl x
2006-06-18 22:19:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
but if your husband get devours by his wife why he come back too her dont feel bad there is nothing between them
2006-06-18 22:58:43 · answer #9 · answered by negin s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be mad. I mean he has to see his kids but I don't know what I would do.
2006-06-18 22:24:40 · answer #10 · answered by lilbitch689 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋