2006-06-18 22:03:33 · 13 answers · asked by chio'z 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Always put this behind your mind: for a girl it is always 'what are you waiting for?' and for a boy it is always 'why the rush?' The fact that the your boy friend is not rushing things does not suggest that he is undecided about you, he may be working things out to suit the two of you n the long run. Depending on your culture and religious dispositions, you may just have to encourage him by showing more love. You may have to convince him that your union would not be regretted. The young man is just being apprehensive and it is normal.
2006-06-18 22:14:43 · answer #1 · answered by Sage_Learner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't totally comfortable with introducing you to his family there are two options. He is very embarrassed by them or he doesn't think the relationship is that serious.
Let's be honest, many guys see relationships as a way to get sex and that's all. They don't look at marriage until they turn 30, 35 or even for some guys 40.
It is possible that he is avoiding the seriousness of the relationship. Ask him about it but don't be accusing. Be reassuring and try to act like what ever his answer is, it's ok with you. He may just not be ready to settle down yet. He may never be able to. You need to find this out. Let him answer in his own words. Don't speak for him or put words in his mouth or you wont find his true feelings.
The other possibility is that he has some serious issues with his family. This might be legitimate or it might be a big red flag. he may have issues with relationships in general if he doesn't have a good standing with his family. This also could be a good sign though. he might not want them to embarrass him in front of you. This may mean he truely cares a great deal.
2006-06-18 22:10:29 · answer #2 · answered by jjbeard926 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think may be ur bf may have a problem on his hands such as he thinks his family may not warm up to u or u may find urself in an uncomfortable situation with the interaction with his family. On the other hand, i guess u should ask him more directly and clearly if he has any problem to let u know since if both of u are interested in pursuing this relationship, of note both of u, then things shouldn't be kept hidden in the closet. If he has no such issues as of such and he is indecisive about the whole thing i suppose you should move on since relations are built on trust and support not only on love. Be courageous to move ahead in your life and wish u all the best.
2006-06-18 22:11:17 · answer #3 · answered by pradeesh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out why he does not want to introduce you to his family. Does he think they are not good enough to meet you or you are not good enough to meet them? Once you find out that, then you can consider settling down with him. Personally, I would hesistate to get heavily involved with someone that does not want me to know their family. After all, a person's family is part of who they are and there have been a lot of people that married people before getting to know their family and regretted it because when the person's family is around they become a different person. One woman I know ended up divorcing her first husband because he would not make his brother stop living with them and sponging off of them without ever getting a job. Some guys are too stuck on their mothers and end up siding with their mothers when there is conflict between their mother and their mate. So, meet the man's family. That's important.
2006-06-18 22:10:42 · answer #4 · answered by WebAnt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have u all been together. If its long enough then u might want to tart questioning his reasons for not introducing u to his family
2006-06-18 22:08:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he may be a little embarrased of his family? to be honest getting along with your partners family is important in a relationship,
2006-06-18 22:06:48 · answer #6 · answered by Dan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um... how would you want to settle down if he hasn't even let you meet his family?
If he isn't willing to let you meet his family then he isn't willing to settle down with you.
2006-06-18 22:06:18 · answer #7 · answered by cruddypantz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah...ask him over and over. Keep pressuring him into something that he is not ready for. Enjoy the break-up.
2006-06-18 22:06:13 · answer #8 · answered by Gregie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How soon?
I would think twice before marrying him.
2006-06-18 22:05:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means he doesn't fully accept who you are. make a decision, leave him, go on with your life, and good luck in finding the right one for you.
2006-06-18 22:09:06 · answer #10 · answered by botix 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋