If your a single parent who own your own home, financially secure and have supportive family and friends and you date someone of same, what are the pro's/cons to you and your child/children in shacking up with another and blend your families and lives?
2006-06-18 20:44:40 · 7 answers · asked by Cdn_Superdave 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
talk to the kids on both sides. they will be right in the middle of things and they should have thier voices heard. if you are doing as well as you say then you know that the kids are the priorety. make sure they are going to be okay with the changes before you take the plunge.
2006-06-19 03:34:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pros: two incomes can support everyone better and make life easier, more family around for support, mother AND father figure for role models, if it makes you happier your kids will notice and be happier too
Cons: prepare for jealousy and more fights, resentment of a new authority figure in life, one more major adjustment kids must go through, and yet another adjustment if it doesn't work out, redefines kids' roles as siblings
I would ease into this. How well does everyone get along? How much time do you spend together already? Pick it up a bit first. Have dinner together every night, spend the nights together on weekends. Go on a vacation together. See how almost nonstop time together works first, then make the leap.
2006-06-19 04:17:02 · answer #2 · answered by ungirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shacking up doesn't teach the children much about committing to each other. You're showing them that you all are going to live as a family for now, but you're not going to go through the hassle of making the commitment so that it will be easier to just walk out when the going gets tough or you grow weary of one another.
Children learn by example.
2006-06-18 20:59:33 · answer #3 · answered by mamabunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were you i would pray about it then go from there. You should not shack up at all but maybe after time your should marry and commit and show the kids there can be a mom and dad working together on marriage and raising them as a unnited front.
2006-06-19 00:41:49 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shacking up is such a vulgar term.
Get counseling before you blend the families. It could save a ton of heartache, and even more money! Blended families can work, but it takes a lot to acheive it.
2006-06-18 20:51:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
For I wish that all men were even as I myself. But each one has his own gift from God, one in this manner and another in that.
Will he/she add to your life? Yes
Will share and nothing to add? NO
Marriage is not about love and sex but commitments
But sex and/or money is what breaks the marriage 90% of the time. So why do you need him/her? Sex? Love? Why?
Yes love and sex adds to the marriage but that is not its foundation. Email me!
2006-06-18 21:07:52 · answer #6 · answered by Agree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt shack its wrong and it destroys your relationship
2006-06-18 20:49:44 · answer #7 · answered by Justin D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋