2006-06-18 20:16:20 · 17 answers · asked by galgal 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
depends on your personality..are you selfish or selfless...if you are selfish..stay single until you learn to give of yourself and sacrifice freely of your time, interest, etc...
marriage is all about compromise, time management, financial management and love that binds it all together..if you don't give everything of yourself to your wife and family...and if you aren't willing to do that...then it is better to be singles so you don't ruin soimeone's life.
marriage with two selfless people who love each other unconditionally and are readily able to forgive and forget will ALWAYS be happy whether they;re rich or poor..
2006-06-18 20:25:41 · answer #1 · answered by juanes addicion 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on a lot of things.
1. Your age. People do a lot of changing between the ages of 17 and 23. You could get married during that time, but it is a little more risky. You'd have to go into it hoping that the person you are marrying can adapt to your changes and even change along with you. As you can see from our divorce rate here in the US, this doesn't happen as often as people would hope. I think it's less risky to marry after 26 (or even later) when most people have a pretty good sense of who they are and what they are about. It's probably better for a person to be single until their year-to-year personality changes taper down, at which point it could go either way.
2. Your feelings about marriage. Some people have unrealistic ideas (both positive and negative) about how their relationship will change because of marriage. We all bring our own childhood experiences to the table in any relationship. If you think the marriage will destroy your relationship, it just might. Try to work out those issues with a counselor before you walk down the aisle and save yourself and your partner some heartache. Otherwise, it's probably better to stay single.
3. Your reasons for getting married. If you revel in the bachelor life, then think twice before leaving it. If you don't think he's the One, then don't say you'll marry him. Don't settle down because your girlfriend demands it, your friends are doing it, or your family wants you to. Settling down and getting married has to be something that you want to do once you find the right person for you. If you aren't getting married on your own terms, it's probably better to stay single.
4. Your communication skills and your anger management skills. If either you or your partner don't have them, you'll either have to learn them fast or be stuck in a pretty unhappy marriage, at which point it's better to stay single.
Are you at a point in your life where each year you are changing as a person less and less? Have you developed communication skills and anger management skills over the years? Are you getting married for all the "right" reasons? Do you feel good about it? If so, then I think you may find marriage a pretty good proposition. Otherwise, I'd hold off for a while and stay single!
2006-06-18 21:09:03 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married...
2006-06-18 20:21:32 · answer #3 · answered by Mimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better how? I dont see being married as being better than being single. Just different. It has its good and bad just like anything else. If being married was better than being single there would be no divorce ;)
2006-06-18 20:23:35 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married; now I'm not. I think married life is better if you can find someone who shares the same dreams you do. Married life is no good if you feel in prison with someone who treats you wrong on a daily basis. This includes mates who: cheat, use physical abuse or verbal abuse, are controlling (dominating) partners, have nothing in common, and are disrespectful, selfish, unloving, and irresponsible.
2006-06-18 20:38:39 · answer #5 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you already find the right and perfect man, it is better to be married. the reasons:
1. you have partner to spent your life with and to solve the
problem
2. You have "legal" partner and children for a perfect life. How
amazing the life with the children with us.
3. you have somebody to depend on, to share anything, to have
friend to accompany you all rest of your life even you are
getting very old and your friends are away.
4. To fulfill your sex needs
5. etc...that you will find out when you are getting married.
Of course beside the goods, the marriage still have up and down, good and bad situation. But according to me, getting married still better unless you married to wrong guy that put you in hell. Be Carefull to choose a man who you are getting merriage with.
2006-06-18 20:37:48 · answer #6 · answered by Fie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
married
2006-06-18 20:34:01 · answer #7 · answered by RCPR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love being married!
2006-06-18 20:27:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is better to be married if your married to the one for you
2006-06-18 20:19:04 · answer #9 · answered by insertstrawhere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better to be single than in a miserable marriage
2006-06-18 20:25:10 · answer #10 · answered by Cdn_Superdave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋