I have a deep down gut feeling that I was molested when I was young but can not recall it, how can I?

Answer 1

Apple, I feel bad for what you might have gone through. Obviously you're experience some real pain right now.

I would be careful with hypnosis. All that has been "proven" with hypnosis is that people can be made to believe what they are already prone to believing.

Memory is tricky. Many of the "repressed memories" regained back in the 80's and 90's were shown to be false or questionable. There have been well-known cases where people went to jail for molestation (based on regained memories) where the allegations were later proven false.

Elizabeth Loftus did an infamous experiment in the '90's (I think) showing that memories can be fabricated unconsciously and unrecognizable to the test subject as fake.

(She presented test subjects with a few memories she said were supplied by their families; in each batch was the false memory of "being lost in the mall," something the family said did NOT happen; 25% of the time, I think, the person believed the memory to be true, and some even "recalled" extensive detail about the fake experience.)

People are highly suggestive, especially under hypnosis. There is no easy answer to the pain you have experienced.

If you can innocently quiz those who know you (relatives, friends of the family), to find out what could have happened, that's a start. Also find a bona fide counselor to help you explore your feelings; maybe you will uncover something important.

Regardless of whether you were molested as a kid, do not let that experience *define* you. Even if you never know the truth, you should find someone to help you realize that you are a valuable and worthwhile person who has positive things to contribute to the world.

If you can feel that way about yourself, your past will not have a hold over you.

Answer 2

Without making it known, maybe you could talk to your parents about maybe acting differently growing up. There's a few behavioral and physical indicators that are present when a child has been molested. Either being overly loud or "out of control" or being excessively withdrawn or quiet growing up can mean something. But ask about things like did you wet the bed a lot growing up, did you have excessive nightmares, or even now, do you have problems with social anxiety? Do you freeze up at the slightest sign of any sexual play?

Start doing some investigating. Ask questions about what you were like when you younger, who lived with/or around you, what they were like.

Also, I don't know how old you are, but if you're younger and haven't been sexually active, go see a gynecologist. Have them check for unusual scarring and any other signs of possible trauma.

Fact is, you may never know if you were molested or not. I'm sorry that you feel you are. Talking with someone about the possibility may help you, but please don't fall for those hypnosis therapists or anything like that. Sometimes those are false and unreliable. Try and work through it as best you can, and remember, 1) you aren't alone, as all this advice is coming from a girl who has been there before, and 2) don't let it ruin your life. You're a beautiful person and you need to make the most of your life that you can.

~~Here's to hoping you've never been through this horror!~~

Answer 3

i comprehend this could be a prior submit yet i'm too tryn to learn this, i replace into molested by making use of my older brother while i replace into 12 all to age 15. An he replace into in his late 20's. It replace right into a terrible journey!! somebody I regarded as much as, ruined my life. My mom knew an did no longer something approximately it an I nonetheless resent her to on the present time, I see my brother each and all of the time an it tears at each and all of the previous wounds… I actually hv no comprehend or love for that guy, i do no longer call him my brother or family contributors! Bc of him i'm afraid of guys an my intercourse life with men is nonexistent, i'm lesbian.. i think he pushed me in the direction of it. (I truly b with a woman) ur daughter could carry alotta anger an resentment to the two u an her brother, i could call the law enforcement officials on him. incorrect is misguided Idc how previous he replace into on the time!! Get her into see a cut back bc it truly is been assisting me, or maybe a 'intervention' as a family contributors positioned it out interior the open. No judgment, basically communicate it. those kinda issues will mess all of us up an will interior the destiny reason alotta problems for her. shield her an call law enforcement officials!!

Answer 4

Depends where the gut feeling come from. Was it something someone said that got you thinking.
Did you hear a story that you could relate to but not sure why?
You should seek professional help but remember that you could drag up memories that could be disturbing if this is true.

Answer 5

Why would you want to? If you were actually molested you will remember when it is the right time. Don't make yourself a victim in the meantime. You will open things you are not ready to bear. Work on improving your character and gaining maturity and wisdom.

Answer 6

Go to a psychologist and they have techniques to use on people who may have been molested but can't recall it because its burried deep down in your unconscience and they use a technique to "discover" the unconscience.. Good luck!!

Answer 7

I have the same feeling there are things in the bedroom that are uncomfortable for me. It's very hard for me, I understand. I've heard hypnotism works to get answers without the detailed memory of the event, if it happened. I haven't been able to deal with it. I hope you can find some peace about it....

Answer 8

Hypnosis can plant false memories and has been discredited. See a counselor/psychologist if you want though because there are other reasons for this feeling perhaps, having to do with self-esteem etc.

Answer 9

Hypnosis

Answer 10

who do u think did it..at a family dinner table ask everyone."was i molested as a child..i have a feeling but i cant remember" watch there reactions carefully and see what happens..and if you have an idea of who did ask them if they molested you..with other people around who cant hear.