Im white and my girlfriend of 4 years is white but I am becoming so attracted to black girls its crazy. They have such nice bodies and are so good in bed. I feel guilty because I cheated on my gf 3 times all with black girls. She found out recently about one and she's devestated but i dont want to lose her.
2006-06-18 19:40:04 · 11 answers · asked by ray c 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
OMG! IF she forgives you (Good luck). You are one lucky bastard. Since you mentioned "They have such nice bodies and are so good in bed", which means you're comparing her with other girls. HOPE she doesn't know this. If she does finds out. She'll be heart-broken. Since you like other girls so much. Why not just leave her alone? If you cheated on her once, she'll maybe forgives you. 3 TIMES???!! If I was your gf, You wish you never been born.
2006-06-18 19:57:36 · answer #1 · answered by autumn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand desperately wanting to be with your partner, but still desperately wanting to sleep with/ be with other people too. You could be what is called an 'avoidance addict' someone who is scared of being intimate because if you get too close, the person may leave you. Getting too close to your gf could be scary in case she then leaves you. And sleeping with other (sexy) women is a great distraction, and temporarily makes you feel wanted, loved and good (sex is a powerful mood-altering state)
Whilst this is socially unacceptable behaviour, and is also destructive to yourself (I bet your feel **** right now) and your girlfirend (ditto). It does your self confidence and self esteem no good.
You need to understand that lots of people act like this - but also that it will be best for you to learn how to not do it. And the only way to do that is to find out why you are doing it. Do you do it whenever anything goes wrong in your relationship? Do you want to break up with your gf but are too scared of being alone? Do you feel 'high' or relieved when you get a black girl into bed? Whatever the reasons, there has to be some motivation otherwise you wouldn;t do it.You could be a sex and love addict - check out Facing Love Addiction by Pia Mellody or www.slaafws.org
2006-06-18 19:55:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm.. a fetish? or are you really attracted to black girls?
wny do you want to keep your girlfriend?
before going back to your 4 year girlfriend, figure out whether you are better off finding a black girlfriend, or not...
if the answer is "no, i'd rather have my girlfriend of four years back" then think about whether this cheating thing will repeat later on, because if it will - you will be breaking her heart again and again in the future - she will have to be a complete moron to allow that to happen repeatedly
if you are sure that you want to go back, then find out whether your girlfriend wants to have ANYTHING to do with you now that she knows you cheat
find out how deeply she resented or is repelled by your cheating with black girls
basically, if she really likes you - she'll be open to your attempt to show her that she means the world to you
if she asks for comparison, say it means nothing to you and you hated it, yourself, etc
good luck
2006-06-18 20:13:15 · answer #3 · answered by dojodomo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You horny b*s*trd. The only thing you can do is stop cheating on her and just hope she forgives you. Oh, and don't cheat on her anymore. Damn. . hehe. Good luck.
Oh, by the way (to the answer above me), I went black and I came back. I hate when people use that line! They think it's cool just because it rhymes. STOP!
You know what? Listen to the first answerer. I think they got it right.
2006-06-18 19:45:09 · answer #4 · answered by Solo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby boy once you go black you never go back!!!!!!!! Leave the white girl and get yo stunt on!! If you dont want to lose her than why did you do it anyway?!
2006-06-18 19:44:16 · answer #5 · answered by Haley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there are 2 logical solutions to your problem.
1. Devote yourself to your girlfriend and supress your urges to go black.
2. Devote yourself to black girls and enjoy your urges.
2006-06-18 20:12:25 · answer #6 · answered by soatenor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can understand you cheating but th ebitabout black girls is confusing . Say grils and cut out the black girls bit because that is weird dude. My advice for you BEHAVE YOURSELF!!!
2006-06-18 20:19:33 · answer #7 · answered by samydan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmm you got a fetish..
But what would u do if it was the other way round?
SHE was soo much into black guys and couldn't help cheating with them?
2006-06-18 19:46:38 · answer #8 · answered by Larissa_Antipov 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a clue, you don't need to waste her time, when she could be with someone, who will not cheat on her.
2006-06-18 19:44:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her and go for black girls but if you get slapped your own your own.
2006-06-18 19:46:50 · answer #10 · answered by mia t 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋