I have a brother who'd serously ill, being divorced with his wife, left home with nothing several years ago, His wife, also left home without any notice, leaving their children( a 6 year-old boy and a 8year-old girl) at home. My mom and I had to take good care of their children year by year. However, my mum is nearly 70 years old now and has no incomes at all, and I have supported the whole family for nearly 5 years. Now I am jobless and I find it hard to support a big family like this, I've been a bit tired of supporting my nephew and niece because I really cannot afford their schooling every year at present. (Although their expenditure is only 1000 USD a year at present.) What shall i do now? How should I continue to support my lovely niece and nephew? Where can I get support for them? Tell me your opinions via emails: momochong1@yahoo.com Thank you indeed!
2006-06-18 19:25:31 · 10 answers · asked by Justin Y 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The problem is my brother and his wife lost contacts with us now, I mean I don't know where they are, also it's hard for anybody to get financial aid from government in China.
2006-06-19 13:39:12 · update #1
What I can do now is trying to find a good job to support my family. I'm looking for a chance to be a sourcing or purchasing manager, an import and export assistant or manager in China as I have been working as a trade manager for several years. I'm good at sourcing in China. Tell me please if you have some job information on this.
2006-07-02 17:45:25 · update #2
If you have a welfare system I would apply there. When you describe your dilemma to them they will look for your brother and his wife. They will expect them to help in the raising of their children. There should be child welfare services too. I know nothing about China...but they have to have accommodations for circumstances like yours.
If all else fails, and you are able, look for another job. Its the children's welfare and they need someone. I know its hard and I give you a lot of credit for raising them, but its really about the children. Obviously your brother and his wife don't want to be found, or contribute financially to help in the support of their children.
Sounds like you don't have many resources where you live, but every place has something to help support children.
2006-07-02 16:03:38 · answer #1 · answered by allyp51 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a tough situation. The only thing you can do is start looking for a new job. You can see what kind of state programs there are to help you financially. Since you are taking care of your brother's kids - can your brother request child support payments from his ex wife? Try to get some financial help from your bother's ex wife and also look into state programs that might help you with the cost of schooling.
2006-06-18 19:29:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some financial help or aide for them. Call social services and tell them your situation. They may be able to hlep you. They also need to go to public school to cut back on that expense too. Does their dad have any means of support to help them with and what about the mom who took off on them? Does she work . She should be paying child support. You also need to find a job to help and support them as well.
2006-06-19 00:01:16 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First have your brother file for divorce next tell him to get child support and if not try to adopt them . so that way you can get government help . Also try to look for a new job and maybe a second job. your in charge of that household . It's not easy but you can do it and in the long run the kids will thank you.
2006-06-18 19:38:58 · answer #4 · answered by Erik11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry you are in such situation, try any government aid, and if it is not possible. you need to decide what you want in life, Is it possible you adopt these kids and be your own, love them and raise them. or leave them like their parent did. you will be free to have the life you choose.
job always come and go, find another job as you need one. life is always up and down, you can live in any condition with a smile or sadness. life is a choice.
Do you have any other relative to help out. Most mother try their best to raise their child, and so a child should try their best to care for their mother as need. This is love.
2006-07-01 05:10:53 · answer #5 · answered by shirley t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about that..Is there free legal aid in China. Perhaps you can consult with a lawyer for advice on the situation. Or at least a free consultation on ways to try track them down..
2006-06-29 03:43:16 · answer #6 · answered by WhatEVER27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do the best you can with those kids and keep hunting for the right women this time and dont pick the wrong one take a datin test at a datin website also seek child support for your kids because you need all the help you can get !!!! :)
2006-07-02 17:38:29 · answer #7 · answered by mya t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be seeking child support from both parents. Does your country have this type of support system?
2006-07-02 03:22:24 · answer #8 · answered by msjuliet2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a discussion with them. Tell them you won't be able to provide them with a life of high quality because of the current situation, that it will get better really soon.
2006-06-28 16:43:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend gives hope when life is low, a friend is a place when you have nowhere to go, a friend is honest, a friend is true. A friend is precious a friend is u.
2006-06-20 22:27:12 · answer #10 · answered by arajaajmali 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋