No Child support, No anything. I am the custodial parent. An All of a sudden she decides she is the mom and thats all there is to it..
2006-06-18 19:16:37 · 10 answers · asked by cryingknights 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If she doesn't have custody or any type of visitation rights then you don't have to send your child to her. If she hasn't seen your son in 10yrs I don't see how it would be good to send your son to a stranger - because she might be his mom but he doesn't know her.
You can always contact a lawyer who can answer your questions as per the state you live in. If she is determined to get visitation you might want to get a lawyer anyway just in case.
2006-06-18 19:20:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not compelled to send your child to another state for visitations with out a formal parenting plan in place, but I would recommend allowing the mother to visit the child in your home while you are there. Tell her that you want her to get to know him again before you and he decide whether he should travel to FL to see her.
Also, several states limit the age that children can fly alone to visit a non-custodial parent to a minimum of 12 years old.
In all honesty, she should be kissing your a$$ to get access to him. I would IMMEDIATELY file for a formal custody agreement and ask for support before she has any type of contact with the child. In these cases, whomever has physical custody of the child AND files first is usually a leg up in the process.
2006-06-18 20:48:29 · answer #2 · answered by Bob S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she has had no contact with her child for a period of 1 year,that is grounds for the court to take away her parental rights.Also your son is 10 yrs old,I would think the court would give him the option of going or not going.I would be very careful because if she is changing for some reason.She may get your son down there and then not let him come back to you!and you would have to go there to fight her in court! all she has to do is file for temp. custody for what ever reason she can dream up and you are screwed!
2006-06-18 19:23:21 · answer #3 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the exact same situation I was in about a year ago. Yes, you do have to. If you don't, she can take you to court and YOU could get into trouble. I was railroaded when it came to my nine year old son. His Father had not seen him in more than 8 years. My son loves his Step-Dad and up until his "real" Father came knocking on the door, my Son thought his step-dad was his real dad. That was hard to explain. If she is a bad as you say, any child, especially hers, will know and not want to continue visits. My son put a stop to his visits. I didn't have to say one word about his "real" father. He learned on his own.
2006-06-18 20:23:15 · answer #4 · answered by Vandie L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess she figures he cant be too much trouble now that he's no longer a baby.
I would definitely be concerned about what reaction he may have with meeting a mother he hasnt seen in 10 yrs. And I'd seek the advise of an attny to block that idea. If she wants to see him so badly, she can come to visit HIM. I definitely would NOT send him to FL at his tender age.
2006-06-18 19:25:24 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what the court papers said. What does the boy say? I would consult an attorney to cover yourself legally. She should not just jump into the kids life at her discretion. This will be a BIG deal to your son! If you have to send him, ask for a supervised visit.
2006-06-18 19:23:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you have to or not, A lot depends on what the courts said/say.....
What does your son think of meeting his mom? Most children once they reach adulthood, look for their long lost parents.... Would it be good for your son to see his real mom? gee a lot depends on the circumstances...
Are you holding back cause of personal feelings between you and her? don't think of yourself now, think of your son.... He is at an age where he knows whats going on, you would be surprised at how mature a child really can be, let them meet is my opinion.. To be on the safe side - maybe get some kind of court ruling...And of course you would be there also...
gl
2006-06-18 19:27:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not without a court order. Make her get one.
2006-06-18 19:21:07 · answer #8 · answered by Catfishchic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to take a flying F***
2006-06-18 19:21:36 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no just because she donated a egg it dont make her a mother please rethink this the joker
2006-06-18 19:23:52 · answer #10 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋