how to tell my husband that Im not happy in our marriage?

Question

I wanted to get out of this relationship,it feels like im in a cage.
My husband always hangs out with his friend,actually he has more time with his friends than with me.He comes home from work everyday,his just gonna spend an hour in the house,then his out with his friends again.Then he'll be back early in the morning..





I wanted to tell him about how I feel,that Im not happy anymore..
I realy need an advise...
specialy now Im going to have a baby by next month...

and I think he has an affair with some one else
i also want to confront him about this,but I dont know what to do and to say

thank you

Answer 1

The best thing you can do for yourself and your husband would be to be honest. If you tell him that you are unhappy he should want to change. Even offer him some suggestions but don't expect a change overnight. When he does make small changes let him know that you appreciate the change that way it will encourage him to continue to change. Marriage is not 50/50 it is 100/100. It will take a lot of work but a healthy marriage is worth the work.

Answer 2

firstly, you should never stand for abuse. one type leads to another...it starts verbally. he is emotionally threatening/abusing you with the phone number and leaving if YOU don't show romance. is he saying he wants sex or romance, they're not the same thing. how does he expect you to SHOW romance, or be sexually intersted when he acts like an a**? he's trying to get a rise out of you by telling you about the phone number and leaving you because he wants you to feel so badly that you'll give in, not because you too, are feeling the need to improve your marriage. you should never stay in a place where you're being abused but your situation is difficult because you're financially dependent on this man and he knows that. you've got make preparations to leave; saying you're planning to do so after you finish school isn't a plan because it will take time for you to find work, plus how much longer do you have before you're finished? is it possible that you can continue your courses at another school? is there family that can help you through until you become self-sufficient? get some help for yourself and your children. there's no reason to trade your self-esteem and self-respect for abuse. if he has major anger problems, he needs help so he can learn and employ self-control. he blows up because he has no self-control. also, the two of you may need to seek couples counseling.

Answer 3

I don't upstanding why lots of the married men hang around outside with friends and leave their lovely wife at home and alone,in your case ,you have to make it clear that you don't love this selfish guy any more,if your answer is no more,talk to him seriously and no more nonsense,tell him straight that you want a divorce and take action right the same day.If you can not give a definite answer to yourself or you still want together with at least give him one last chance,tell him you can't stand him and his behaviours any more ,is up to him to change back to normal or separate,and tell him that you think that he has an affair ,he has to stop it or you 're leaving him.
My advice seems stupid but that is the way to solve your problem,my experience and opinion is depends on different situations .

Answer 4

Honey, for right NOW...just focus on having that healthy baby, and put your love into that little life. Play happy music, not rap, but melodic guitar or piano music for it, and think happy thoughts. It will reduce any chance of complications in the birthing process, for you will want the baby to WANT to come out easily to GREET YOU!
Stress and angst will make the child want to STAY where it is safe and warm and UN-complicated.
The-jack-jerk of a husband, Pardon me, MAY come around after the child is born, and his hanging out with buds may be the thing that is helping him AVOID dealing with your issues just now--he probably is like most men and if it requires any work or effort to COMMUNICATE, THEY STINK AT IT AND AVOID IT LIKE THE PLAGUE!!!
I'd consider giving him a second chance to redeem himself as a father, and should he NOT come thru then, well, you and your baby will stand a better chance of getting financial aid and help once the baby makes his or her appearance.
I regret having to say this is such black and white terms, but
it is what it is.
Let YOUR husband be the ONLY idiot in the family,
and hope that the baby inherits his better genetic qualities!!!
Best to you, and I will personally keep you in my prayers.

Answer 5

Well I would be careful on how you talk to him. I would strongly seek family counseling or a priest who may be your go between and help your husband understand that you are both in this relationship together not just yourself. Especially with you expecting a child which will make things more complicated.
Good Luck to you.....

Answer 6

ok you should tell him how you are unhappy and how can he be out with his friends when you have a baby on the way you tell him he better change or you are leavin him because he is not worth for you to go through all of that drama and u should tell him how u suspect him with another woman you should just come out and ask him but if u r not upfront like that maybe u should write him a letter and express avery lil detail and feelings towards him hopefully he will understand but if he doesnt then you should tell him to leave

Answer 7

Talk to him right away!

If you have to - maybe even show him your post - and all the responses too.

With the baby on the way, it will only get worse if you don't get on top of this now.

See if he will go to counseling with you. Don't end it without trying to work it out. He cannot fix what he does not know is broken.

Good luck.

Answer 8

heres what you do,when he gets home from work be ready o go with him where ever he goes and when he tries to leave ,leave with him, jump in the car and tell him that you have o talk to him. tell him you are ired of him going out and want him to stay home for a change. tell him that you are tired of him being out with his friends, tell him you want to know if he is cheating on you.

or you can follow him and confront him when you see where he goes. see if he is cheating with a girl first before you go thru all this drama of accusing him.ry to cathc him in the act, check his cell phone bill, check the job, make sure he isnt seeing someone from work.talk to his friends, talk ot his family. you have to know whats going ot happen before this baby is born. you need solid proof that he is cheating beforethe next major step. you dont just want to guess right and make the wrong desision. good luck!!!

Answer 9

"Say" and "have the look" which conveys the following:
1/ I'm not happy with our marriage
2/ I'm not happy with our marriage
3/ I'm not happy with our marriage

Then cordially invite him to conclude the whole situation which ever way it will go. Do you adult mature part, and move on...... PS: you are a whiner, sis.

Answer 10

Well don't do it the way MY husband did, he left a note and then tried to justify the reason he left. Take the time to tell him that you both know it's not working, and work out the details. Do it the RIGHT way.