He is rarely at home because of his job but we talk constantly, day and night. He always wants to talk about sex and gets disappointed when I am not into it. When he is home, we're lucky if we have sex once. Porn and toys do not help anymore, we have a whole collection of both. We have always had role play and fantasy. I have tried to talk to him about it but he either gets frustrated and depressed that he's not doing it right or he gets mad that I can't seem to communicate exactly, step by step, what I am looking for. I don't know what to do anymore. I love him very much but this is starting to cause problems between us. Is there anything I can do other than fake enthusiasm and excitement?
2006-06-18 18:25:36 · 19 answers · asked by nikinm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
wheee, another wife that don't like sex, imagine that- you women should form a club or something
2006-06-18 18:29:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Things with sex are always complicated. I've never been married but for me there were times that I was not in the mood but I did have sex. You almost got to think of each time that you have sex its like the first time. You are nervous he is nervous. My suggestion is that maybe make the time, planit out in full advance as teh NIGHT. Do what ever makes you feel sexy, do what ever makes you happy. But try not to get frustraited over it and just let it happen.
2006-06-18 18:32:49 · answer #2 · answered by Dee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
counseling! people don't like to take that route for whatever reason (maybe some see it as a blow to the ego that a relationship would have to seek professional assistance)...but it's a lot better solution than the alternative: sitting back and hoping that problems would fix themselves. what could end up happening is that u'll start resenting ur hubby for wanting too much sex...or he might start cheating on u becuz that sexual excitement w/in the marriage isn't there anymore. counseling might not fix everything, but it definitely wouldn't hurt.
2006-06-18 18:48:47 · answer #3 · answered by koby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try some romance for awhile. Date nights, romantic dinners at home, seductive music during the meal. Romance may help you relax and remind both of you that you love each other and you can overcome anything TOGETHER. If you have certain things you enjoy than find a website, or books that may help you talk with him about it. But try a little romance too. Good luck. if you have any other questions please feel free to email me maybe i can help with talking with him about things you do like and want.
2006-06-18 18:30:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not married But I had a low sex drive sill I changed my birth control pill . Form a pill I took every day to Otho Evra. The patch you change one a week for 3 weeks. My sex drive has really jumped. You might want to look in to it. Good luck!
2006-06-18 19:11:21 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you've tried with the items which are mostly referred, then get counseling. What is it that causes you to rarely be in the mood? It will need to be resolved and soon if you don't want to loose your husband. His being away from home working will become longer but for different reasons if you don't watch it. Men like him will have to be satisfied, preferably by their wives, but by someone. It is easier for men to stray in marriages than most females. If it gets to that point, you won't be able to apologize for not taking care of his needs. He'll be apologizing for his being with someone who was willing to try and did take care of his needs. Wish you luck!
2006-06-18 18:37:48 · answer #6 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Purchase sex toys for him. Even a doll. That will keep him happy and you want have to worry if he's getting it somewhere else when you aren't interested. Maybe you can even watch him or role play. It's wild and exciting.
2006-06-18 18:31:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Silly as this may sound, try writing your feelings and thoughts on this in a letter to him. Sex is touchy subject for most of us. Perhaps the best way to communicate is to write it all down. Take is from there.
2006-06-18 18:30:54 · answer #8 · answered by driver 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks like divorce is on the way because both of your have either cheated already or you are going to do so soon. Sorry.
2006-06-18 18:30:19 · answer #9 · answered by spudric13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I am going through the same thing!!! My husband asks me to have sex with him often and at times (most times) I don't feel like it! My friend is going though the same thing. Just try to do it and try to enjoy it. Good luck.
2006-06-18 18:29:58 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Lily♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surprise him at the door in a robe and heels, have fun with it. Write him a story of your fantasy and put it in his lunch. It will get him thinkin and solve the problem of what you want out of him
2006-06-19 06:29:28 · answer #11 · answered by Luvnu_always baby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋