Why are woman out to take men for all they have in divorce. Even when they choose it.?

Answer 1

It depends. I was almost married, so let me see if my opinion helps.
I was with a military man for 2 years. I cleaned his house, washed his clothes, dealt with his whiny attitudes, cooked his meals, made sure rent and all other bills got paid, all while maintaning a 3rd shift, 40 hour a week job. I lost my job, did all I could to find a new job. He f*cked up his money, his job, all the bills, his car payment, and the car itself. I, the loving fiance that I was, went out and worked 2 jobs-one over night, one weekend AND babysat to make ends meet, get the bills paid, put food on the table, get the car back, all while I was 4 months pregnant.
And what did I get in return for everything I ever did for him? He cheated on me, and tossed me out the house in the middle of the night, all the while blaming me for his immaturity. So you can be damn sure when I left I took everything with me. Why? Because I was owed that, and so much more.
And no, I'm not bitter, that's just the facts of what happened. So maybe for some other women who go through what I did, yeah we feel like it's owed. But then again for others who sit on their lazy butts, don't do anything around the house, don't work, don't cook, don't clean, don't appreciate their men and then THEY decide to leave-I have no idea what their problem is.

Answer 2

Before you read this, know I am NOT the reason for the break down in the marriage I discuss below, my boyfriends'. I did not even meet him until 5 month's after his wife moved out.

I am a woman and wonder why "some" women are so cruel. My boyfriends' divorce will hopefully be over in 8 day's. It was a short marriage (they will be married 8 year's exactly the day it finalizes, if the date is not changed). They had no children or property together. She moved out a year ago by her choice & kicked him outta the bedroom 5 years prior for a reason that was not worth 5 year's of serarate bedrooms which included no love, hug's, kisses, time spent together. It was an unfair punishment. So anyway, do the math-8 year marriage minus 1 year since she's been gone minus 5 year's of separate bedroom's equals 2 years of a marriage. Well she worked part time while he worked full time plus major overtime to provide for her & HER (not his) 3 minor kid's. So when she leaves a year ago, she has a leased car in her name but he's the co-signer, so he maintains the payments and insurance so nothing would happen with his credit if she did not pay and to help her get on her own two feet. When she moved, she also took his savings bonds that he has payroll deducted, get this, she makes him buy each one back, one at a time for the face value. He does it because he wanted them back. She uses a charge card he is responsible to pay as well, runs up a few grand in debt. So then they agree to use UAW Legal Services (a free legal service for UAW workers) for their divorce. Using the service, they would represent themselves and the service does all the paperwork for free & they just pay the filing fee's of $150.00. Well in order for the service to help, it has to be an uncontested divorce. My boyfriend just wnted it over quickly & easy so he agreed to pay off her lease car & purchase it outright for her which was just a few bucks short of eleven thousand dollars. So he meets her at the UAW legal services, where a Notary Public is handy to have her sign an agreement stating that she will NOT be entitled to any of his retirement, spousal support/alamony, medical coverage or any other financial gain now or in the future. She all of a sudden tells him while there that she will not sign it & that she wanted more than the eleven thousand car. So he says screw it and hires an attorney that specializes in mens divorce. So they go to court last week for the "settlement", the dumb BIT*H gets $900.00 a month in temporary spousal support until the divorce is final which is only day's away now, but I am sure her attorney will get the date changed to get her more money outta it. He also has 2 month's to pay her attorney fee's of two thousand dollars and there is a chance he still my have to continue to pay spousal support after the divorce is final.

This is an outrage, he works for Ford Motor Company, his job IS on the line right now, his plant is one Ford is considering closing down. He's been laid off a lot this year and is currently getting no overtime, well not enough to mention anyway. He's bringing in like $2,500.00 a month minus her $900.00 which leves him $1600.00 to live on, the house is a grand a month which leaves him like $600.00-$700.00 a month left to live on between utilties, vehicle expenses & groceries. It's good I have a nice solid income monthly or he'd be fuc*ed big time!!

I am so pissed that she even fells she deserves this from him. He has been nothing but good to her & she cheated on him while still in the same house, he never did see anyone else until me which was 5 months after she left. He had hope that the marriage would work out. I just don't get why she treats him this way. I could maybe see it if he was an abusive, lying, cheating man. But he really is so far from that, he's a good man, the kind that is hard to come by these days.

Answer 3

From a female perspective...
I WAS married, so let me see if my opinion helps.
I was with an educated man for 22 years.
I cleaned his house, washed his clothes, sorted his socks and folded his underwear, ironed his sheets and shirts, dealt with his attitudes, cooked ALL his meals, Paid for EVERY grocery item and toilet paper and kleenex that ever entered the house, remembered all his family birthdays and created lovely things
out of NOTHING all the time.
I made sure all my bills got paid, all the house maintained,
the new roof, the car repairs, the property taxes (2500 + K!)
the yard mowed and tended ALL by myself, had NO insurance for my health, so rarely got medical attention unless I was in a car wreck!....as a result a tumor grew in me that went undetected before he announced his intention to leave...(and I never told him about THAT as a ploy to KEEP him with me!!!).... the garbage taken out ALL those years By me, the queen of the home, right?!!!... all while not doing a darn thing for myself--no girlie things like hair, shopping,nails or makeup because I HAD to choose to put the responsibility of the security of our home first---him first, always him first.

He, also, like the other lady's guy, messed up his money, came into the relationship with 25 K in credit card debt, blew his inheritance from his mother on the Monex Market (gambling!)
had quit his job, and whined that he did not want to do the thing he was educated to do.... but what he wanted to do.

Hello????????????????
Welcome o the REAL world!

I, the loving wife that I was, went out and worked any job I could over all the years to make the bills met on my end.
Did NOT go shopping for pretty clothes, did NOT get noticed by him for my efforts to be a blasted Martha Stewart and creating a lovely home for HIM......he did NOTcelebrate me on my birthday,acted like giving me a Christmas gift was a chore, and forget an anniversary event!!!
I gave up having a child , because I never could be sure we could feed it, much less educate it!!!!
I could have been a bookend for all he noticed.

Flowers? Forget about it!!!

And what did I get in return for everything I ever did for him?

He ignored me most of the time, and finally cheated on me, and tossed ME out of his heart in the middle of the 18th or 21st year, all the while acting so neglected and injured.

So you might well think
that when I left I took
everything with me.

Why? Because I was owed that, and so much more.

BUT I DID NOT TAKE ANYTHING THAT I DID NOT BRING INTO THE RELATIONSHIP!!!!!

I asked for NOTHING from him, no alimony, no insurance, no nothing--he found security in a retired female student who was a retired doctor, and he moved out to live with her just before Christmas, AFTER I found a hundred new condoms in his drawer while sorting and putting away his underwear.... and ten of HER pieces of clothing hanging in his closet while I was putting away the shirts I was ironing for HIM....He took with him the bedroom furniture that I bought for him, all the clothes that I bought for him, his papers, his computer, his "stuff" and the 7 K dining room table that I bought from an Estate sale...with my earnings.

And yes, I WAS bitter, that's just the facts of what happened for us.

The pain made me hope SHE'd get hit by a bus!
I felt so much anger and hurt I'd have taken him to the cleaners with a pair of tweezers... but chose not to do any of that.

He was not happy with me.
I was not happy with him.
I felt like a maid, and am only sorry we did not
divorce after the first year.
What a waste!

So maybe for some other women who go through what I did, yeah we FEEL like it's owed.
But then again, for others -
who sit on their lazy fannies,
the ones that don't DO anything around the house,
don't work,
don't cook,
don't clean,
don't appreciate their men
and then THEY decide to leave???
I have no idea what their problem is.

I have just learned that any future relationship will not be 0/100
it will not be 50/50....it will be 100/100. I'm not going to carry anyone else for another 20 years....because
that is about all I have left.
If any married men are reading this, please reflect, think, and figure out if any of this might apply to YOU as well. Print it out and show it to your wife and get her opinion...that will tell you if you are on track with her, or if you are missing HER G-spot as well, her physical as well as emotional G-spot, that is!!!
It is not too late for you to learn and shift to a happier place for both of you.

Answer 4

because some women are materialistic, self centered and money grubbers. i on the other hand do not need objects to keep me happy: just lot of love and hot passion.

Answer 5

They feel like they are owed it. Plus society seems to think they deserve more than their fare share because they are female. Yet, they want equal rights. Hmmm!!!

Answer 6

Because all females are two-faced. They cheat on you and they still take half of your shlt.

Answer 7

becasue they dont know diddilly squat !!