hes jealous of me having a very best girlfriend after 9yrs of being married, he tells me if i ever leave him he would kill me and the person i leave him for, Im also interested in law enforcement and he told me i would never patrol because he knew the sheriff and he would put a stop to that and also if i ever divorced him he would ruin me because he knows so many people in our town. i do think he loves me. He also doesnt want to go to marriage counseling after we've been to two, he says he doesnt have any problems, we also only have sex about once a month, is normal for a 32yr old female me and a 39yr old male? confused and tired of asking for for a little attention and help with our children, he never plays with them, but always goes out of his way to do things for his work and my family, need some advice
2006-06-18 18:10:18 · 5 answers · asked by bella 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He loves you but he is VERY insecure and afraid of losing you because he looks at his self as not being good enough for you. It's really that simple.
2006-06-18 18:51:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, if he can have control over the sheriff in town, you should go into a big city and get the cops to come. You have probably never shown signs of wanting to cheat on him, and he is probably very insecure. He has made death threats to you, and he isn't even comfortable with you having a female friend. Maybe he does love you (no one knows for sure), but he still is abusive. You are in an abusive relationship. Your husband is clearly a controlling person. You both need counseling, especially your husband. Does he hit you? Talk to a counselor alone.
He's afraid of the cops, because he knows what he is doing is wrong, so he threatens you about it. He seems like a lazy freeloader who never does any work and never cares for you or the kids. In a relationship, both parties need respect. He doesn't respect you. He needs to change, or you need to leave him. If he cared about you or the relationship, he would listen to you and try to change or try marriage counseling again. Please save yourself and your kids.
2006-06-19 01:18:09 · answer #2 · answered by King Yellow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see how he really loves you at all. He just loves controlling and running your life like a sheriff and father. You need to go for counseling and help. You need to separate and get divorced and once the divorce is final then go to a place he will never find you. You also need to call Doctor Phil about this and go on his show and talk about this and get help. He does have problems and BIG ones whether he admits it or not and let him know that if he kills you and anyone else for that matter it is murder and that he will do time for it!
2006-06-19 06:36:49 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you think he love you you married him not loving your self are knowing what love was it not controlling] threats[ honey the man is a big bag of wind blowing all that hot air to you no one can force you to stay with them i dont care who they know in the town he needs to know GOD who has the power you dont need a marriage counseling you need a divorce attorney stop living in fear start living your life to the fullest go after your job and tell him to kiss where the sun never shine good luck and stop being his puppet
2006-06-19 01:29:20 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bella, there are other towns you can move to. My advice is to get to a womens shelter immediately! Your guy is a powder keg ready to blow, and if you really love your children, you'll get them out of this situation NOW.
2006-06-19 03:58:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋