should my boyfriend let his friend sleep with other girls in our private space in his bed?

Question

my boyfriend and i dont live together but we spend nights together. we are very serious about each other but i am upset because he allows his friend to bring other girls in his bed and have sex. i think that is very demeaning to me and i also think its disgusting b/c that is our private space and i shouldnt have to lay down behind other girls. he thinks i am overreacting. what is your take.

Answer 1

I'm a guy and I agree with you. It's improper that your love nest is moonlighting as a hot sheets motel. Tell your bf that you will not have sex in that bed again unless his friend finds another place to do the deed.

To get his respect you'll have to stick to this and he will cave in for you if he really cares about you. He just needs to understand how serious you are about this topic.

Good luck,

m

Answer 2

You do have a point. A couple's territory should not be intruded upon. It is very demeaning, and I do agree with you. But I also see that it is your boyfriend's room, and I see that he, although without better judgement of your feelings, has the right to do what he likes with his room. Yet, I do see why you think this is wrong, because it is. I don't think you are over-reacting, but i do think your boyfriend should think more about your feelings than he is right now.

Oh, and by the way, even if it IS his room, that doesn't mean he should intrude on your "private space."

Hope this helps you.

Answer 3

Is he also in the bed when his friend is having sex? If so, then that's wrong... way wrong.

Otherwise, as long as they clean up, what's the deal. You've stayed at hotels before right? What do you think has been going on in those beds, just sleeping? You put a UV lamp to those beds and it's the 4th of July fireworks in full florescent coloring...

Answer 4

i think your right , if his friends wants to do that tell him get his own place are take them to a motel, i cannt blame you for bein so upset that is wrong, tell your boyfriend either this stops are you want be coming over for the night , does he understand what these girls might have like crabs are worse, put your foot down if he cares enough he will tell his friend to use the floor, are use the door an leave . get him a air matress tell him use it, dont let this go keep at your boyfriend , either he stops it are you want be getting in thet bed, good luck girl

Answer 5

He shouldn't be letting her sleep in his bed. I'd be concerned that she is lying and he believes her. It would bother me too that if she gets mad about something he gives in to her. Sounds like she likes causing problems and she can control him.

Answer 6

Well I wouldn't say that's ideal.....but wash the sheets and let it go. My question is why is your boyfriend repeatedly letting his friend sleep in his bed at all? Doesn't this guy have a bed of his own?

Answer 7

A Big NOoooooooooooooo

Answer 8

That is so lame. Is he a complete moron or what? Doesn't his friend have a bed? This sounds like complete bullshit. Did you find someones panties in his bed and this is the story that he told you? This just doesn't usually happen. I am suspicious!

Answer 9

Ok 1st of all that's creepy. 2nd if he doesn't care how u feel about it maybe you should let him know or explain how uncomfortable it is to have sex with him in the same bed that anther couple have been using in.

Answer 10

Yea, it is pretty yucky. You're not overreacting - I wouln't wan a girl to do that, & I wouln't do that.

You're gonna have to sit him down and have a chat. Don't make him wrong, just be honest & informative.