Pros and Cons of dating or marrying an older/younger person?

Question

LET SAY.............YOU AND YOUR PARTNER IS AT LEAST 5 OR MORE YEARS IN AGE DIFFERENCE...........HOW WAS IT FINANCIALLY, EMOTIONALLY, AND ETC.......?

P.S.
10 POINTS TO ANYONE THAT CAN GIVE ME A STORY.

Answer 1

Well my mom and dad married when she was 19 and he was 27. they are still together 40 years later.

My last dating relationship was to this young lady who is 46. I am 39. it was the best relationship in my life. Age should not matter, Love and commitment is what matters

Answer 2

I don't think I can give you a STORY but....there are so many things I could say about this. A lot of guys like to date women who are younger because they look good, and it probably makes them feel good about themselves to be older and somewhat "wiser" or more accomplished than their younger girlfriends. It may also make them feel younger, just to be around someone who is younger. On the other hand, I think everyone tires a little, of being around someone who isn't on the same LEVEL as them - it can be quite annoying in fact to be around people who want to party until 4 a.m. every night, when you've been there, done that, and now realize that you can't support yourself financially, and have the other things that you want out of life, by living that type of lifestyle. From the girls perspective - a lot of girls like older men because they want someone to take charge, make decisions and to take care of them. Some women just like older men because they are more emotionally mature and that's a plus. However if you date a significantly older guy with money, I think you run a bigger risk of being left for someone prettier and younger. A lot of guys who have money and date younger women, are into appearances and their egos. Then again if you date men (or boys) your own age, they might not be emotionally mature enough to handle a real relationship. I think the bottom line is that age doesn't matter so much, as long as you aren't looking SPECIFICALLY for say, older men with money. If you look for a partner and base your preferences on shallow characteristics, then you're probably going to end up in a relationship that is built on shallow characteristics. And if that's what you want, great, but if you want something real, you should change your criteria.

Answer 3

I dated a man eighteen years my senior; he was forty-two to my twenty-four, so it wasn't anything dirty or illegal. He was actually my first love, although we never consummated the relationship.

The relationship, for all of its problems, was really good. I had dated guys my own age before, but they always ended up hitting me and sometimes being verbally abusive -- not fun. My older guy was always kind and treated me as a peer and an equal. I always felt safe and comfortable with him. He taught me a lot about respecting differences and getting along with others. So much other stuff too, but I'm not writing a novel here. Suffice to say, he changed a lot of my more cynical views about life with his endless experience and optimism.

The problems...were probably not a result of his age; honestly, I would sell my soul to be able to figure out what happened. After a while, the relationship stopped progressing. Just settled into this holding pattern. He couldn't be affectionate, and I desperately needed that. So I broke up with him because never being able to be intimate with him made me feel inadequate.

Fifteen months of my life I'll never get back. I still love him even now, but I wish I hadn't wasted so much time on a guy so emotionally distant and repressed.

Answer 4

Since 1965--for 41 years--every woman in my life for extended periods have all been seven to 18 years younger. During each relationship, including two marriages, I have always been the major challenge. When I was younger, I had to deal with my insecurities, driven by a blazing temper. As I grew older and overcame anger and other insecurities, my challenges included learning to be trustworthy and trusting. I've enjoyed being the "older man" in these relationship, particularly after I learned to be a man. For example, I've learned to be patient which literally means to never be disappointed, because you place no expectations on others, only on yourself.
For example, in one relationship, I used to be upset because I cared more about a clean house than the woman I lived with. After stewing for awhile, I finally set a personal policy--I will clean the house myself, rather than express disappointment because "my woman" didn't.
Patience, kindness, understanding and forgiveness operate as key factors in any effective relationship. They are particularly necessary when there's five year or more age difference.
The biggest payoff in these relationships, though, is that I have the blessing of being the wiser of the two. That's a joy when, by wisdom, I am able to promote peace, reassure romance, and pursue passion fearlessly and lovingly.

Answer 5

They are the same pros and cons as with someone your same age. My dad had 3 marriages, one of his wifes was 4 yrs yngr, one was 13 yrs younger, one was (is) 15 yrs younger. All of my brothers are with younger women, 2 of them a lot younger. My sis has a husband that is 9 yrs older than her.
Success can be in different degrees, it just depends on whether or not you love and respect each other and whether or not you have common goals for the future.

Answer 6

My husband is 6yrs older than me. I'm 21 and he's 27. When we first got 2gether I was only 18. So he was really protective over me, like I was a little kid but he soon grew out of that. I like having an older guy becuz even tho he is 6yrs older than me we are still on the same level as far as maturity goes. Maybe i act older than my age or he acts younger than his but we are still on the same level which is gr8.
One thing that was a downfall was that my mom didn't like it at all, she was really upset by the fact that he was 6yrs older than me and actually didn't want nething 2 do wit either of us. But she learned that he's taking care of his responsibilities and stepping up as a real man becuz let's face it there's not many out there nowadays and she's accepting of us, and I don't think ppl really notice we've got the age gap unless u kno how old we are. I make fun of him tho and tell him that i'll have to help him up steps and stuff when we get older becuz he's getting 2 be an old man, i guess that's one of our inside jokes. haha.

Answer 7

Once you get into your 30's, 5 years is not a big difference at all. My parents are 7 years difference, and happily married for 37 years. My wife and I are 6 years apart. The only real potential issue is maturity levels, if both people are mature enough to handle it there are no issues.

Answer 8

My wife and I have been married for 35 years. I'm 5 years older than she is. We have had our ups and downs, but I couldn't think of doing it with anyone else. When you find the right person to share your life with, it doesn't matter what the age different is, because it is wonderful.

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Answer 10

haha, i had the same dilemma a couple of weeks ago, i'm 21 and she's 26.We both got jobs.The thing is that i finally decided to ask her out, and it's been so cool since then, she's amazing, at first people started to talk, but i realized that age is only a number and, since they see that we get along so good, they are ok with it now. My suggestion is that, in the end, it's your life, you decide what to do with it, and if you both don't mind about age, then just go for it.