she wants a divorce part 2?

Question

She let me take our son with me but wants me to bring him back in a month when i return to ne (where i live) She will not try coucling. I love this women with all of my heart and soul. she is my world, on the man to women level. Everyone else always said we were made for eachother. She was so sweet now she is just being mean. I am scared of the thought of being 22 divorced with a 2 year old little boy seems like a lot of baggage. The reason why i am going out on the street and not her is because she was the bread winnner while i was a stay at home daddy so that our son didnt have to go to child care. She has told me for the past 2 1/2 years thatshe doesnt want me to work. Now she says all this. I just want to drift into a light pole while im driving. I dont know what to do. I want her back. Does everyone really feel like its too late. i plan on giving her, her space if thats what she needs.

Im not considering suicide. I would never kill myself.

and i dont think my son is bagage i just thought others might

Answer 1

You need to alk to her.If you can make it work, do it.Sometimes no matter how we feel about someone, it just wasn't meant to be.If she really wants a divorce you oughta try to get alimony since she didnt want you to work and you relyed on her for support, just until you can get on your feet.I know it sounds like things are hard right know, but your 2 yr old needs his father.Dont hurt yourself because you need to be here for him.No matter what happens in your marriage.I was married when I was 19 yrs old.By the time I was 21, pregnant with our second child, my husband cheated on me and wanted a divorce.Then he went through a phase were he'd want me one minute and not the next.Trust me, life goes on.I got divorced from him and am now in a happy, healthy marriage, which we work at everyday.I have 4 kids, all of which live with me.Two by my first husband and two by my husband now.I am very happy.Sometimes you have to go through bad things to grow and get into happier things.But maybe you will work it out.You need to do what you feel is right for you.Pray to God and ask Him to help you decide.Good luck and take care of you and your son(who needs his daddy***Happy fathers day!!!)

Answer 2

MAN, YOU DO NOT WANT TO DRIFT IN TO A LIGHT POLE! YOU HAVE A SON! YOU ARE A DAD! I know what you mean by saying that. Many of us have been there; thought the same things; thought our lives were over, etc. You are not alone and you are not different, even though, I know, it feels that way.

I know this is probably least important, but I want to address it. There is no shame in being a 22 year old dad that is divorced. I know it seems like it, because you never wanted that for your son, you would have never done anything to cause that and you blame yourself...no matter who is at fault.

First things first, you are there for your son. Lots of dudes are not. Next issue, you are going to continue to be there for him. No girl that you would want would frown on that. You were married to your childs mother. That is respectful. Finally, your wife was the reason you are in this position. You married the girl you loved. You did the right thing. She did not. No girl, that you would want, would look down their nose at you. Girls know, more than anyone, how evil other girls are. If things don't work out, you will be alright.

As for how to handle your wife, there is no right answer man. You have to ask yourself if you will be able to fully trust her, fully forgive her and not beat her up (mentally) over this episode for a long, long time. You have to ask yourself how much pain you can take. A person can only handle so much.

It is a tough situation. I wish you the best.

If you keep thinking about that light pole, CALL SOMEONE.

Answer 3

Hey Ben - get yourself a set of stones , she seems to have taken them from you, take them back they're yours When all else fails .....attack!!! She cares neither about you nor your child .In fact she abandoned both of you to pursue the demons of her own insecurities . Call a lawyer and tell the atty that she is an unfit mother and that not only do you want full custody of your son but you want her to pay you child support- that should get her attention.
there are some very damaged people in this world that can never ever be made happy. Those of us who try to do so ,do so at our own peril'
whatever you do Ben K do not kill yourself- think of the irony your son would be raised by the parent that abandoned him rather than the parent that loves him. Do not allow that double tragedy to happen
let us know how this all worked out

Answer 4

You're only 22 with only 1 kid? That's not a big deal at all. BTW, the kid is NOT baggage. He is your son.

You have your whole life ahead of you, deal with it and move on.

Some of us have had a wife that wanted out of the marriage when we are in our late 40's with 3 kids after 20 years of marriage and have made it through... get a backbone.

Answer 5

all you can do is be kind and wait if you care this much, but keep in mind she may not want you back .the fact she wont even consider counsiling says alot and it isnt anything good. Still as i said before we cant make people love us.Even thinking of taking your own life is selfish! what about that little boy .how can you thinka women is more important than your child! Now you be strong I dont want to hear that nonsense again!

Answer 6

Look, this woman is not worth losing your life over. You have a son that needs you and if you can't get it together for yourself, at least do it for your son. As far as wanting to see her son, she should of thought of that before she decided to act like a fool. She wants to set all the rules and be in control. She can only do this if you allow it. You should be more scared that she will abandoned your son if she gets him full time and give you some nasty disease.

Answer 7

a part of being a husband and the man of the house is to support the family she sees you now as a unimportant part of the family a no body say to speak that was your first down fall her telling you you cant work thats like having two kids at home if you decide to end your life for the love of GOD take the baby out he dosent deserve the two of you as parents and should be placed in foster care you dont need her you need help you are unstable and dont love your self talking like a fool i really see her point you are to inmature to be a husband and dad

Answer 8

when i read this it broke my heart, this lady sounds like a real you no waht, you sound like a great guy, right now everthing things seems to be loking really bad but just give your self time, please dont take your own life think of ur child, if you get a job meet other woman you would see ther is good ones out there, far as having a child woman love those that take care of ther kids, down the road your going to see that maybe this was for the best, i know where ur coming from me an the man i with have been toghter for 26 years he has cheated an cheated im a good x wife an i belive in trust i will never get it from him. we are inthe same room an dont speak, i feel all alone , but i thouht of taken my life but he is not worth it, if i had one good friend are one good family member i leave , but i have no one, so im stuck , please dont make the same mostake i have, there is someone out for you dont let this lady drive you down, fine someone else in time an show her left over are better reheat , it will be her loss in the long run, be there for your chid put all you have in making his life worth living for , hope only the best for you , good luck keep all of us posted own how this turn out, your going to be ok it takes time for the heat to heal . onces you get it out of your head your heart will be fine . best of luck

Answer 9

I am sorry i don't know exactly what is going on. I haven't read the first part and lost some information's but according to the 2 part ...Maybe, she doesn't really dump you just give you a little "punishment". She hope you are going to be a real man after you hv thru this.

Answer 10

It takes two to make a relationship work. She gone Hon!!! File the paperwork and move on. If she has been the bread winner with consent, you rate child support and spousal support(until you are on your feet). Your son needs you,so get up and get things done. Seek counseling if you need it. Peace.