My friend got in a fight with me over the weekend and it ended pretty brutaly. After i punched him twice in the gut he took a fork and stabbed it in my eye. It left my right eye completley useless and the doctors had to remove all of the dead eye that was left. I can now only see out of 1 eye. My friend said he was terribly sorry and didn't mean to do this. Should I forgive him?
2006-06-18 17:20:57 · 33 answers · asked by Borat K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It won't be easy but u should try.
2006-06-18 17:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also know a guy that lost an eye in a fight (actually the guy that took the other guy's eye), but it was to a thumb. If a person is willing to go to that extreme, that is only a step above killing someone. Well I always like to give people a second chance, but what he did was really bad. I would say you might as well forgive him, so you don't have the burden of hate or anger on you. But I wouldn't necessarily be his friend again. You don't want to suffer another violent attack.
2006-06-18 17:27:23 · answer #2 · answered by professional student 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound legite to me, because if you were just stabbed in the eye this weekend and are alraedy on the net and asking the question, wow, you recover quick! I would say you should forgive friend, maybe next time the fight will like take off a limb or something! Gool luck to ya!
2006-06-18 17:26:36 · answer #3 · answered by gypsilee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depending on how well you 2 get along most the time or if you get in fights alot. If you seem to be fighting more and more it sounds like the friendship is over and you need to just move on. If you really think it was just an accident and you get along fine normaly then I would say you prob should forgive him.If you are one to hold a grudge, then walk away from the friendship now.
2006-06-18 17:28:36 · answer #4 · answered by dafreek7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a really hard question. In time yes. You should forgive. But, I would not say that you should remain buddies behind that. He has permantly damaged you in such a way that you will be affected for the rest of your life both mentally and physically. It could take years for you to recover from the blow. Forgive him immediately, but, then sever the ties with this person so that you can work on trully healing from within. Trust me, if you go back around him it is bound to come up how he dismembered you and you will unleash on him all of your pent up resentment. Forgive and move on. Literally.
2006-06-18 17:26:03 · answer #5 · answered by Oracle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that all depends on you. How close of friends have you been in the past? Has it been lifetime, or just a few years? Do you feel in your heart that you could forgive him? See it depends on your situation. If you think you'll hold a grudge for the rest of your life, and always be reminded of loosing your eyesight everytime your with him, it's probably better if you both go your seperate ways. But if you can be around him and you can forget about what he did to you, you could probably make the friendship work.
I'd think about it for a while or try being around him for a few hours and then see how you feel. Good Luck with whatever your decision.
2006-06-18 17:31:56 · answer #6 · answered by Ashlynn B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend you just met two weeks ago at work, or your life long friend that you've known since kindergarten? That's no way for a friend to treat another friend.
I'll press some charge, or sue the bastard for the eye. You lost an eye man... it wasn't like he broke your arm and you could have it reset and it'll heal.
I'd say he took your left eye, you take out his left nutt. That's fair. You'll lose depth perception, but he'll loose ball perception.
2006-06-18 17:32:01 · answer #7 · answered by DarthFangNutts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As insane as this may sound...yes, you should forgive his action. Anger causes us to do terrible things we probably never thought we'd do. He is sorry, and I'm not going to sit here and say I know how you feel....cause I don't. I never experienced anything like that. But I do want to encourage you, that if you do not know Jesus as your savior, accept him into your heart. He'll teach you how to forgive. He is the ultimate forgiver.
He said we must forgive our enemies and turn the other cheek. Unforgiveness will take a huge toll on enjoying your life in spite of your physical impairment. It festers and NEVER resolves anything. It only brings more anger upon more anger. So I just encourage you to forigve, I myself had worse issues with unorgiveness. But since I am trying to live my life for God, I know that he doesn't forgive those who don't forgive others.
2006-06-18 17:28:13 · answer #8 · answered by Enigma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive him because God says we should forgive. Pray about it if you need help forgiving him. It is possible to forgive him in your heart and not talk to him any more. Tell him you have forgiven him in your heart and will not hold a grudge but you don't wish to be his friend any more. I would do this, because it sounds like he's dangerous to be around and you two do not make a good pair.
2006-06-18 17:24:04 · answer #9 · answered by cucumberlarry1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, press charges, ans sue his sorry bottom. Even though you punched him, he took it to far in relatiation. You wil both probvably go to jail, but if you at least press charges, you might get some financial support from the state to pay for medical expenses.
Good Luck
2006-06-18 17:23:26 · answer #10 · answered by samanny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think: if you had taken the fork and stabbed it in HIS eye and he couldnt see out of one eye would HE forgive YOU? its really a matter of what your friendship was like before that incident
2006-06-18 17:25:56 · answer #11 · answered by jis10sk8er 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋