Are "sensitive" and "weak", synonymous terms?
Is it all just a matter of self-control?
2006-06-18 17:09:24 · 12 answers · asked by Caroline 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I'm not depressed, I'm simply looking for different viewpoints, thanks.
2006-06-18 17:20:42 · update #1
I'm not sure, Caroline. I do think that through hard experience, a person does generally grow stronger with age. But serious emotional pain or upset is still going to hurt, no matter when in life it happens to you. With maturity and the wisdom of accumulated years, it's likely that we learn how to better respond to such injuries. We may, for example, conceal the fact we've been hurt at all (or at least try to).
Speaking as a sensitive and compassionate person who also happens to be exceedingly strong (emotionally and otherwise), I see absolutely zero connection between sensitivity and weakness. To the contrary, I think the weakest individuals I've ever encountered in this life are those who are in denial about their true feelings and attempt to bully and bluster in lieu of revealing their true selves to others. It's really quite sad... pathetic, really.
Self-control is a nice quality but being yourself is better still. If someone close to you has hurt you, I think it's far better to tell them, discuss the matter with them, even confront them, than to simply exercise "self-control" and pretend nothing happened. Self-restraint is good but if self-control means trying to not feel what you actually are feeling (read denial), well, it's a fraud and thus a losing cause altogether.
Anyway, I'm glad you're not depressed, my friend. Be sensitive (and yes, this is strong, not "weak") and be yourself. :)
2006-06-19 16:42:01 · answer #1 · answered by MacSteed 7 · 22⤊ 4⤋
Good question - but it depends on the personality. Since you're female and I am too I think I might understand. I've become more sensitive over time - but I've also become a bit wiser in how I deal with people, still when I do get hurt, I get hurt badly. As you grow and mature as a person, you understand more things about life. So there's more things to who you are and so there's more potential for getting hurt in new ways, and the intensity of relationships gets sharpened up. Weak is not synonymous with sensitive, they're quite each other's opposite - weak is not being brave, it's evading any possibility of getting hurt where if you're sensitive (but not oversensitive) then you perceive things right and act accordingly. Sensitivity is strong because it means you're not denying your own humanity and emotions. Self-control only has so much to do with it. Don't stop trusting people because they've hurt you - you have the right to, but for yourself it's better to trust people. Hope it all gets better.
2006-06-18 18:24:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
No luv, and it's ok to be sensitive and if you are, you are certainly NOT weak.
And trust me no amount of self control will change it, and with age you just learn how to use your gift.
With age you'll learn how to read people, you'll just know what they're feeling and be able to prevent them from hurting you.
Remember never take hurt full things personally, those close to us may say things we think are hurt full because they are hurting just let them know you understand and can try to help, those who don't know us.....well...... their opinions don't really matter.
Take heart from one "sensitive" person to another, embrace it and use it, just don't pay attention to the negative people who only want to hurt cause they hurt and you'll be just fine.
Don't sweat the small stuff, it's all small stuff.
2006-06-18 17:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by liathano70 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it should. Most people are emotionally hurt by someone early in life such as a boyfriend dumping you.
Remember this old addage: "Fool me once, your fault, Fool me twice my Fault."
Be happy with yourself and move on.
Sensitive and Weak are not the same. Sensitive is a good thing, being weak is not.
2006-06-18 17:31:49 · answer #4 · answered by Risk_Kay 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Not if we're lucky. The thing that keeps us vulnerable to hurt, makes us able to feel love and joy and peace.
When you turn off your emotions, you don't really get to choose which ones you want off and which ones get left on.
It takes a lot of strength to remain sensitive.
That being said, learning to deal with hurt well is a matter of self-control and may increase with maturity.
2006-06-19 18:42:46 · answer #5 · answered by Contemplative Chanteuse IDK TIRH 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you are progressing as a human being, it gets much better as you get older. Although, some people grow older and learn nothing. It depends on each persons emotional path. I have become much more self-confident and as a result, care a heck of a lot less about what people think of me. I know the only true judge is God and as long as he's happy with me and I'm happy with me, no one else's opinion really matters.
2006-06-18 17:50:15 · answer #6 · answered by WiserAngel 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Not necesarily. Every1 is sensitive to something. But when it shows up it becomes weakness. Self control is the key.
2006-06-18 18:57:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't get why we would become less emotionally sensitive as they get older-- that doesn't really follow, and no, I don't think "sensitive" and "weak" are synonymous.
2006-06-18 17:15:47 · answer #8 · answered by Charles G 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
The term "dealing with it" is not a thing earned by age.
If you are becoming depressed over such things seek adivise either spiritual or medical (phsycologist).
2006-06-18 17:15:41 · answer #9 · answered by d20group 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm always amazed by my infinite ability to be hurt,Caroline! (trying to joke,to see if I can smile...)
I'm good at recovering,usually,but sometimes t's not easy and some days are particularly difficult.:(
Be well,my friend!:)
2006-06-19 22:03:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋