I met a married man who is in a loveless relationship, him and his wife hav not had sex for 4 years, they sleep in separte rooms and don't really communicate. I know he loves me, but, I am very religious and don't believe in divorce. Is it wrong to stay in this type of relationship? Even though they had no sex life before I came in the picture, will i be considered as a home wrecker? Does he deserve to be married to someone he does not love? and how would God view this situation?
2006-06-18 16:48:15 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How is it that you don't believe in divorce but believe in infidelity?? It is NEVER ok to begin a relationship with a married man. Hopefully he will get a divorce, which would be better for him, her, and you. I don't think God cares if he gets a divorce, all God wants is for his children to be happy and serve him right.
2006-06-18 17:00:19 · answer #1 · answered by linds_a_lot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, him and his wife have a problem and you taking care of his "needs" isn't ultimately solving it. If the wife ever finds out, I'm sure you will be considered a homewrecker, even if that isn't your intention. If you're really "religious" and don't believe in divorce, how can you support adultry? That is what you're doing. Not to mention, if this does end in a divorce and you end up with him in the long run, who's to say the same won't happen to you? You'll just be on the other side of the situation. Don't waste your time.
And as for God's view on the situation, check out:
http://www.gotquestions.org/divorce-remarriage.html
Good luck.
2006-06-19 00:17:59 · answer #2 · answered by likes_to_stay_anonymous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you can not say that you are a religious person who doesn't belive in divorce in the same paragraph that you say that your are sleeping with a married man, such bullsh**. It is never ok to sleep with a married man, you are a home wrecker. It is his problem that he is in a loveless marriage. He must not be a man if he can't get out of it. So when he starts sleeping with someone else besides you using the same line, don't feel bad cause I am sure it is different with you.
2006-06-18 23:54:45 · answer #3 · answered by buxomkity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose the first thing I would ask myself would be: you are only getting HIS side of the story; can you verify what he is saying is true? Unfortunately, this "line" is used quite often. If, somehow, you could find out difinitively that, yes, she refuses to have sex with him, period, well... you could think more on it, then. Are there children involved? Is it a money situation; is divorce financially impossible? How does your religious viewpoint allow cheating, but not divorce? I think that everyone deserves to find love, and that marriage does not always guarantee love. But... if he were really that unhappy, he could leave. Your beliefs on divorce should not affect him, unless he has the same beliefs. Then, you should ask yourself: If he claims to be religious, too, then why is he cheating on his wife with another woman? If he lied about the state of his relationship, what else has he lied about? If, somehow, you were to get a chance to be with him, what is to keep him from cheating on you? ...Just some things to consider...
2006-06-18 23:58:42 · answer #4 · answered by Angela W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer these questions.Well, you and God.talk to Him(God) and give it to him to decide.personally, I believe that if you are really that religious and want to bring that into it, how can you NOT believe in divorce...but believe in commiting adultry with a married man??That does not make sense.I don't think God hates us, or won't forgive us for getting a divorce.Sometimes, we fall out of love, or other things happen , and God dosen't want us to be miserable in a unhappy, unhealthy marriage.So, if you want to make it right, get him to get the divorce, then , and only then, is he a single man and is ready to be in a relationship with you.Then, all is okay.Problems solved.Good luck.Pray and let Him tell you what to do.Don't worry about what "we"think.
2006-06-18 23:55:51 · answer #5 · answered by missyandgordon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to walk away. There is no future for you as long as he is married. Wait for the divorce before you even consider starting anything. And was it him who told you there is no sex? I would highly question that statement. Men have needs. God would say adultery is wrong.
2006-06-18 23:51:39 · answer #6 · answered by jaemers24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know that he is telling you the truth? Do you ever wonder what he tells his wife? Don't stay in any relationship where you have to sneak around and deceive people. He made his choice to be married and YOU deserve a man who is SINGLE.
2006-06-19 00:01:58 · answer #7 · answered by butterfly_grl74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know it's wrong or you wouldn't ask the question. You're looking for someone to tell you it's okay. Men very rarely leave their wives for someone on the side. Why should he? Think about it. How do you know he's telling you the truth? Why hasn't he left in 4 years if he is so unhappy?
2006-06-18 23:55:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very wrong i am seperated from my wife right now and she is seeing someone else and its killing me. You being in the picture is ruining any chance they have of staying togeather. Marriage is not a game like people seem to think. They promissed forever to eachother they need couciling and you need a single person.
2006-06-19 00:02:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For being very religious, you should know better than to mess with a married man and believe what he says. Hell even non religious people know better!
2006-06-18 23:52:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋