why is it that if when you are miserable, you get the whole family feeling that way? We moved and my wife hates it here, wants to move back. The fact has made my life miserable and now I'm fighting depression.
Just want to know why some women do this (most of them I met are like this).
2006-06-18 16:44:38 · 15 answers · asked by n9wff 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No this is not okay at all. As women we need to control or emotions and our tounges. Just like the men and husbands do too. Goes both ways you know. Women usually set the pace of the mood in the home with how she acts and how she sets the pace for the day and mood.
Some women do this when they are mood and on the monthly time and if they are depressed or upset over something. Does not make it right though and sometimes the husband upsets them and they do it then too! Alof of things can cause a woman to react like this just like a man will too!
2006-06-18 16:50:13 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 13⤊ 1⤋
I'm guilty. I don't know, but when I get upset,I get vocal. I don't let it go,and I get upset about any little thing after the initial . Why, I couldn't tell you. I realize though that it is selfish and immature. Misery loves company? I try to get away,even if it's just in the room. I do calm down a little bit,but it's better if I leave the house for an hour or so.Things don't seem so bad when I return. I'm sorry that you have to be on the receiving end. Talk to your wife about how this is really weighing you down.Ask her what you can do to help diffuse the situation, what you need to do when she gets angry. For me,sometimes my husband take the kids out for a while,so that everyone can cool off. I always try to remember that words and actions I say and do in anger cannot be taken back after things have smoothed over, this helps me,"control" my actions a little bit more.I hope things get better for you. Talk and come up with a plan on how to deal with her anger. Best Wishes.
2006-06-18 17:40:03 · answer #2 · answered by gucciandlouis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is intentional. Sometimes when you are sad about something like moving when your entire life has changed, it just kind of leaks over into everything. Have you tried to talk to her, hold her, and let her cry? Being a supportive husband can go a LOOONG way. I agree with another poster that she sounds lonely. Is she a stay at home mom or does she work? Either way, it may just be that she hasn't found any friends and misses her old ones, but it is often much harder on stay at home moms because they don't even have work to turn to. Those who do work may hate their new jobs, too. just some possibilities. I hope things get better.
2006-06-18 17:45:51 · answer #3 · answered by mountain_laurel1183 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't want to be miserable alone, these are called toxic people. I unfortunately am one of these people. I am, however, trying to change this, because I am missing the good stuff, so every day, I wake up and find something that makes me happy some days are harder than others, but I am getting there. I hope that you can do the same. Sometimes if you change so will your wife. Good Luck.
2006-06-18 16:49:09 · answer #4 · answered by buxomkity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know i have found the same thing in myself. i know its not the place that makes me misrible (although it doesnt help) its that i dont have "my nitch" the kids have daycare and the hubby has his friends and i dont have anything. i have the few people i talk to online and nothing else. I personally need the time to just sit down and relax and be retarded with my other half. and he thinks its ok to spend 10-15 min doing that before he tries to "run to the bedroom" the goofy dorking times is why we feel in love... i guess give her the nitch. include her in goofy stupid stuff. do the stuff you love to do but make her the main reason you do it. you know. just be a little more attentive. I cant speak for your better half but i know thats what would make me happy right now.
2006-06-18 16:59:33 · answer #5 · answered by ksuccubis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If mom ain't happy nobody happy! Kidding, actually if we express our feelings of unhappiness usually our husbands or kids will feel the same because mom is mainly the "heart" of every family.
2006-06-18 16:51:17 · answer #6 · answered by gypsilee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to make new friends sounds like she is lonely,tell her your willing to move back for her happiness but she should give the new place a second chance. and in the meanwile get out see what the new town has to offer....
2006-06-18 17:24:09 · answer #7 · answered by corvairchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rather me be hot and ready with a clean house when he comes home from work.
2016-05-20 01:26:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are like this as well. It's not just married women!
2006-06-18 16:55:18 · answer #9 · answered by tooyoung2bagrannybabe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not married any more, but can tell you that she probably got comfortable in last home.
2006-06-18 19:24:50 · answer #10 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋