my friend loves a guy, he is sweet to her, he has never been rude to her parents, he has liked her since the 4th grade and he is in 11th now, they are ment for each other and her parents hate him! his mom is horrible to him and tells about how horrible he is to her mom so her mom thinks he is a horrible kid which isnt true! they love each other and are only a year apart in age she has tried talking to her mom but her mom wont listen and has cut off all contact with him it is tearing her apart what should she do about not seeing him and her mom?
2006-06-18 16:20:28 · 8 answers · asked by so_what_if_im_a_blonde 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Don't ever, EVER let something come between you and the one you love. Fight like hell, do whatever you have to to keep the person you love by your side. Trust me, controlling parents are the WORST in relationships, she's getting old enough to where she has to make her own choices and mistakes, if they are mistakes, so she needs to cut the chord and do what she has to to be with him. Tell her to talk to her mom and get to know the guy, make her see what it's doing to her daughter. If his mom hates him, maybe she's a bad mother. If she cares about her daughter, she will let her be with him. Maybe she doesn't know how much it sucks to have someone tear you away from your true love. Just get her to stand up for herself and voice her opinion, if she lets her mom control her now, she'll be controlling her for the REST of her life. And let's face it, that's just not cool at all.
2006-06-18 20:15:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go...Juniors and Sophomores in High School should enjoy their years together, and not get wrapped up in serious dating and going steady.
These years are fleeting, and the rest of your lives await. There will be other chances for true love.
Let the friendship remain at school, but abide by parental wishes. The time will come soon enough that you will be out of the house and on your own, free from parental demands.
As soon as you think you are free, demands will turn into responsibilities, and it is all part of adulthood.
Red said it best on That 70's Show:
"The first rule to being a man is, you gotta spend your life doing crap you don't want to do."
Until then, enjoy the middle teen years as best as you can!
2006-06-18 16:36:21 · answer #2 · answered by loaferpost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His mom must be a real loser to ruin her son's reputation like that, whether it's true or not. Your friends mom sounds pretty judgemental too. However, it's her job and her desire to protect her daughter and see her have a joyful adulthood.
I would say since she is only a Sophmore, she will have to respect her mother's wishes.......however, I'm sure they can see each other in school for now and when old enough continue their relationship, if it's meant to be.
2006-06-18 16:29:12 · answer #3 · answered by purplewings123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u know mothers have instincts about guys and if her family objects to this guy so much maybe they see something she doesnt see. if the guy was really a good guy then why on earth would they have a problem with him , every mother wants her child to end up with a nice partner . i think ur friend should at least hear her parents out on the reasons why they dont like him. then make up her mind from there
2006-06-18 16:30:57 · answer #4 · answered by jojo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest with you my mom did the same thing and i went with my heart and guess what??? I had a horrible eight year marriage that the damage will last me for a lifetime. now i know mothers don't just say things to get on your nerves they do it because they know...
2006-06-18 16:36:17 · answer #5 · answered by babygirl29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love him anyway and ask your mom why she hates him.
2006-06-18 16:33:23 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her it is over, and then sneak around.she wont get it, and life is too short to fight, sneak around until your 18 and if you want marry him, cause it is your life, and she gave it to you, parents are human, and they arent always right.
2006-06-18 16:25:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make time to see him away from her. and don't let her choose who you are happy with, thats here issue. just blow her off and keep seeing him. its not her right to choose your mate. it's not disrespectful for you to not let her controll your life, so live it how you choose.
2006-06-18 16:32:12 · answer #8 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋