I'm lost in a maze of grief, hurt, anger and jealousy after my marriage ended. I feel that I will never get through this, can't imagine being happy again. Have you been in the same situation and what did you do?
2006-06-18 15:57:41 · 11 answers · asked by Lotte T 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
a long time back..before i met my husband..i honestly never,ever thought i'd be able to even get out of bed after this affair ended..it took everything i had in me to go on..friends helped,but not in the middle of the night..i just knew i wasn't going to get over it in a day..i took it minute by minute at times..time..time is the only healer..i could tell you about all the thingd i did to not be alone..i had a friend that i could vent & spew to..then,i knew i reached a point when i could go on..it took time& a willingness to be better. you'll find the things that work for you ..but it will get better,,you can im me anytime on yahoo-nightsky45202003
2006-06-18 16:12:25 · answer #1 · answered by nightsky45202003 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 22:04:00 · answer #2 · answered by Alfreda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, right at a year ago this month, and it still hurts. The prayers and the fact that I have kids who are here for me along with keeping busy, has all been a positive factor in my life. God will help the pain lessen as time progresses, and you'll take it to analyze so much of what actually transpired thru the bad marriage. Things happened on both ends, but I'll bet that the main issues to cause the finalization were not yours. This is obvious from your information. Up till this date, I didn't want to ever have anything to do with my ex. Only being a God fearing person, that's not the way to handle this I have to forgive and forget to be a good Christian. So, in order to get over what's done, and to go on with my life, I'm trying to do the right thing. As long as he don't get any ideas, cause things won't go any farther. Anyway, prayer, patience, friends, family, staying busy, and God have been my ways of dealing with getting over a 30 yr marriage ending.
2006-06-18 17:26:30 · answer #3 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is divert yourself. Rent funny movies or go out to the movies. Do not rent drama or romantic movies because it's going to stir up old feelings, that's why you should watch funny movies. You can also go to a comedy club with your friends. I recommend the comedy club and funny movies because laughing makes you feel good and it's therapeutic to get over negative feelings. You can also go out to karaoke clubs with your friends for a good time. Take up an activity or a class that interests you where you know other men are going to be there. Like a pottery class is good but you're not going to meet other men there because it's mostly for women. The possibilities are endless. Your heart will mend overtime and each day will get easier. Even getting out of the house and taking a drive during the day will take your mind off of things.
2006-06-18 16:09:53 · answer #4 · answered by choosinghappiness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I might not be able to judge ur pain that well as I have nevr been thru such phase in life but i can suggest u to get over all the negative feelings by going out with friends, meeting people n making friends. And at times when u feel disheartened u should pray and talk to God. Never let negative powers take on you, stay positive n good things will happen in the times to come.
God bless
2006-06-18 16:09:03 · answer #5 · answered by goldeneye 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I'm right smack dab in the middle of it too. I keep VERY busy. I make a looong list of things to do everyday to keep my mind off of the hurt and anquish. I've started walking in the evening and excercising a bit. I've lost almost 30 lbs. and I'm starting to feel damn good about myself now. I work full time and stick to my lists every-single-day. Belive it or not, people tell me they are amazed at how strong of a woman I am to be able to go through this alone (he left me a note and took off...leaving bills ALL OVER THE PLACE that I had to pay!). You can do it. And you'll feel better for doing it. Take care.
2006-06-18 18:57:30 · answer #6 · answered by carolscreation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the time to heal and get past the pain of it. Seek help and counseling if need be. You wil get through this but right now you cannot see past the pain. There is a future for you and in time you will slowly start to get past the pain. My wife and I are here if you ever need to talk. I wish you the best in getting past this and here comes a hug your way and you will be in our prayers. I hope that God will help you through this and give you the strength you need to endure.
2006-06-18 16:10:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been in the same situation 4 yrs ago. I just cling to the Lord's grace every now and then to survive. don't feel down because of it. instead, go out and have fun with friends. make your self more busy in other good and more useful things, instead of thinking of what happened and be depressed. try to re invent yourself by making yourself more beautiful and attractive. this will uplift your spirit.
2006-06-18 16:40:54 · answer #8 · answered by mineater_68 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first get rid of everything in the house that reminds you of him,pack it up put it in the basement, move on, there are other men out there you have a computer,try the personalls, dont sit at home on the weekends feeling sorry for yourself. go out with your single friends get back in the dating scene, picture yourself before you met your ex you were happy,!!!!! and you will be happy again. remember he is now your ex for a good reason
2006-06-18 19:17:36 · answer #9 · answered by corvairchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will heal your hurts if you open with your self. don't blame your self on what happened to your marriedge. Be confidence someday you are going to find someone who is better than him in anything, so make your self to an attractive woman ever than you were before.
Life still goes on...so you still have much works to do...YOUR DREAM...!!!
2006-06-18 16:21:31 · answer #10 · answered by Fie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋