ok well me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost 2 years and i have been having trouble trusting him he says i am the only girl he wants and looks at and thinks is sexy but i dont believe him and i try so hard but i cant like something in me is like yea right i love him so much its just that i have low self esteem and i think he looks at girls better than me i dont know what to do! help!
2006-06-18 15:02:32 · 18 answers · asked by Caylee's Mommy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Look..I am answering this in the pre-teen and teenager section so I think I can say this without hesitation...neither one of you have ANY business getting married...so..you REALLY need to worry a lot less...I understand you want to be respected and I understand if you feel that he is hurting your feelings. But you NEED to KNOW how GOOD of a person you really are NOW and you need to know that you are going to be single hopefully for another 5 years minimum...so...take that into consideration...if you are STILL jealous...tell him..look..I get it that we're dating and while we're young you still want to check out other girls. I DON'T have to like that you do that...but at least be more descreet..don't do it in front of me..you DON'T owe me anything..we're not married..but if you do it in front of me, it is disrespectful to me and I feel bad as though our 2 years is not good enough for you. So, if you feel you have to look, I am giving you permission, but if you REALLY want me to feel comfortable with you, then please know that I won't feel that way if you look at girls, especially around me. i think that you can at least do THAT for me.
it is the common look but don't touch..the other one that works is..one look(at the same girl) ok..he's a guy...2 or more...he may be a guy but not a very good bf especially if not discreet.
2006-06-18 20:13:00 · answer #1 · answered by juanes addicion 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
If you can't trust him then you shouldn't be with him. but before you do something like break up with him talk to him about it. also consider two things. 1) he's with you. if he didn't want you then he wouldn't be there. 2) as long as he's just looking there isn't a problem. Both of you guys can look with out any other issues because you should be coming "home" to each other.
2006-06-18 15:54:07 · answer #2 · answered by faithful4ever13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he probly looks at other girls because they appeal to him, try mixing it up a little bit, go out to a nice dinner or something that will keep him interested.. Also when he says that your the only girl he thinks is sexy he's lieing:)
2006-06-18 15:31:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, 2 years is a long way alreadi. so mayb have more trust.
this can b done by simple sitting down and havin a serious talk with him. discuss about e future of e relationship and no what he wants. trust is essential in a relationship so remember to have lots of that.
i agree that trust is earned, so if he haven't done anything to justify that he doesnt love u or is cheating u, u should trust him.
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2006-06-18 15:28:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problems,but it's because my dad left me when I was little and ever since then i can't trust guys,but the person I like says hes not my dad hes not going to leave me.my dad left my mom and me and my sisters and brother for a woman and her daughter.But I say if this guy loves me he won't cheat,and if he does it's so over,which i warned him about,but he says i'm just looking!guys r like that!but don't feel bad I feel your pain!
2006-06-18 16:47:25 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Mariah™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur boyfriend is not blind hes gunna look at other good looking girls, but that doesnt mean hes gunna act on it. u need to trust him, when hes tells u things. u said u have low self esteem well maybe its u putting urself down and blaming it on him, or looking for sum 1 to blame
2006-06-18 15:53:22 · answer #6 · answered by Missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl all men check out other girls, there's nothing wrong with just looking, as long as he don't touch ya know?? Even my husband checks out other girls, but I completely trust him.. give the guy a chance
2006-06-18 15:18:38 · answer #7 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he do something to make you not trust him? And how old are the two of you?
Maybe have a good heart to heart talk and ask him if he is feeling tr aped and would like to date others..It is good to know up front if he has these feelings.Let him know your feelings.
2006-06-18 15:46:44 · answer #8 · answered by Audury H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you diagnoisted your own problem. You have low self esteem, so you don't know how to trust him. It is just something you have to work at.
2006-06-18 15:09:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you look at other boys? Honey...men are visual...they like to look, doesn't mean they think another girl is prettier or better than you...just means he likes to look.
Trust is earned, not given...and it is a two way street. If you expect him to never look at another girl...then you have to hold yourself to never looking at another boy...
2006-06-18 15:28:15 · answer #10 · answered by icey shine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋