Let it be or step up and say something?

Question

To me this is an ethics question and statement.

I see this quite a bit from members of a club, they either keep quiet about things that bother them then complain in private but never do anything about the problems or, some say something about the issues at hand and they then become the "bad guy"!

It doesn't matter what issues regarding this question and statement, the point I am trying to make here is this, do YOU "let it be" more often than not or do YOU step up and say something more often than not.

I have learned to "pick my battles" after getting burned by the group for standing up for what I believe. Personally, the only time I speak up now is for the flora and fauna on our land since it and they don't have a voice with which to speak. Even this has peoples panties in a bunch!

Cutie Chick, the question was explained. Do you let it be or say something?

I explained my opinion and feelings on this very personal issue. It is about interaction with your fellow human beings and how letting it be or saying something affects your decisision making.

Answer 1

Very smart thought. I have taught my children to pick their battles.
Oh they are 24-30 yrs old - not children but mine. My son is a Ranger in Army ( his battle is safety of democracy), My youngest,( a mother of twin sons, like you is an environmentalist - she wants her children to have a beautiful earth like she does, my oldest is a stay at home mother that has chosen children's rights to fight for. I am very political but the plight of the homeless - making sure they are fed & have a safe place to go is my fight that I work with the most. Now with my son, I am involved with the Military much more. You are right, we must pick our battles & fight with all we have. I love the United States of America & must work harder to defend it from enemies outside & within our borders. Thanks for reminding me.

It is hard to tell by our battles but we are a whole family of Republicans.

Answer 2

There are times when speaking up is important, mainly if it involves other people in a negative way. It's silly to speak up if the problem on concerns that one person no matter how much they complain about it, and no matter how much it may bother you. The best way to handle that is to talk to them about it personally about how thier negative additude effects both you and them.

For example if Joe Blow is upset that his GF dumped him 2 years ago, and he complains about it everyday rather than "get in their face" tell him how his additude is making you feel (politely), and give him a word of encouragement; or advice if you are able (if you don't know the answer don't make one up because it might make things worse).

If, however, some guy has a negative additude because he doesn't like how everyone looks you should speak up to him by first telling him how his actions are effecting you and evereyone in the room, and if he doesn't stop ask him to leave.

Speaking up is important if it involves you or other in a negative way, but "getting in peoples' faces" makes anyone look like a fool. Just remember to take a badday with a grain of salt.

Answer 3

It'd depend on the degree of the issue complained about and the venue. There's a danger of becoming a "harpie" or "crusader" if one only hears objection or outrage from someone. Being cutoff in traffic is irritating, but someone being an active danger to other driver's another.
With more "intellectual" type issues, there'll be times when objection's called for, but often overenthusiasm's counterproductive, cuz the objectors are seen as harpies, and their message thus ignored.

Answer 4

How long have you known this woman and her kids? I'm assuming not overly long. These kids are so young and impressionable that the 1st male that spends any time with them, they will call them "daddy", you happen to be the only male in their lives. If I were you, I'd talk with your wife and see what she thinks, if it's ok with her, then yea continue let them calling you "daddy", if not then ask them to call you by another name. I think you need to let all the kids grow into seeing you in that role for real, not just beacuse your some male in their life, right now your just a male presence, but in time, they will REALLY consider you their father if you do right by them. Hope this helps.

Answer 5

As long as it affects something important to the society you live in, then of course! Free voice is the hallmark of a democracy.

Answer 6

Your "question" isn't really a question. You explained your opinion, never asking a question. You should edit and refer your question so you can get real answeres on this.