He says he is only curious, but this is not the only time i know he has been to these internet sites. Should i be concerned there is cheating going on?
2006-06-18 14:39:32 · 22 answers · asked by pure_24kt 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this is sneaky but here is what you do make a profile for your self dont tell him then contact him after a few weeks of this send him a email saying gotcha not only will he see your his perfect match he will feel like the bigest fool ever.
2006-06-18 14:46:38 · answer #1 · answered by Peace 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about the cheating part--yet. However, I would voice my concern to him about this, and would ask him to refrain from this.......This type of entertainment was listed last year as one of the top 20 reasons that people distrusted spouses-internet personals/on-line dating. I think that even if there is no cheating going on as of yet that the possibility is very high. I would not be comfortable with my husband doing this and I would not engage in it either.
2006-06-18 15:04:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I know (most of the answers) say it's 'red flag time..' but.. I don't know. I'm older 53/F and I just got involved w/the computer and yes.. I write men. I tell 'em I am married. (Does he? Good thing to ask him.) I know what my daughter says is kinda true.. she and her husband think 'it is cheating IF you would mind your spouse doing the same thing/whatever you do on the computer w/strangers.' Computers are just all over the place. It's kind of a fantasy world I find.. We can say outrageous things on here. We can be better (hell, at anything ), better looking.. lie a little if we want. It's just too tempting. I think he is just curious (as I guess he said.) Some of them are x-rated (that's another subject.) Someone wrote it's 'mental cheating.' I find that an interesting concept (got to think on it some more.) I find I am married (the 'flash' went out of the marriage a while back.. I am more educated which bugs the hell out of me sometimes) because it is 'comfortable.' I am older; taht's the way it is. I accept it. Was he on them before he met you? I wonder too. It's kind of habit forming. You are his 'reality..' I say don't blow it all out of proportion.. g'luck hon
2006-06-18 14:57:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know where you live but hope there are gay youth groups near to you. I think this would offer you the chance to meet people in an environment that is likely to be much safer than internet personals pages. I don't mean to sound patronising, as you'll know some of the pitfalls of the web - and people who lie etc. on there. Real people are easier to fathom out, than internet presentations of people - even with photo's of people. In the UK the age of consent for gay males is 16, so you'll need to consider this too: not that you mention any desire for sex in the near future, just to get to know others. There is a national gay 'switchboard' which can help answer queries on where to go. I won't post their number, as there are alot of bigots who troll around this site and others. It's based in London, although there are others around the UK too - assuming you're in the UK. Be careful and Good luck! Rob
2016-05-20 01:10:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should be concerned.
You should figure out what you want to achieve in your marriage and plot a course toward that. Your husband's reasons for wanting to stray might be very simple and might be solved with a lot of conversation and some spicier sex, or they might be extremely complex.
Either way, you're the one who will have to take the next step. You need to tread carefully here. I'd suggest doing nothing until you've figured out what future you really want to cause.
2006-06-18 15:11:28 · answer #5 · answered by jackmack65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would keep a watchful eye on him i bet he is cheating on you already,how do you know hes not gone on a date with any of these women the next time you catch him answering personals i would leave for a few days let him know you are not going to tolerate it give him a chance to see what he has to loose
2006-06-18 18:57:21 · answer #6 · answered by corvairchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotional cheating.
2006-06-18 14:43:26 · answer #7 · answered by annastasia1955ca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup concerned........Yup cheating. Obviously he's not satisfied at home.......Or why would he be 'curious'?
Do you see the red flags? Do you hear the bells going off?
2006-06-18 14:46:53 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN! Why is he curious??? I would be more than concerned. You should have warning bells going off all over!
2006-06-18 14:43:09 · answer #9 · answered by fighter1174 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if you can be there while he does these searches. If he has a problem with you being there, there's a problem. If you can watch, there's nothing to be alarmed over. Make him make you a part of his doing. Get involved, you can both learn something together. :)
2006-06-18 14:44:02 · answer #10 · answered by Stars-Moon-Sun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋